DH is taking unpaid vacation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
No school for your precious snowflake. Drop the cable. Keep the house warm in summer and very cool in winter. Cut back to one car. Clip coupons and shop at Costco. Don't buy anything extraneous, don't treat yourself, never eat out.

There, that was easy, right? My HHI is over $600k/yr. Meaning I've never done any of these things, and even I know how in theory. It's not rocket science, clearly.


You could drive a truck through the weird holes in your story.

OP here. This is exactly my intent. I don't want friends and neighbors learning about our financial situation.

So your intent was to create a self-contradictory story full of details in order to obtain some lifestyle pablum. Got it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's another thought - Since you and your DH are very confident that your DH wouldn't get fired in a million years, your DH could put his foot down and set some boundaries with his boss. He may not be able to get a raise, but if he's sure he won't get fired, he could turn his cell off during certain hours (dinner, vacation, weekends, etc.) and respond to his boss when he is prepared to work - Seriously, it might help him with his stress -

Also, since his boss has no boundaries when you all took your vacation (and he called while DH was driving) what makes you think his boss will suddenly quit calling/emailing when your DH takes unpaid leave? I don't think that will solve your problem and only add to the stress - because now you have no income PLUS DH's boss will be bothering him all the time like he always did.

It's not just the boss but also the clients. They have no respect. They're in different time zones and clients call during the night, it's getting ridiculous! With unpaid leave DH won't be assigned any clients so there will be nobody calling him.

[Anonymous]

Again, how long does he plan to stay on leave?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Steve Jobs was fired from Apple. But it can't happen to OP's husband, no sir! It's impossible, he is so precious!

DH is not as smart as SJ.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Again, how long does he plan to stay on leave?

4 months.

He's on a call with his manager right now and the guy is making DH an offer some sort of WAH situation. Let's see...

[Anonymous]

His work has agreed to 4 months of unpaid leave? In writing?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Thanks to those who came with helpful tips.

I don't want to give more details because I don't want our friends knowing about our situation (and I have a few friends that post here) but let me say that I cannot work and DH cannot quit his job and he'll never be fired in a million years. He does very specialized work and it's very expensive to hire someone new to do it.

So he is the owner of the company or what? Because unless he is, it is almost inviting misfortune to pronounce on such matters so confidently. Especially you, since you are not even working. It's not all about money, you know - sometimes people are willing to pay more to get a better or even just a different employee.

To me it sounds like both you and your husband have an attitude issue here, perhaps willingly overlooking that in the other. You SAH but send one child to school and do not cover for both when they are sick (???). Your DH takes "unpaid vacation" in August (???). Unfortunately I am familiar with work frustration (though in my case the problem is that the company is dysfunctional while my own position is pretty good). I would never ever resign or take "unpaid vacation" before I found a better alternative (in fact, I already have a better alternative, it's just that it won't start for a few more months) though I could comfortably SAH if I wanted to. It blows my mind what the two of you are doing. Btw, I had friends who were similar in terms of attitude. The are both very bright people (one of them is a PhD) - by now, the wife has been unemployed for 5 years, and the husband for more than 10 years.

Typical DCUM bitch.

So here we go:

I cannot work. I sure want to but I can't.

DH has SEVERAL job offers that he can take any time but because of some legal issues he cannot take up any offers at this moment. Even quitting is not an option for him. He either stays with his salary living a miserable existence or he gets unpaid leave to dedicate time and energy to school and family.

It's not about a snob attitude, like you're trying to paint us, it's about knowing our options. DH's job is extremely specialized so he's very familiar with the market and his options. His friends call him all the time with offers in their companies and it breaks my heart to see that he can't take those offers. His company knows it and obviously won't raise his salary or give him a promotion. They're known for doing this. One of DH's closest co-worker came over for dinner once and I cried talking to his wife. She was telling me their story and I could not believe what they did to their family. She was on bed rest for several months with their #2, she was taken to he ER with some bleeding, they had to have an emergency C-sec and his manager (also DH's manager) kept calling him in the hospital asking him to log in. He was there trying to get news from his just born premature child, his wife that almost died after complications during the surgery and this asshole calling him asking him to log in? WTH?

Anyway, again thanks to the PPs who shared their stories, I really appreciate it.

And if you have any tips to save money, they're always welcome.

Let me guess: your DH's co-worker also has multiple job offers waiting in the wings, also cannot leave the company but, at the same time, cannot be fired either?

[Anonymous]

You're welcome:
http://lmgtfy.com/?q=how+to+save+money

[Anonymous]

Oh, the OP is Chipotle Mom. She admitted once in a thread that she starts fake threads to amuse herself. I wouldn't spend a lot of brainpower on trying to figure out her actual needs or situation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Steve Jobs was fired from Apple. But it can't happen to OP's husband, no sir! It's impossible, he is so precious!

DH is not as smart as SJ.

And this, you believe, is the most notable difference between them?

[Anonymous]

If OP is Chipotle Lady, she is ALSO the one with the psoriasis on her feet (she yelled at someone who berated her for having a handicapped tag after she "cheerfully" hopped out of her car one day) so maybe the psoriasis is what's keeping her from working.

[Anonymous]

Chipotle lady, here's how we know it 's you. In addition to atrocious writing, you ignore direct questions like:

- are you Chipotle lady?
- what makes you unable to work?
- do you in fact not have a car? Referencing Chipotle thread where, when asked why you couldn't eat in the car, you said "not everyone has a car." never answered whether or not YOU, in fact, have one.

So your threads are you saying something ridiculous, being asked direct questions, and ignoring them. Jeff, can you please ban her ridiculous threads?!? You can certainly tell it's her by the IP, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Thanks to those who came with helpful tips.

I don't want to give more details because I don't want our friends knowing about our situation (and I have a few friends that post here) but let me say that I cannot work and DH cannot quit his job and he'll never be fired in a million years. He does very specialized work and it's very expensive to hire someone new to do it.

All the more reason why he should be looking for a new job and not sitting on his butt moping. You should encourage him to find a new job and help him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Chipotle lady, here's how we know it 's you. In addition to atrocious writing, you ignore direct questions like:

- are you Chipotle lady?
- what makes you unable to work?
- do you in fact not have a car? Referencing Chipotle thread where, when asked why you couldn't eat in the car, you said "not everyone has a car." never answered whether or not YOU, in fact, have one.

So your threads are you saying something ridiculous, being asked direct questions, and ignoring them. Jeff, can you please ban her ridiculous threads?!? You can certainly tell it's her by the IP, right?

Ban me for being "ridiculous"??? Bwahahaha

Anyway, why does it matter who I am? Chipotle mom or not if you can't help why are you wasting your time here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Chipotle lady, here's how we know it 's you. In addition to atrocious writing, you ignore direct questions like:

- are you Chipotle lady?
- what makes you unable to work?
- do you in fact not have a car? Referencing Chipotle thread where, when asked why you couldn't eat in the car, you said "not everyone has a car." never answered whether or not YOU, in fact, have one.

So your threads are you saying something ridiculous, being asked direct questions, and ignoring them. Jeff, can you please ban her ridiculous threads?!? You can certainly tell it's her by the IP, right?

Ban me for being "ridiculous"??? Bwahahaha

Anyway, why does it matter who I am? Chipotle mom or not if you can't help why are you wasting your time here?

Because we are not here to help (or not primarily).