August due dates?

[Anonymous]

OP here. Had a rough weekend. I'm 26 weeks, but lost my first pregnancy, and for some very specific reasons had lots of flashbacks to it this past weekend. I was at an out-of-town wedding too, and kept getting all anxious about whether things were okay with this pregnancy.

I try to be relaxed most of the time and not stress about this or that, but sometimes I worry that my laissez-faire attitude is going to result in another loss somehow. I mean, gosh, I got on a plane! And they say there's all that cosmic radiation (everyone also says it's safe to fly while pregnant). What about the sushi I insist on eating or the occasional half-glass of wine my midwives say it's okay to drink?

Every now and again I think maybe I should follow the rules more strictly or pay some kind of price, and man that anxiety was in full force this weekend. It was rough on me, and a little on DH too.

How do you cope with your worries, and fears? I know we must all worry that something could be going horribly wrong at any given time, and we'd never know until the baby was born. Heck, ever since I've started feeling regular movement, I get anxious when the LO is a little less active.. and I have an anterior placenta...

Ugh.

[Anonymous]

Hey OP- Sorry you had a rough weekend. I could have written your post. I'm 26 weeks too, with previous losses, including a late one, and an anterior placenta. While feeling her move has been really helpful, the days she's quiet are tough. I'm the crazy lady drinking a cup of coffee then laying on my stomach so I can "encourage" her to move!! I don't think the fear will totally go away until they're healthy in our arms. And I'm so sorry you had triggers this weekend. There are some I can avoid and others that sneak up on me. Be gentle with yourself and hopefully you'll get your bearings back soon. I'm finding it terribly difficult to buy anything out of fear I'll have to return it. I literally have one dress my mom bought and a little hat a friend gave me. Just this weekend my best friend finally told me that she has to start planning my shower or I'm not getting one!! You're not alone.

[Anonymous]

Hi OP. I can relate. I lost twins 4 years ago at 19 weeks and am currently 23 weeks pregnant with a singleton. I am spooked. All. The. Time. I don't know if I will relax until i actually have a baby in my arms. I'm looking forward to getting into the 30s. The 20s scare me so bad. Good luck and hang in there. You are not alone.

I don't even go by my due date. I just focus on which gestation I need to get to in order to have a healthy baby that won't have long-term issues.

[Anonymous]

VEE here - Sorry you're having a hard time OP. I hope things have gotten better since your post! I think we all have nerves to some extent. I know I tend to "catastrophize" things (with my pregnancy and otherwise) so when I recognize I'm doing it I try and distract myself, or think about something else for 10 or 15 minutes and see if it subsides.

Make sure you find down time for yourself too. It's therapeutic!

[Anonymous]

Hi OP, sorry to hear you had such a rough weekend. I am another person who can relate. I had 10 miscarriages prior to this pregnancy. I know people who breeze through pregnancies without much of a care at all. I can't even imagine how great that would be. But, unfortunately, for those of us who have experienced losses, I don't think we can ever be completely at ease during our pregnancies. While it takes away from the joys of pregnancy, the end result will be that much sweeter.

At the beginning of my pregnancy, days went by so slooowly. I had u/s at 6 and 7 weeks, and again at 12. Talk about panic city - I worried between u/s and was very panicked just prior to and during my u/s. I bought a doppler to check on the heartbeat at home. And, now, I too worry when I do not feel much movement. I just try to remind myself how rare it is to have a loss this late in pregnancy and am keeping my eye on the finish line (August - hurry up and get here!).

[Anonymous]

Hey Ladies!
LR here. Only 3 more months to go - that means we all start our every 2 weeks visits to the Dr really soon! I am a FTM and it's my first pregnancy but I still am anxious a lot of the time if I don't feel movement during the day. I think my LO knows this because since I had my glucola test on Tues s/he has been squirming regularly. The only comfort I really take is when the Doppler gives me a heartbeat at my appts, so i am really looking forward to going every 2 weeks just to hear it. My friend is a Dr and gave me a stethoscope to listen, but it didn't work, so I gave up on that. The Doppler every two weeks will have to suffice. Hang in there everyone - enjoy the last three months, as our lives are about to change come August!!

[Anonymous]

Woo woo! It's so exciting to head into the home "stretch"... hah.

I'll be six months in a few days. Baby seems to really like wiggling his feet (at least I hope it's his feet) in my upper-right side.

This week was week 26 and my next appt will be at 28 weeks, so I guess I'm already at the every-two-week stage thing.

Got the gestational diabetes screen coming up next! Hopefully will pass with flying colors, but I'm a little bit nervous about it because my mom is type II diabetic.

[Anonymous]

Good luck with your glucose test! I have mine next week.

So happy to be in the home "stretch" (and, boy, do I feel the stretch!). I have mixed feelings - I want August to hurry up and be here, but I also need to so much ready for the little arrival.

I am having light cramps this morning - hoping those will pass. While I am eager to meet this baby, I do not want to have him come too soon!

[Anonymous]

OP here again! Who knows what they are having? I actually posted a thread awhile back because I was ambivalent about finding out. I eventually left it up to DH, and he decided in the moment to find out that we are having a boy.

Did you find out? How are you feeling about that?

I'm excited about having a boy, (I always thought that was what I would have) but I didn't have a preference either way, and I sort of hope that we can try for one of each, though I know that there's no guarantees (unless we adopt or foster our second child.)

I'm starting to feel the pinch just a little in my lungs from the baby. My mom used to say that late in pregnancy, you have to choose - either eat or breathe! Maybe I will make a lot of smoothies during the last few months...

[Anonymous]

VEE here - had my 24 week appointment yesterday and everything looked normal

We're having another boy. My first will be 2.5 when #2 arrives. I'm pleased that we'll be able to use ALL the clothes again. I wasn't really hoping for a girl or a boy, I'm just glad that everything looks good so far.

I am having to really watch how much I eat lately. If I have too big of a meal I feel really uncomfortable for hours, so I'm trying to eat smaller portions. I was also concerned that at my appointment 4 weeks ago, my doctor told me I was 6 pounds ahead of where I was in my last pregnancy. She wasn't alarmed and said it was okay, but it was hard for me not to worry. I'm back on track as of yesterday though.

[Anonymous]

Vee - glad to here everything looked good at your appointment! I hear you on feeling very uncomfortable after eating large meals. I am trying to graze all day to avoid it.

OP - congrats on your baby boy! I too am having a boy and found out at the 20 week ultrasound. I did not have a preference, but everyone just knew I was having a girl. So, I had that in set in my mind. I just laughed when the tech said it was a boy. He proved everyone wrong!

I am feeling a little menstrual crampy today. I have not had this feeling since early in the 1st trimester. Anyone else having this? It seems worse when I am sitting and better when I am standing.

[Anonymous]

I am having a girl! I pleaded with the ultrasound tech to tell me around 14 weeks. They *thought* it was a girl then but then confirmed it at 18 weeks. Exciting!

I am feeling very fat and ugly recently. I wish I felt more like a beautiful, glowing, pregnant lady. I'm bummed.

[Anonymous]

Congrats on your girl!

I wonder how many people feel glowing and beautiful. I don't know that I've had a single day of feeling that way during pregnancy! It is more like - ugh, more zits...oh, dry hair...what is happening to my nipples?!?!! Hang in there

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Congrats on your girl!

I wonder how many people feel glowing and beautiful. I don't know that I've had a single day of feeling that way during pregnancy! It is more like - ugh, more zits...oh, dry hair...what is happening to my nipples?!?!! Hang in there

Me too!

[Anonymous]

Woo woo. OP here. I'm actually do feel pretty and glowy right now. The weather is helping, as are the dresses that I can finally wear now that it's warm enough to not need stockings.

I have to say though, the annoying thing is that I'm also already starting to feel tired again. I felt super energy-drained for the first ~16 weeks of pregnancy, and then I started feeling okay, and now I'm starting to feel again like I want to go sleeeep so often.

What are you all doing for exercise? We live about a mile from the metro, so I just walk to and from on my morning commute as my exercise, plus getting in some yoga here and there. I want to add in some strength stuff - squats, lunges, and upper body work, so that my arms look nice for summer, but again... tired...