DD14 swore at a teacher

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Saying “stfu” to a teacher would end my child’s social life. That is so wildly unacceptable. This isn’t something a week without plans and extra chores will change. She would be on absolute lockdown. No electronics, no social plans, and extra chores for the entire 3rd quarter. Plus a written and in person apology. Meet with the teacher and administration to let them know you don’t accept this behavior and support them in holding your daughter to a high standard. At the end of the quarter meet again to discuss your daughters attitude toward the teacher to see if she is ready for the punishment to be loosened.

This never works.

OP failed way before this incident.

Her kid will have zero remorse even if she apologizes.

OP needs to figure out how her kid got to this point.

DP. I don’t care if my kid feels remorse. Teacher might have deserved it for all I know. But it’s not okay for kid to say it.

Kid doesn’t need to control her feelings; she needs to control her BEHAVIOR.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Saying “stfu” to a teacher would end my child’s social life. That is so wildly unacceptable. This isn’t something a week without plans and extra chores will change. She would be on absolute lockdown. No electronics, no social plans, and extra chores for the entire 3rd quarter. Plus a written and in person apology. Meet with the teacher and administration to let them know you don’t accept this behavior and support them in holding your daughter to a high standard. At the end of the quarter meet again to discuss your daughters attitude toward the teacher to see if she is ready for the punishment to be loosened.

This never works.

OP failed way before this incident.

Her kid will have zero remorse even if she apologizes.

OP needs to figure out how her kid got to this point.

DP. I don’t care if my kid feels remorse. Teacher might have deserved it for all I know. But it’s not okay for kid to say it.

Kid doesn’t need to control her feelings; she needs to control her BEHAVIOR.

Teenagers shouldn’t feel remorse over anti social behavior? You are a stupid person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The issues are far beyond this incident and likely beyond repair. I’ve personally never seen a teen with deep issues grow up to be functional and well liked.

I’m a high school teacher. I teach 9th and 12th grade. I can think of several horribly behaved 9th graders who were respectful and disciplined by 12th.

There seem to be a lot of posters on this thread who don’t know what a modern high school is like. I’ve been told far worse than STFU. I’ve had students make suggestive comments, I’ve been called crude terms, etc. Many teachers don’t have the support of admin either, so consequences like detention are sometimes out of reach.

This parent is trying, and for that I’m grateful. I’ve talked to plenty of parents who defend the behavior, telling me I somehow deserved it. (When you get called a B for simply asking students to open a textbook, it’s hard to believe that’s true.)

So OP, thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The issues are far beyond this incident and likely beyond repair. I’ve personally never seen a teen with deep issues grow up to be functional and well liked.

I’m a high school teacher. I teach 9th and 12th grade. I can think of several horribly behaved 9th graders who were respectful and disciplined by 12th.

There seem to be a lot of posters on this thread who don’t know what a modern high school is like. I’ve been told far worse than STFU. I’ve had students make suggestive comments, I’ve been called crude terms, etc. Many teachers don’t have the support of admin either, so consequences like detention are sometimes out of reach.

This parent is trying, and for that I’m grateful. I’ve talked to plenty of parents who defend the behavior, telling me I somehow deserved it. (When you get called a B for simply asking students to open a textbook, it’s hard to believe that’s true.)

So OP, thank you!

NP. I am also a teacher and this is spot-on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Saying “stfu” to a teacher would end my child’s social life. That is so wildly unacceptable. This isn’t something a week without plans and extra chores will change. She would be on absolute lockdown. No electronics, no social plans, and extra chores for the entire 3rd quarter. Plus a written and in person apology. Meet with the teacher and administration to let them know you don’t accept this behavior and support them in holding your daughter to a high standard. At the end of the quarter meet again to discuss your daughters attitude toward the teacher to see if she is ready for the punishment to be loosened.

This never works.

OP failed way before this incident.

Her kid will have zero remorse even if she apologizes.

OP needs to figure out how her kid got to this point.

DP. I don’t care if my kid feels remorse. Teacher might have deserved it for all I know. But it’s not okay for kid to say it.

Kid doesn’t need to control her feelings; she needs to control her BEHAVIOR.

Teenagers shouldn’t feel remorse over anti social behavior? You are a stupid person.

You can’t read, ma’am.

[Anonymous]

the posters who are blaming the behavior bc she does not have a phone.....I think this shows your insecurity as parents. You know the phone at that age is not healthy but you do it anyway bc you are permissive

[Anonymous]

I went through this in elementary and middle school and bullying a teacher in my junior year of HS. My parents spanked me and told me it was bad but never made me really understand the effect on the adult. Sometimes kids believe adults don’t have feelings and I sometimes had issues with obedience if it was outside of my household. Deal with it swiftly or you will have an embarrassment and a brat on your hands like I was.