S/O to lost ring...What do you think of couples with kids who aren't wearing wedding bands?
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Anonymous
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I used to care when I had a lot of time on my hands.
DH and I have been happily married for 14 years...he lost his wedding band when we were out together over a year ago. We were both CRUSHED. This was the ring that was blessed before the ceremony, etc. We called pawn shops, etc. It came to me realizing the ring is just a symbol. It almost felt phony to just buy a replacement. I have entertained the idea of getting a new one as a surprise for a monumental anniversary, e.g., 15, 20 years, etc. I might even go the priest and have him bless it again (even though we aren't terribly religious). For now- I've gotten used to him not wearing it and nobody else has even seemed to notice. Trust me--my family would say something immediately if they noticed  . In over a year, at Holidays, etc..nobody has noticed.
We joke that hussies tend to hit on men with wedding rings more often than those without anyways . It was a running joke with my DH's friends when they first got married how many women would come up to them when out with the new wedding bands.
I don't give a cr*p what some yenta, like one of the pps, thinks of seeing DH without one....esp when we've been married so long now. I have taken to not wearing mine as often now that I work at home full time. I always take it off whenever I am in the house and now it is much more comfortable without. I also lift heavy weights at the gym and it can be uncomfortable then. |
Anonymous
| I love jewelry, especially rings, so I admit I always look to see what someone is wearing (and before someone says it, no, I don't have a large ring). If I see a couple with kids but sans rings, I usually just think they're married, but not wearing their rings for whatever reason. They forgot to put it on that day, it's not a practical style with kids, they lost it, etc. |
Anonymous
| I find jewelry uncomfortable. |
Anonymous
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A husband here. I wear my ring proudly. I take it off to shower (it doesn't shine as much if it gets shampoo and condition and such all over it, so I take it off) or when I'm doing something messy (painting, working with chemicals, etc). My wife wore hers continuously except for messy projects (painting, etc) until our twins were a few months old. Then she started having problems with squirmy babies. Her wedding wrap is actually now attached to her princess cut engagement ring. And the diamond poked the twins a lot. That, plus it would sometimes flip in and poke her hand. So, she's taken it off. She tries to remember to put it back on when we go out without the kids, but doesn't always remember. When they're walking, she'll put it back on again.
After 10 years, it doesn't matter that much. We're comfortable with each other and our relationship and the ring will still be there later when the kids are older. |
Anonymous
| Well, I'm separated from my wife but still live at home. Does that count? |
Anonymous
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Recently married, half the time, my rings are sitting on a dresser at home because I never remember to wear them. I'd pawn/sell them if I could, I would rather have the cash. Then again, I got married in jeans and tennis shoes so maybe I'm weird.
It goes without saying that I am happily married. |
Anonymous
This! My god! Americans! |
Anonymous
| Mine is too small. I can't wear it until I lose 15 pounds. |
Anonymous
| I will add that as an unmarried mother I have noticed people glancing at my ring finger when speaking to me and it does make me uncomfortable because I feel they are judging. I was speaking with another unmarried coworker last night and she agrees that she felt that people were always searching for a ring. |
Anonymous
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I rarely wear my wedding ring (married 9 years) b/c I get eczema on my finger. One of my best friends does not wear a ring for the same reason.
Also, after I gave birth I didn't wear a ring for a few years b/c my knuckles got bigger and the ring wouldn't fit! I was waiting to see if they would shrink back down. They never did and I had to have my ring resized, complicated b/c of the diamonds. Please stop judging other people. |
Anonymous
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To Qs about why some ppl don't wear rings:
DH & my FIL don't wear wedding bands. They just hate jewelry. FIL has been married for 50+ years and DH & I have been married for 10. Sometimes I don't wear my engagement ring/wedding band either. The former mostly bc I think it's too showy for a park or whatever activity I'm usually attending. I'll wear it for special or formal occasions, though. |
Anonymous
| Need to get mine resized after baby #2. I look like a single mom. Oh well! |
Anonymous
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Wow. People really feel this way? Such an antiquated way to think. Is being married or landing a man is some great accomplishment, or is being unmarried is so scandalous. Do you honestly think people care that much or even notice you at all? That you worry about looking like a "creeper" or a single mom?
I hate the feeling of rings on my fingers and worse was wearing two (the ring and the band). I don't really care or even notice what kinds of rings people have. I don't really relate to the bridezilla attitude, the "feel like a princess" on my wedding day, or grubbing for as many carats as you can squeeze out of your man. I just don't get it, but clearly, I am in the small minority. |
Anonymous
| Are you considered a single mom just because you aren't married or are you a single mom when you really are raising a kid by yourself (i.e. you are not in a committed relationship with the child's father?) |
Anonymous
Who are you responding to here? All the posters or one in particular? |