17 y/o's best friend smokes pot with parents... help!

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Anonymous wrote:OP here with more updates! I went over to the friend's home last night. They live in a well-maintained home and seemed very understanding. Her mom is Buddhist, so there was incense burning in the living area of the house. It might be because of this that I didn't notice an overwhelming marijuana odor, but overall the house was clean and well-kept. They did have a shelf dedicated to paraphernalia like DD said, but it was on the bottom of a bookshelf with glass doors covering it up. Otherwise, no Bob Marley posters or rasta colors or anything like that.

I learned that the two moved to the area from a liberal college town, which explains their departure from the typically conservative MD family. I also think this is why DD and her friend get along so well, as they both aren't satisfied with the "typical" culture of MoCo girls. They're into stuff like organic food and meditation (no judgement, of course!), but overall seemed like responsible, if unconventional, parents. The dad works a 9-5 job in hospitality, and seemed to genuinely regret smoking with the two girls. He said he understands that pot affects everyone differently, and that just because he finds it helpful for him and his daughter doesn't mean that he should be influencing or enabling my DD to start using. His story also matched up 100% with DD's. While I don't think I'm ready to trust DD in their house just yet, I think that going over with DD for dinner once in a while wouldn't be a bad idea.

I still think you are crazy. No way no how would my kid ever step into a house again where the father had smoked pot with my DD.

+2!

That dad is probably sleeping with your DD and laughing at you behind your back. If they are so "organic" and "hippy", why wouldn't they ask for your consent? There is no way that they thought that you would be ok with it. For god's sake, parent.

No offense, but this is why dads are useful. No interested father is going to allow his daughter to smoke pot with someone else's dad. This whole post is so sad. I have so many friends like your DD. Came from broken homes and looked to be doing fine. Got to 17 and fell apart. Then the stories of abuse come out, and all the other inappropriate experiences because their mothers were completely oblivious.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here with more updates! I went over to the friend's home last night. They live in a well-maintained home and seemed very understanding. Her mom is Buddhist, so there was incense burning in the living area of the house. It might be because of this that I didn't notice an overwhelming marijuana odor, but overall the house was clean and well-kept. They did have a shelf dedicated to paraphernalia like DD said, but it was on the bottom of a bookshelf with glass doors covering it up. Otherwise, no Bob Marley posters or rasta colors or anything like that.

I learned that the two moved to the area from a liberal college town, which explains their departure from the typically conservative MD family. I also think this is why DD and her friend get along so well, as they both aren't satisfied with the "typical" culture of MoCo girls. They're into stuff like organic food and meditation (no judgement, of course!), but overall seemed like responsible, if unconventional, parents. The dad works a 9-5 job in hospitality, and seemed to genuinely regret smoking with the two girls. He said he understands that pot affects everyone differently, and that just because he finds it helpful for him and his daughter doesn't mean that he should be influencing or enabling my DD to start using. His story also matched up 100% with DD's. While I don't think I'm ready to trust DD in their house just yet, I think that going over with DD for dinner once in a while wouldn't be a bad idea.[/quote]

I still think you are crazy. No way no how would my kid ever step into a house again where the father had smoked pot with my DD. [/quote]

+2![/quote]

That dad is probably sleeping with your DD and laughing at you behind your back. If they are so "organic" and "hippy", why wouldn't they ask for your consent? There is no way that they thought that you would be ok with it. For god's sake, parent.

No offense, but this is why dads are useful. No interested father is going to allow his daughter to smoke pot with someone else's dad. This whole post is so sad. I have so many friends like your DD. Came from broken homes and looked to be doing fine. Got to 17 and fell apart. Then the stories of abuse come out, and all the other inappropriate experiences because their mothers were completely oblivious.[/quote]

+10,000! Don't feign denial. The BF's father is a creepy old lech. Act like my Dad would have done and get that guy out of your DD's life.

[Anonymous]

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previous pp (17:00) here again. OP: I can't stop thinking about your poor daughter. Please think logically. These hippy dippy parents live in the middle of a conservative area. Look on this board ffs. These are the parents he lives around. Do you think that they have ever smoked weed with anyone else's children? They haven't. Because they know that other parents won't approve. So why did he do it with your daughter? You think it's because she's "mature" or "alternative". Jesus christ, wake up! He sees your daughter as vulnerable. This is nothing to do with being alternative vs being a trendy blonde cheerleader. Your daughter is lonely and unprotected. You are insecure and a people pleaser. The extended family is unstable and high heeds. No father around. Clearly no strong male role models because they probably would have had to be restrained after finding out that some old lech is supplying your daughter with drugs in order to make himself seem cool.

OP - did you grow up with a father around? Did you grow up in a stable family? Can you think of any stable families that you know. People and fathers you know really well. Please call them and ask them what they think. My dad is a peaceful guy, who is gentle and never raises his voice. But there is no way in hell he would ever have stood by and watched something like this happen. This is bad parenting.

[Anonymous]

What kind of damn sense does an adult have to be smoking pot with another parent's kid without asking permission? None! They seem like dumbasses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Call the police , the guy may be using weed to rape your daughter

LOL!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here with more updates! I went over to the friend's home last night. They live in a well-maintained home and seemed very understanding. Her mom is Buddhist, so there was incense burning in the living area of the house. It might be because of this that I didn't notice an overwhelming marijuana odor, but overall the house was clean and well-kept. They did have a shelf dedicated to paraphernalia like DD said, but it was on the bottom of a bookshelf with glass doors covering it up. Otherwise, no Bob Marley posters or rasta colors or anything like that.

I learned that the two moved to the area from a liberal college town, which explains their departure from the typically conservative MD family. I also think this is why DD and her friend get along so well, as they both aren't satisfied with the "typical" culture of MoCo girls. They're into stuff like organic food and meditation (no judgement, of course!), but overall seemed like responsible, if unconventional, parents. The dad works a 9-5 job in hospitality, and seemed to genuinely regret smoking with the two girls. He said he understands that pot affects everyone differently, and that just because he finds it helpful for him and his daughter doesn't mean that he should be influencing or enabling my DD to start using. His story also matched up 100% with DD's. While I don't think I'm ready to trust DD in their house just yet, I think that going over with DD for dinner once in a while wouldn't be a bad idea.

I still think you are crazy. No way no how would my kid ever step into a house again where the father had smoked pot with my DD.

+2!

That dad is probably sleeping with your DD and laughing at you behind your back. If they are so "organic" and "hippy", why wouldn't they ask for your consent? There is no way that they thought that you would be ok with it. For god's sake, parent.

No offense, but this is why dads are useful. No interested father is going to allow his daughter to smoke pot with someone else's dad. This whole post is so sad. I have so many friends like your DD. Came from broken homes and looked to be doing fine. Got to 17 and fell apart. Then the stories of abuse come out, and all the other inappropriate experiences because their mothers were completely oblivious.

OP. I assume you are intelligent enough not to listen to these nuts. These are your typical DC area hysterical, paranoid, uptight, helicopter moms.

Best of luck OP. I think you did great!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: OP. I assume you are intelligent enough not to listen to these nuts. These are your typical DC area hysterical, paranoid, uptight, helicopter moms.

Best of luck OP. I think you did great!

OP, I'll second this. You ARE appropriately protective of your daughter.