Is it rude to invite people to the pool but make them pay the guest fee?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Once or twice, the member pays. every week - guest pays. Sort of the difference between issuing an invitation and couple of friends mutually deciding to go to the pool.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Once or twice, the member pays. every week - guest pays. Sort of the difference between issuing an invitation and couple of friends mutually deciding to go to the pool.

+1

I find this so much harder bc once you are in the habit of paying a couple times, how do you suddenly ask them to pay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I am already paying $500 a summer for membership and that is the full extent of our pool budget.

I'm sorry, but that is the most ridiculous excuse I have ever heard. If you are in a situation where you can shell out $500 for a pool membership, I am guessing that you can find $15 from another part of your family budget to pay for your guests. If you don't want to pay because you feel you shouldn't have to, that's one thing, but don't pretend you don't have the money.

You all are funny! I guess you'd rather be not invited.
Oh well.

I'd rather not be invited by an ungracious cheapskate ... if you pay the $500 to join but honestly can't afford $15 for the guests, you probably don't have any business spending the $500 in the first place if things are that tight.

At least the first time, the guests ought to be your guests, then they can cover it... IMO/IME

[Anonymous]

i would pay the first time but assume the guest would offer or insist by the second time...

[Anonymous]

If you are not in a position to pay, don't invite. (Of course there are some exceptions for certain kinds of friends/family) We have brought friends to the pool (individual kids) and we always pay. If a family comes we pay unless they insist. Usually we buy a pizza there and split it or potluck a dinner so the guest family does contribute.

In your case I simply would have declined the playdate saying you already had plans. Done.

[Anonymous]

I think it may depend on how often you are inviting people to the pool. If you are inviting different friends all the time, it could get a bit expensive. That also seems a little unfair to the other pool members, but if they aren't complaining, whatever. If you invite the occasional friend, it seems cheap not to just pay their admission.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I am already paying $500 a summer for membership and that is the full extent of our pool budget.

I'm sorry, but that is the most ridiculous excuse I have ever heard. If you are in a situation where you can shell out $500 for a pool membership, I am guessing that you can find $15 from another part of your family budget to pay for your guests. If you don't want to pay because you feel you shouldn't have to, that's one thing, but don't pretend you don't have the money.

You all are funny! I guess you'd rather be not invited.
Oh well.

I'd rather not be invited by an ungracious cheapskate ... if you pay the $500 to join but honestly can't afford $15 for the guests, you probably don't have any business spending the $500 in the first place if things are that tight.

At least the first time, the guests ought to be your guests, then they can cover it... IMO/IME

Really? So, you're basically a taker?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree that it is rude. I would never invite a friend and then tell them to pay the fee. In fact, I'd say the most rude part of the situation is that you TELL your friend that they must pay if they want to come b/c this denies your friend the opportunity to OFFER to pay. I bet your friend would have offered to pay but now you have created an awkward situation by telling her she has to pay. Yuck all around.
Just don't invite anyone if you're going to do this.

This. Chances are that the guest would have offered to pay anyway.

[Anonymous]

I have a question about these private pools - many posters indicate that they are inviting friends all of the time. How is this ok with the pool and the other members? Isn't the point of a private pool to limit the number of people that go there (I would hope it is not just to exclude certain types of people). If everyone constantly brings along non-members, doesn't it defeat the purpose?

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's incredibly rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I am already paying $500 a summer for membership and that is the full extent of our pool budget.

I'm sorry, but that is the most ridiculous excuse I have ever heard. If you are in a situation where you can shell out $500 for a pool membership, I am guessing that you can find $15 from another part of your family budget to pay for your guests. If you don't want to pay because you feel you shouldn't have to, that's one thing, but don't pretend you don't have the money.

You all are funny! I guess you'd rather be not invited.
Oh well.

I'd rather not be invited by an ungracious cheapskate ... if you pay the $500 to join but honestly can't afford $15 for the guests, you probably don't have any business spending the $500 in the first place if things are that tight.

At least the first time, the guests ought to be your guests, then they can cover it... IMO/IME

Really? So, you're basically a taker?

No, dipshit.

I'm a giver. I'm the one who will pay for my guests, at least the first time, if not thereafter.

You get an "F" in reading comprehension and an "incomplete" in Social Skills. If someone invites me and then says, "BTW, you're paying" I may or may not go, but I know then I'm dealing with an ungracious person in either case. Probably someone like you from the sound of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a question about these private pools - many posters indicate that they are inviting friends all of the time. How is this ok with the pool and the other members? Isn't the point of a private pool to limit the number of people that go there (I would hope it is not just to exclude certain types of people). If everyone constantly brings along non-members, doesn't it defeat the purpose?

The pool where we belong limits guests to a certain no. on weekdays and a smaller no. on weekends, and can limit guests if the pool is crowded.

[Anonymous]

It's only wrong if your dad pays for the membership, and then you invite all your friends and have them pay you $5 each/cash and use the money to buy weed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I am already paying $500 a summer for membership and that is the full extent of our pool budget.

I'm sorry, but that is the most ridiculous excuse I have ever heard. If you are in a situation where you can shell out $500 for a pool membership, I am guessing that you can find $15 from another part of your family budget to pay for your guests. If you don't want to pay because you feel you shouldn't have to, that's one thing, but don't pretend you don't have the money.

You all are funny! I guess you'd rather be not invited.
Oh well.

I'd rather not be invited by an ungracious cheapskate ... if you pay the $500 to join but honestly can't afford $15 for the guests, you probably don't have any business spending the $500 in the first place if things are that tight.

At least the first time, the guests ought to be your guests, then they can cover it... IMO/IME

Really? So, you're basically a taker?

No, dipshit.

I'm a giver. I'm the one who will pay for my guests, at least the first time, if not thereafter.

You get an "F" in reading comprehension and an "incomplete" in Social Skills. If someone invites me and then says, "BTW, you're paying" I may or may not go, but I know then I'm dealing with an ungracious person in either case. Probably someone like you from the sound of it.

Ok, let's get something straight, twatwaffle: You said, and I quote, "I'd rather not be invited by an ungracious cheapskate."

That says a whole hell of a lot about you, none of it good.

So, take your hostile contempt and shove it in your rotting quim.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I am already paying $500 a summer for membership and that is the full extent of our pool budget.

I'm sorry, but that is the most ridiculous excuse I have ever heard. If you are in a situation where you can shell out $500 for a pool membership, I am guessing that you can find $15 from another part of your family budget to pay for your guests. If you don't want to pay because you feel you shouldn't have to, that's one thing, but don't pretend you don't have the money.

You all are funny! I guess you'd rather be not invited.
Oh well.

I'd rather not be invited by an ungracious cheapskate ... if you pay the $500 to join but honestly can't afford $15 for the guests, you probably don't have any business spending the $500 in the first place if things are that tight.

At least the first time, the guests ought to be your guests, then they can cover it... IMO/IME

Really? So, you're basically a taker?

No, dipshit.

I'm a giver. I'm the one who will pay for my guests, at least the first time, if not thereafter.

You get an "F" in reading comprehension and an "incomplete" in Social Skills. If someone invites me and then says, "BTW, you're paying" I may or may not go, but I know then I'm dealing with an ungracious person in either case. Probably someone like you from the sound of it.

Ok, let's get something straight, twatwaffle: You said, and I quote, "I'd rather not be invited by an ungracious cheapskate."

That says a whole hell of a lot about you, none of it good.

So, take your hostile contempt and shove it in your rotting quim.

LOL .. you clearly have no capacity to appreciate or see robust sarcasm.... no quim here, babycakes, rotting or otherwise, though you're sound like such a tough guy (or a fabulously mean girl ), I'm just quivering...

Point is, such an invitation would tell a lot about the person making the invitation. I was brought up with more class than to invite people as my guest and then hand them a bill.