DD (7) says Daddy dresses her

[Anonymous]

OP, follow your gut. Your daughter said she was uncomfortable, so respect her feelings and tell your ex that he needs to give her space and time. As a good father, he should understand this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It really pisses me off how some of you told OP "he's not molesting her." How the F do you know that??????? You need to be cautious with this, but you need to stay on it. If a child is complaining that ANYONE is dressing her "too roughly" and they were asked to stop and haven't, this is a red flag.

No, it doesn't sound like a red flag. Sounds like a whiney kid who is playing her mom and dad off each other in a crappy dual-household situation. The mom is further instigating it by whatever passive comments she is making to her daughter about the situation.

I would guess that the occasional times I have to help my 6 and 8 year olds get dressed (maybe once a week) they might be able to characterize it as "rough". Big italian family here with a lot of noise, and when they are so slow and we are so rushed that I have to start putting underwear on my kid for him, yes, it's not a sweet sappy fun experience.

OP should use the chance to parent her kid and say "if you could stop dawdling then dad wouldn't have to help you -- her lets practice getting dressed really fast". And also encourage her daughter to take more responsibility overall and quit pushing her dads buttons by not getting ready quickly in the morning.

[Anonymous]

It's not a big deal. Really.

[Anonymous]

Omg some of you have lost it. What's wrong with a father dressing his daughter? It's not an indication that he's some kind of pedo. He probably just doesn't have the patience to wait for her to do it herself if she's slow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I want to teach boundaries to my DD and future children, I believe nudity is a big one. I don't believe there is anything wrong with telling a female child that no man should see her naked or have to touch her when she is capable of doing it herself. Sorry if you have a problem with that.

Umm yeah that makes sense with regards to men who might somehow have a sexual interest in her but to include her own father in that group is twisted. He's not just "any man". He's her father! Yes I'm aware that there are sickos out there and I'm sorry you have experienced what you have, but to project that on your own family and daughter might mess her up some.

[Anonymous]

I can understand why this pair is divorced. The mom is making a mountain out of a molehill. If he is such a creep that he will molest his own daughter - why the heck she had a kid with him?

OK mom - here is the solution. The child dresses herself at night and sleeps in the outfit she will go to school in in the morning. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

White people are so messed up.

[Anonymous]

I think that it is ok if your DD is running late,but maybe try waking her with an alarm clock a few minutes early,and let her get dressed. LOL when I was at that age I noticed my first puberty signs and did not want my parents to dress me and see. Mabey plan a reward every time she does it faster. Like maybe a peice of candy during the day.
Hope I helped.