S/O to lost ring...What do you think of couples with kids who aren't wearing wedding bands?

[Anonymous]

My parents never wore their rings when I was growing up. In fact, it wasn't until I was an adult when I learned about the whole ring industry and that engagement ring existed... My parents never seemed less married to me without them and they were married for 53 years until my father passed away.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I judge more based on looks, if I'm judging. If the couple looks like they have it together, I'd probably assume they were married and weren't wearing their rings, or were at least in a committed relationship with each other. It's much different than seeing a younger couple out with small kids that clearly don't belong to both of them--not that I would really judge that either, though. DH often forgets to put his ring on when we're out, so I just joke that it's my night out with my boyfriend while my real husband is stuck at home.

But how would you even know that the kid doesn't belong to both of them? My child is half black and she is very very fair. When you'd see our family together, I'm sure you'd assume she wasn't OUR kid but she is.

Really? In this area (DC)? If I see a kid of a different race then parents, I assume they are with their parents, and may be adopted. A wedding band, if I'm even close enough to see your band, is not going to move me one way or another.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn't you wear a ring? Extreme sensitivity to metals?

Because you don't feel like it, perhaps? Because you didn't want to waste several hundred dollars? Because you don't like rings? There are plenty of reasons!

Weight grain (how many people weigh the same 10 years after they get married)? Maybe you are secure enough in your marriage, where it does not matter. Marriage is of the heart, not the rings!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I rarely wear ours (we've both lost our bands...he got a replacement, I'm still waiting for mine to turn up). In the beginning, I always wore my band so everyone would know that DH and I were married. Now, I don't wear any rings unless it's a special occasion and I'm dressing up.

I wonder if people see us with our kids and wonder what our 'status' is. Do you notice these things? Do you judge?

I really don't give a rat's ass. If someone is that desperate to hit on me - an older mom to two young kids - then go for it. But I'll be too tired to react.

My engagement ring is gorgeous, but right now I have a tungsten band that's very wide and durable. Some days I wear it; others I don't.

Who cares at this point?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I rarely wear my wedding ring (married 9 years) b/c I get eczema on my finger. One of my best friends does not wear a ring for the same reason.

Also, after I gave birth I didn't wear a ring for a few years b/c my knuckles got bigger and the ring wouldn't fit! I was waiting to see if they would shrink back down. They never did and I had to have my ring resized, complicated b/c of the diamonds.

Please stop judging other people.

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