Gloating

[Anonymous]

You are sad person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you perhaps misunderstand her concern years ago, OP? As you describe it here, I feel it was genuine. Also, in the light of her own child dropping out, I think years ago she may have been connecting because she secretly knew her child had a vulnerability.

There are many reasons why a parent wouldn't share that their own child also has issues, and sometimes it's because their spouse is in denial and is forcing a blanket moratorium on the topic. My oldest child has a combination of diagnoses, and I have recognized the same issues in some of his peers, yet their parents are often in denial. Usually the father truly is, and the mother is hesitant about forcing an evaluation and treatment, and therefore does not feel comfortable sharing any of her concerns with outsiders. These are the sort of children who tend to struggle as adults, because they've never received the treatments they needed.


So no, I certainly wouldn't gloat. I would feel sorry for her and her child.

You think those questions were genuine concern? MYOB about the capabilities of other people's kids. It's obviously barbed spite disguised as concern and people see through it

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Anonymous wrote:Did you pass your lack of social skills in to your son?

I think society needs to spend less time catering to the obnoxious judging mom types.

Which you now are. Look, I totally get wanting to throw this in her face after the comments she made. I think that is a fairly normal reaction. However, I would be worried about inviting my own karma. You have no idea what the next 5,10,15 years look like. What if her child succeeds just at a slower rate while yours flounders in a few years? Is she then entitled to gloat to you?

[Anonymous]

I know how you feel, OP. My kid was treated that way, too. I’m so happy for your son! It’s ok to gloat a little.

[Anonymous]

Unless her son was horrible to yours (and I mean genuinely horrible, not just immature and parroting what his mom said, when he was a child), it’s pretty awful to enjoy his life got derailed just because it’s showing up a woman you don’t like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I dunno, OP.

I’m happy your kid is happy. I’ll leave it at that.

+1. What an awful post, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless her son was horrible to yours (and I mean genuinely horrible, not just immature and parroting what his mom said, when he was a child), it’s pretty awful to enjoy his life got derailed just because it’s showing up a woman you don’t like.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:OP you sound petty and defensive and are not a nice person.

Complete opposite. I’m happy for you and that mom got karma. She got exactly what she deserved!

And her son who is struggling? Did he get what he deserved?

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Anonymous wrote:Did you pass your lack of social skills in to your son?

That's the inherited part of the ASD. The apple stayed close to the tree.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like OP and this woman are friends to be talking so much about their kids, their classes, graduation. OP sounds like a pretty lousy friend.

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Anonymous wrote:Unless her son was horrible to yours (and I mean genuinely horrible, not just immature and parroting what his mom said, when he was a child), it’s pretty awful to enjoy his life got derailed just because it’s showing up a woman you don’t like.

Her son was a bully to mine. Making fun of his stims, encouraging his friends to do the same. When DS went to prom, her son loudly said, "oh wow, even freaks like you get dates."

I don't enjoy that his life got derailed, but I do feel a little vindicated. Maybe things will turn around for him, I don't know. But I will cherish the look on her face when I told my boy graduated college and has a job.

[Anonymous]

I think it's okay to have these feelings on the inside, OP. But you should not say anything. Be nice.

[Anonymous]

That’s exciting, OP. Congrats! I wish you and your son the best.

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Anonymous wrote:Unless her son was horrible to yours (and I mean genuinely horrible, not just immature and parroting what his mom said, when he was a child), it’s pretty awful to enjoy his life got derailed just because it’s showing up a woman you don’t like.

Her son was a bully to mine. Making fun of his stims, encouraging his friends to do the same. When DS went to prom, her son loudly said, "oh wow, even freaks like you get dates."

I don't enjoy that his life got derailed, but I do feel a little vindicated. Maybe things will turn around for him, I don't know. But I will cherish the look on her face when I told my boy graduated college and has a job.

Why do you know all this? Is this woman your BFF? Or are you way too enmeshed with your son and his life?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless her son was horrible to yours (and I mean genuinely horrible, not just immature and parroting what his mom said, when he was a child), it’s pretty awful to enjoy his life got derailed just because it’s showing up a woman you don’t like.

Her son was a bully to mine. Making fun of his stims, encouraging his friends to do the same. When DS went to prom, her son loudly said, "oh wow, even freaks like you get dates."

I don't enjoy that his life got derailed, but I do feel a little vindicated. Maybe things will turn around for him, I don't know. But I will cherish the look on her face when I told my boy graduated college and has a job.

Why do you know all this? Is this woman your BFF? Or are you way too enmeshed with your son and his life?

PP, you are insufferable. This woman was never my BFF.