S/O to lost ring...What do you think of couples with kids who aren't wearing wedding bands?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't notice other people's rings, but I HAVE to wear mine otherwise men literally throw themselves at me.

I think you nailed it. Is there any other reason to wear a wedding band?

I can think of four reasons to wear it:
1 - To advertize that you are not available.
2 - To show that you manged to "get married" - a significant accomplishment in the eyes of some.
3 - You are afraid of being judged if you take it off.
4 - Everyone else is doing it.

Are there better reasons I missed?

This is a good list, except you forgot,"to show off the size of your diamond".

+1

My husband wore his wedding band on our honeymoon -- that was it. He used to be a fighter pilot and couldn't wear jewelry of any kind. I wore my engagement/wedding band set for maybe a month after our wedding, then again during private school tours and to a couple of business functions with my husband (to assure those who judge that we were in fact married). That's it. We will celebrate our 12th wedding anniversary in two weeks and have an incredibly strong marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't notice other people's rings, but I HAVE to wear mine otherwise men literally throw themselves at me.

I think you nailed it. Is there any other reason to wear a wedding band?

I can think of four reasons to wear it:
1 - To advertize that you are not available.
2 - To show that you manged to "get married" - a significant accomplishment in the eyes of some.
3 - You are afraid of being judged if you take it off.
4 - Everyone else is doing it.

Are there better reasons I missed?

I don't notice what other people are wearing, and I don't judge when people don't wear their rings (I actually posted earlier about my chemist father not wearing his), but I think you are being awfully judgemental for those of us who do wear them. I wear my rings (wedding and engagement) everyday. I've only taken them off 4 times since our wedding (all for surgeries). I'm not showing off or bragging, I'm wearing sentamental items that were given to me on two very special occasions. I enjoy wearing them. I enjoy looking down at my hand and being reminded of those days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I notice and think you're either divorced (and feel sorry for you) or had a baby while single. If a Dad isn't wearing one I think he's a creeper.

You sound like a real charmer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I notice and think you're either divorced (and feel sorry for you) or had a baby while single. If a Dad isn't wearing one I think he's a creeper.

You sound like a real charmer.

Or a 14 yr old.

[Anonymous]

I never wear my wedding ring. I am a teacher and the chalk dries out my hands and gets in the ring making it uncomfortable to wear so I haven't worn it in years. My DH always wears his. A few times, someone I don't know well is surprised when I say that I'm married, but it doesn't really bother me. I know that I am married and so does my husband. That is all that really matters. FWIW, I never assume that the lack of a wedding ring means that someone isn't married. I have found that there are many people like me.

[Anonymous]

Been happily married over 16 years, 4 kids. I have NEVER worn my ring, except for the day I got married. No particular reason. It simply doesn't mean much to me. I do wear other rings, though never the same one for long periods of time. I change them all the time.
My husband wore his for a while and then put it away a long time ago.
I have NEVER looked at anyone's hand to see if they are wearing a ring or not. I like jewelry and might notice someone wearing a beautiful ring but don't ever make an assumption of their marital status based on it. It never crosses my mind.
I am not American.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I rarely wear ours (we've both lost our bands...he got a replacement, I'm still waiting for mine to turn up). In the beginning, I always wore my band so everyone would know that DH and I were married. Now, I don't wear any rings unless it's a special occasion and I'm dressing up.

I wonder if people see us with our kids and wonder what our 'status' is. Do you notice these things? Do you judge?

I don't judge - I know several couples who are married or who are in long term committed relationships with children who do not wear rings. So what? Let other people think what they want to think, who cares??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn't you wear a ring? Extreme sensitivity to metals?

Because you don't feel like it, perhaps? Because you didn't want to waste several hundred dollars? Because you don't like rings? There are plenty of reasons!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't notice other people's rings, but I HAVE to wear mine otherwise men literally throw themselves at me.

Other people may not have a sense of humor, but I think you're awesome PP!

[Anonymous]

I've been married for over 10 years. I stopped wearing my ring 5 years ago (infidelity on husband's part). He still wears his. People probably think we're a cheating couple when we're out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I rarely wear ours (we've both lost our bands...he got a replacement, I'm still waiting for mine to turn up). In the beginning, I always wore my band so everyone would know that DH and I were married. Now, I don't wear any rings unless it's a special occasion and I'm dressing up.

I wonder if people see us with our kids and wonder what our 'status' is. Do you notice these things? Do you judge?

I don't notice.

But if I did, I'd just assume you had a nickel allergy like my wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ring wearers - do you wear your engagement ring too? that always strikes me as a little over the top.

I don't understand why you would think it's over the top to wear an engagement ring. I have a pretty ring that I like, why shouldn't I wear it? What would you I rather do? Put it in my safe deposit box and go look at it once a year?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn't you wear a ring? Extreme sensitivity to metals?

Because you don't feel like it, perhaps? Because you didn't want to waste several hundred dollars? Because you don't like rings? There are plenty of reasons!

Because I see no reason to publicly advertize my marital status (I hate "Mrs." for a similar reason).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn't you wear a ring? Extreme sensitivity to metals?

I'm sure you're being sarcastic, but, my answer is yes. I have a Nickel allergy. Can't wear white gold at all-- and now the back of the setting on my platinum wedding band is bothering me--I'm guessing there was nickel used in the setting. Anyway, my wedding band now causes blisters that look like I took a blowtorch to my finger. I want to replace it or get it fixed, but, it's not a priority.

[Anonymous]

DH is a mechanic, can't wear jewelry, it would get stuck in something and maybe rip off his finger...I met him 30 years ago, our kids are over 21 so it's been quite awhile that we've been together.