Gloating

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where is the line between “she got cancer and a double mastectomy? Karma!” and gloating? I am struggling to find the difference. Perhaps someone can help me out by explaining.

Let me try again in smaller words. When bad things happen to bad people, it’s hard not to think that it might be karma. Especially in Ops case where the woman mocked her child and then that woman’s child is not not doing well

When bad things happen to you, do you think you deserve them and it's karma? Because 9f not, be honest--you're gloating.

[Anonymous]

I think it's fine for OP.yo gloat for just a little while. That's what the other mom.www doing to her when their kids were in high school anyhow.

Once you've got the gloating out of your system OP, move on from these people and don't give them a second thought again.

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I think karma helps keep people humble. No need to be smug, but gloating is ok. I have been in similar situations. In our case as a young naive mom who thought my kids were "winning" at life all to come to a screeching halt at different times in their lives, and then trying very hard to support and meet my kids where they were at. It was humbling. Now, as we come out on the other side, I do see things happen for a reason and some people absolutely do suck and in the end, they just aren't worth your time. Good for you OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ran into a Mom I knew when my ASD DS went to HS. Back then she was very condescending to me, as in "ooh, poor you, you have a child with disabilities. He won't amount to much." She treated my DS as if he was damaged goods and so did her DS and his friends. She would say things like, "oh, are you sure he should be doing this (like be in HN classes or academic clubs)? Isn't this too much for him?" Well, my DS has successfully graduated from college with an engineering degree, has a job, and his own place. You should've seen her face when I told her. Her DS dropped out of college after his Freshman year and has been living at home all this time.

I will gloat. My "problem child" did not fail to launch. Her star athlete did. To all those who doubt children like mine: FU.

Happy for you and for him!!! I have been through the same thing. Mine is still in college, but my goodness can be people be condescending. So many stories, but there is one mom in particular who was brutal with her rude comments. One of her perfect superstars boys has needed a special high school program due to his extreme bullying behavior and enough of the victim's parents complaining. Nut did not fall far from the tree (yes, I know that is not the saying at all and I normally would never pick on a minor, but that boy was capable of intense cruelty and could be physical).

[Anonymous]

OP I have noticed those people fall the hardest. Those who were kind and appropriate with me about my child with SN have faced life challenges and challenges with their own kids along the way and they rolled with it and reached out for support.The ones who were really nasty seemed to fall apart when their "perfect children" hit bumps or got very derailed. I feel for their kids because often they are just as rude to their own kids when they don't make the grade.

My own mother was really condescending to other people and obsessed with one of my sister's and her accomplishments. That sister is a disaster due to her own mean girl behavior and everything that happens as a result of her behavior (e.g. divorce due to cheating) throws my mother over the edge.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did you pass your lack of social skills in to your son?

I think society needs to spend less time catering to the obnoxious judging mom types.

Obnoxious judging mom types like op?

[Anonymous]

Op, you sound like a terrible person. I bet this other mom was asking about your child out of the genuine kindness of her heart and you were too clueless to see it.

She was probably around him a lot at school and saw how he was struggling.

[Anonymous]

I hope op's kid actually is living in his own and has a good job. Now he should cut off his hateful parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, you sound like a terrible person. I bet this other mom was asking about your child out of the genuine kindness of her heart and you were too clueless to see it.

She was probably around him a lot at school and saw how he was struggling.

She was not asking out of kindness. She had it in for all SN kids in the class. She said multiple times that there should be separate environments for kids like ours. My kid was not struggling, not with academics, not socially.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope op's kid actually is living in his own and has a good job. Now he should cut off his hateful parent.

My DS has been living on his own since graduating from HS. Dorms, student apartments, now OOS. He's been working since he was 15. How's your kid doing, btw?

[Anonymous]

This thread seems to be triggering all the terrible people. Don't be rude to the parents of special needs kids and no one will be gloating if your kid fails later on!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP you sound petty and defensive and are not a nice person.

Complete opposite. I’m happy for you and that mom got karma. She got exactly what she deserved!

And her son who is struggling? Did he get what he deserved?

He sure did bc he was a bully just like mom. Karma is a $itch!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread seems to be triggering all the terrible people. Don't be rude to the parents of special needs kids and no one will be gloating if your kid fails later on!

This right here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread seems to be triggering all the terrible people. Don't be rude to the parents of special needs kids and no one will be gloating if your kid fails later on!

And then they say that parents of SN kids are unapproachable. Every wonder why? It's because we have other parents telling us our kids are a failure or that they are damaged or they won't succeed in life.

[Anonymous]

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