Gloating

[Anonymous]

You sound like you were deeply hurt, and maybe very anxious, for a long, long time. I'm sorry for that.

I recommend doing whatever you need to do to fully process those feelings, so you don't stay stuck in the smallest, meanest, and most reflexively bitter part of yourself.

Best of luck to you, and to all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you perhaps misunderstand her concern years ago, OP? As you describe it here, I feel it was genuine. Also, in the light of her own child dropping out, I think years ago she may have been connecting because she secretly knew her child had a vulnerability.

There are many reasons why a parent wouldn't share that their own child also has issues, and sometimes it's because their spouse is in denial and is forcing a blanket moratorium on the topic. My oldest child has a combination of diagnoses, and I have recognized the same issues in some of his peers, yet their parents are often in denial. Usually the father truly is, and the mother is hesitant about forcing an evaluation and treatment, and therefore does not feel comfortable sharing any of her concerns with outsiders. These are the sort of children who tend to struggle as adults, because they've never received the treatments they needed.


So no, I certainly wouldn't gloat. I would feel sorry for her and her child.

I did not misunderstand her "concerns". She thought students with learning disabilities should be kept separate from their neurotypical peers. She voiced it more than once. "Why are THEY even trying?" Her DS and mine were in the same Honors class, and she found it so strange. It was incomprehensible to her that all SN children are different, some have more stamina than others.

I had to put up with so much of the same. I feel you op. What made it worse was that my kid with disabilities was able to attend college but I had issues with kid's high school wrt following accommodations in ap classes and I needed an advocate. A few of the parents in my support group for kids with disabilities didn't want me to ever mention the issues we were encountering because their kids couldn't go to college. I couldn't win either way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I dunno, OP.

I’m happy your kid is happy. I’ll leave it at that.

+1. What an awful post, OP.

I disagree. I put up with so much of what op described plus those parent's kids bullying mine that I do smile at what has happened to some of them. I would never say anything to the parents but I am definitely unfriendly now. Overall I nothing them.

[Anonymous]

Karma!!

[Anonymous]

Good for you OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I dunno, OP.

I’m happy your kid is happy. I’ll leave it at that.

+1. What an awful post, OP.

I disagree. I put up with so much of what op described plus those parent's kids bullying mine that I do smile at what has happened to some of them. I would never say anything to the parents but I am definitely unfriendly now. Overall I nothing them.

If anything, it was her who approached me at the store. I saw her from the corner of my eye. And after all the pleasantries, she immediately jumped into "sooo, who is Larlo doing?" Oh her face. It was priceless.

[Anonymous]

Op I love this for you!!

There was a woman in my extended circle that was an extended breast feeder (which is nasty on its own) who was positively nasty to me (and many others) about formula feeding. The things this woman said, my god.

Anyway, cut to the future, she got breast cancer and had to have a double mastectomy and her teenaged kid is a gosh darned mess. I don’t feel gloaty on a personal level but I can’t help but thinking karma came for her.

[Anonymous]

Anyone who can’t see that the other mom and her kid were ableist jerks is either ableist themselves or extremely naive. Schadenfreude in this context is normal and natural for OP.

Congratulations to your son, OP!

[Anonymous]

OP, the hate in your heart only hurts you and the people you love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone who can’t see that the other mom and her kid were ableist jerks is either ableist themselves or extremely naive. Schadenfreude in this context is normal and natural for OP.

Congratulations to your son, OP!

Right. The kid is not a kid anymore. OP can be glad, happy, whatever.

[Anonymous]

Careful OP, the other shoe might drop for you and you'll be back at square 1. Your kid could get fired any day from his job.

[Anonymous]

Be ye kind, one to another. Reflect on yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound like you were deeply hurt, and maybe very anxious, for a long, long time. I'm sorry for that.

I recommend doing whatever you need to do to fully process those feelings, so you don't stay stuck in the smallest, meanest, and most reflexively bitter part of yourself.

Best of luck to you, and to all.

Oh cut the bs therapy speak.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound like you were deeply hurt, and maybe very anxious, for a long, long time. I'm sorry for that.

I recommend doing whatever you need to do to fully process those feelings, so you don't stay stuck in the smallest, meanest, and most reflexively bitter part of yourself.

Best of luck to you, and to all.

Oh cut the bs therapy speak.

I mean, a person can stay small and bitter and wounded. That’s certainly a choice, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op I love this for you!!

There was a woman in my extended circle that was an extended breast feeder (which is nasty on its own) who was positively nasty to me (and many others) about formula feeding. The things this woman said, my god.

Anyway, cut to the future, she got breast cancer and had to have a double mastectomy and her teenaged kid is a gosh darned mess. I don’t feel gloaty on a personal level but I can’t help but thinking karma came for her.

You are gloating that someone got cancer, you seem evil