Gloating

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ran into a Mom I knew when my ASD DS went to HS. Back then she was very condescending to me, as in "ooh, poor you, you have a child with disabilities. He won't amount to much." She treated my DS as if he was damaged goods and so did her DS and his friends. She would say things like, "oh, are you sure he should be doing this (like be in HN classes or academic clubs)? Isn't this too much for him?" Well, my DS has successfully graduated from college with an engineering degree, has a job, and his own place. You should've seen her face when I told her. Her DS dropped out of college after his Freshman year and has been living at home all this time.

I will gloat. My "problem child" did not fail to launch. Her star athlete did. To all those who doubt children like mine: FU.

OP, I second this! Congrats to you and your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread seems to be triggering all the terrible people. Don't be rude to the parents of special needs kids and no one will be gloating if your kid fails later on!

I dunno. I have a special needs kid, and OP's post doesn't resonate for me.

TBH, this all just makes me think of that Naomi Shahib Nye poem about kindness -- how once you've experienced real sorrow, once you've caught the thread of all sorrows and seen how vast the cloth, kindness remains the only thing that makes any sense.

The poem is here for anyone interested: https://poets.org/poem/kindness

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread seems to be triggering all the terrible people. Don't be rude to the parents of special needs kids and no one will be gloating if your kid fails later on!

I dunno. I have a special needs kid, and OP's post doesn't resonate for me.

TBH, this all just makes me think of that Naomi Shahib Nye poem about kindness -- how once you've experienced real sorrow, once you've caught the thread of all sorrows and seen how vast the cloth, kindness remains the only thing that makes any sense.

The poem is here for anyone interested: https://poets.org/poem/kindness

You're better than the rest of us I guess!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread seems to be triggering all the terrible people. Don't be rude to the parents of special needs kids and no one will be gloating if your kid fails later on!

I dunno. I have a special needs kid, and OP's post doesn't resonate for me.

TBH, this all just makes me think of that Naomi Shahib Nye poem about kindness -- how once you've experienced real sorrow, once you've caught the thread of all sorrows and seen how vast the cloth, kindness remains the only thing that makes any sense.

The poem is here for anyone interested: https://poets.org/poem/kindness

What a lovely poem

[Anonymous]

I think OP’s post is pretty un-relatable and I have a special needs kid. It’s not that it’s so bad to have a thought like that briefly and then think better (or more kindly) but imo to post and defend it is ugly. Let’s face it, her being b 1*chy abt your kid and you being snotty about her 22 year old failing to meet major milestones are not really the same thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread seems to be triggering all the terrible people. Don't be rude to the parents of special needs kids and no one will be gloating if your kid fails later on!

I dunno. I have a special needs kid, and OP's post doesn't resonate for me.

TBH, this all just makes me think of that Naomi Shahib Nye poem about kindness -- how once you've experienced real sorrow, once you've caught the thread of all sorrows and seen how vast the cloth, kindness remains the only thing that makes any sense.

The poem is here for anyone interested: https://poets.org/poem/kindness

+1
Someone else having a hard time doesn't make my life better. I can't say I've never had those feelings, but they are never something I'm proud of.