How Do White Men Feel About Black Women?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't generally find black. or oriental, women attractive. There have been and are exceptions.

There are, as a whole, cultural differences in both groups.

Are you trying to speak oriental?

[Anonymous]

while i've dated and remain open to dating white guys, i can honestly say that i have always been caught off guard when approached by one. with black men, 90% of the time, i know pretty quickly if a man is interested. with white men, it never crosses my mind. i don't know if its because i'm not looking for or expecting it or if their approach is just different than what i'm used to. or perhaps its a numbers game. i meet black men regularly whereas white men only express clear interest (that i'm aware of) about 4-5 times a year. i interact with many daily and its usually platonic/professional. with black men, it usually feels like interest is obvious in body language and eye contact, then flirtation, followed by him finding a reason to sustain dialogue over a longer period of time. example...we're attending the same conference. he strikes up a conversation related to the discussion then finds commonalities and a reason for us to keep in touch. once we chat by phone, he steps up the flirtation and then makes a move. i love that!

with the white guys i've met, its usually 0 to 60 in little time and i'm completely caught off guard once a move is made. again, it could be that i'm misreading signals but i'm always puzzled which can read as disinterest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:while i've dated and remain open to dating white guys, i can honestly say that i have always been caught off guard when approached by one. with black men, 90% of the time, i know pretty quickly if a man is interested. with white men, it never crosses my mind. i don't know if its because i'm not looking for or expecting it or if their approach is just different than what i'm used to. or perhaps its a numbers game. i meet black men regularly whereas white men only express clear interest (that i'm aware of) about 4-5 times a year. i interact with many daily and its usually platonic/professional. with black men, it usually feels like interest is obvious in body language and eye contact, then flirtation, followed by him finding a reason to sustain dialogue over a longer period of time. example...we're attending the same conference. he strikes up a conversation related to the discussion then finds commonalities and a reason for us to keep in touch. once we chat by phone, he steps up the flirtation and then makes a move. i love that!

with the white guys i've met, its usually 0 to 60 in little time and i'm completely caught off guard once a move is made. again, it could be that i'm misreading signals but i'm always puzzled which can read as disinterest.

agreed

[Anonymous]

I always assume white guys approach because of some fetish, not because they are interested in a relationship with me.

[Anonymous]

^^^^ probably because of the history of slavery in this country. White men had sex with black women ALL the time! It accounts for the ranges of complexions in the AA community.

Whenever this question is asked I chuckle. White men AND men tend to be sexually attracted to Black people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think that men tend to believe black women are high maintenance. i.e.: won't go swimming, preoccupied with their hair, etc.

You would need to find one that has a high maintenance mother, then they would be used to it.

I am not high maintenance (white), and DHs mom is a farm girl. I am anything but, however not by any means high maintenance. i.e.: I shower every day, his mother did not believe in it.

ITA that most white men with money would not pay for the weaves or hair extensions or hair maintenance.

I don't think you know very many white men with money. They'll certainly pay for boob jobs, botox, gym membership and lipo, why not weaves or extensions?

[phone]

Seen them pay for many boobs jobs.

You pulled up a two year old post for that comment?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't generally find black. or oriental, women attractive. There have been and are exceptions.

There are, as a whole, cultural differences in both groups.

Are you trying to speak oriental?

I used oriental on purpose. The vast majority in the U.S. when they hear that term think eastern Asia to include Japan, China, Korea....

Have a fantastic day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I always assume white guys approach because of some fetish, not because they are interested in a relationship with me.

But be sure to bemoan the lack of available, interested, and functional Black men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I suspect that the operative terms are men and women: <insert colour here> men find <insert colour here> women attractive/desirable/interesting/spouse material. Individuals vary, en masse, not really.

I agree. I find a lot of black women very attractive, but god help you if you want to date one. You had better be black or they are not going to even say hello.

Not true at all. I'm biracial and I've always had a preference for white men. I've been happily married to one for 17 years. Most of my black female friends have white husbands as well. I know plenty of black women (those from upper class backgrounds) who like white men. Even though we find black men like Edris Elba and Taye Diggs attractive. We wouldn't choose them over Henry Cavill or Michael Fassbender.

[Anonymous]

Eww, Fassbender is gross. I find many white men attractive but he looks like a junkie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I suspect that the operative terms are men and women: <insert colour here> men find <insert colour here> women attractive/desirable/interesting/spouse material. Individuals vary, en masse, not really.

I agree. I find a lot of black women very attractive, but god help you if you want to date one. You had better be black or they are not going to even say hello.

Not true at all. I'm biracial and I've always had a preference for white men. I've been happily married to one for 17 years. Most of my black female friends have white husbands as well. I know plenty of black women (those from upper class backgrounds) who like white men. Even though we find black men like Edris Elba and Taye Diggs attractive. We wouldn't choose them over Henry Cavill or Michael Fassbender.

Sorry you lost me with those last couple sentences. I can't think of any white man I would choose over Idris Elba and Taye Diggs

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH thinks that most Black women carry knives. He doesn't want to get cut, so he has always avoided contact as much as possible.

I really hope you are not serious?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH thinks that most Black women carry knives. He doesn't want to get cut, so he has always avoided contact as much as possible.

I really hope you are not serious?

Oh come on. Have a sense of humor

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a black woman who is extremely attracted to white men.

They absolutely fascinate me--for reasons that I'll keep to myself.


But I keep reading that white men are averse to dating black women. How true is that?

OP, you may like this group. http://www.beyondblackwhite.com Beyond Black and White is group for black women who are open to interracial unions. Most of the members in the group are married and in long term relationships. I think you will find like minded women and men there who can assist you better. However, the group discuss other things like politics, empowerment, health, travel, fashion, beauty, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think that men tend to believe black women are high maintenance. i.e.: won't go swimming, preoccupied with their hair, etc.

You would need to find one that has a high maintenance mother, then they would be used to it.

I am not high maintenance (white), and DHs mom is a farm girl. I am anything but, however not by any means high maintenance. i.e.: I shower every day, his mother did not believe in it.

ITA that most white men with money would not pay for the weaves or hair extensions or hair maintenance.

I don't think you know very many white men with money. They'll certainly pay for boob jobs, botox, gym membership and lipo, why not weaves or extensions?

[phone]

Seen them pay for many boobs jobs.

You pulled up a two year old post for that comment?

I thought the same thing. Random.