Men seem eager to be remarried!

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I'm married but I wouldn't want anyone's seconds they have all been rejected. Hard pass. If he can't make it work with his ex how is he going to make it work with you?

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Anonymous wrote:Late thirties woman looking for a husband. I’m dating a lot of divorced days; mid thirties; make good money; have a kid or two. They all want to settle down and be married and are even open for another kid.

It’s definitely raining men! ☺️

Its raining cast offs- good luck!

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It may be hard to imagine if you’re using the frame of mind from your 20s when it was hard to get a man to be commit… but in your 40s, the roles reverse. Women are the ones who are hard to lock down now.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm married but I wouldn't want anyone's seconds they have all been rejected. Hard pass. If he can't make it work with his ex how is he going to make it work with you?

No kids, no responsibilities. Easy life.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m literally being told by the divorced dads: I want a family structure; I want another kid; I have money and can support a family.

Yeah, they do. They also want someone to do the household stuff (best case, split the load). They do not want to be solely responsible for household and kid stuff. Which is fine, I don't either, but the big question is why did they divorce then?

I divorced when my kids were 15 and 13. I dated but didn't marry until one was graduated from university and the other was a junior in college. I ran my household perfectly fine on my own, and I effectively had 90% physical custody as the kids didn't want to live with their mother for a variety of reasons. Men run their households just fine, thank you very much. And the fact that you automatically slandered an entire gender with this trope indicates lazy, archaic thinking and likely more than a touch of bitterness and projection. You're just not in touch with the real world and your misandry is revolting. Be better.

You are an exception. 90 % of divorces between college educated couples are initiated by women. Male infidelity (#1 cause) ; unequal distribution of labor; controlling tendencies of male spouse; emotional pressure etc.

So yes, something to thing about if a woman dates a divorced man with college degree.

I'm not an exception. Nor would I have called myself a "single dad." I ran a household, yes, but I was divorced, not single.

I wanted to divorce for YEARS before she stepped out. I didn't because I feared how the courts would cut off access to my kids. There was no way I was going to be a Wednesday and every other weekend father. I know a LOT of frustrated men who feel the same way.

Again, I reiterate that men will sacrifice their happiness for their family. I've seen repeatedly, however, that once a woman decides she's unhappy and she blames her husband and the drudgery and labor of raising children for that unhappiness, she will not only be COACHED by therapists to "self-actualize" and leave, she will do so in a hurry. Usually, she wants a big financial payout if she does it. Often, this is with exit affairs -- they get caught up in limerance and think they can divorce, take up with the new guy and collect a fat check every month. At least Virginia and some other states penalize adultery.

The family courts have gotten better about recognizing the contribution of fathers. But they're still woefully behind. And that more than degrees attained, has more to do with the fact that women initiate divorce more than men -- they think they have more to gain.

Weird anomaly; but thanks for posting it over and over again I guess.

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Anonymous wrote:Please tell us where these men are and what they do professionally. I do not know anyone who got married and divorced and, in their mid-30s, also makes enough to support two families. I have trouble believing (despite what they are telling you on dates) that they are financially savvy.

You sound like you're looking to be a SAHM. Most divorced men don't have exes who were SAHMs -- they had exes with jobs. None of the divorced men I know are supporting their ex and the kids on their own. They split assets down the middle with no support payments at all because they make around the same as their ex and can provide about the same for their kids. It's DC -- it's lots of dual income professional couples where both people have decent paying jobs and grad degrees.

In this situation, pairing off with another white collar professional is often extra desirable because the one aspect of your life that suffers most from divorce is housing -- you have to sell the family house it to split the proceeds, or one person has to buy the other one out, and housing here is so pricy. But if you can take the proceeds from your sale of the family home and combine your income with another UMC professional, you can return to pretty much the same quality of life as pre-divorce pretty easily.

Now, if you are a single woman looking for a man to support her while she stays home, none of this is going to work for you. But most late-30s single women have careers and are fine working after they marry. If you wanted to SAHM you should have prioritized finding a man in your 20s, preferably via church or synagogue, because the men who want SAHMs usually marry early.

Lived in WDC since 2005.

Don’t see this but kudos to the women with young kids divorcing neglectful dads and husbands.

Do see high income neglectful men paying child support to their wives who work and are/were default parents. And doing their every other weekend thing plus a dinner, given they are so, so busy and important.

+1. See this everywhere in bethesda.

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Anonymous wrote:Late thirties woman looking for a husband. I’m dating a lot of divorced days; mid thirties; make good money; have a kid or two. They all want to settle down and be married and are even open for another kid.

It’s definitely raining men! ☺️

Acid rain, OP. You're going to get burned.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m literally being told by the divorced dads: I want a family structure; I want another kid; I have money and can support a family.

Yeah, they do. They also want someone to do the household stuff (best case, split the load). They do not want to be solely responsible for household and kid stuff. Which is fine, I don't either, but the big question is why did they divorce then?

I divorced when my kids were 15 and 13. I dated but didn't marry until one was graduated from university and the other was a junior in college. I ran my household perfectly fine on my own, and I effectively had 90% physical custody as the kids didn't want to live with their mother for a variety of reasons. Men run their households just fine, thank you very much. And the fact that you automatically slandered an entire gender with this trope indicates lazy, archaic thinking and likely more than a touch of bitterness and projection. You're just not in touch with the real world and your misandry is revolting. Be better.

You are an exception. 90 % of divorces between college educated couples are initiated by women. Male infidelity (#1 cause) ; unequal distribution of labor; controlling tendencies of male spouse; emotional pressure etc.

So yes, something to thing about if a woman dates a divorced man with college degree.

I'm not an exception. Nor would I have called myself a "single dad." I ran a household, yes, but I was divorced, not single.

I wanted to divorce for YEARS before she stepped out. I didn't because I feared how the courts would cut off access to my kids. There was no way I was going to be a Wednesday and every other weekend father. I know a LOT of frustrated men who feel the same way.

Again, I reiterate that men will sacrifice their happiness for their family. I've seen repeatedly, however, that once a woman decides she's unhappy and she blames her husband and the drudgery and labor of raising children for that unhappiness, she will not only be COACHED by therapists to "self-actualize" and leave, she will do so in a hurry. Usually, she wants a big financial payout if she does it. Often, this is with exit affairs -- they get caught up in limerance and think they can divorce, take up with the new guy and collect a fat check every month. At least Virginia and some other states penalize adultery.

The family courts have gotten better about recognizing the contribution of fathers. But they're still woefully behind. And that more than degrees attained, has more to do with the fact that women initiate divorce more than men -- they think they have more to gain.

Weird anomaly; but thanks for posting it over and over again I guess.

Cling to your delusion, PP. It doesn't make it an "anomaly" or "weird." It's very common. You're the one living in lala land. Maybe stop with your projection and seek help for your mental disorders.

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Anonymous wrote:It seems the harpies are still grumpy from the holidays…

I love how this thread can coexist right next to the “Are divorced men solely looking for sex?” thread and while the two are totally opposite in what they are griping about every harpy agrees that men are definitely always wrong…

They are totally compatible questions …

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Anonymous wrote:I’m literally being told by the divorced dads: I want a family structure; I want another kid; I have money and can support a family.

Yeah, they do. They also want someone to do the household stuff (best case, split the load). They do not want to be solely responsible for household and kid stuff. Which is fine, I don't either, but the big question is why did they divorce then?

I divorced when my kids were 15 and 13. I dated but didn't marry until one was graduated from university and the other was a junior in college. I ran my household perfectly fine on my own, and I effectively had 90% physical custody as the kids didn't want to live with their mother for a variety of reasons. Men run their households just fine, thank you very much. And the fact that you automatically slandered an entire gender with this trope indicates lazy, archaic thinking and likely more than a touch of bitterness and projection. You're just not in touch with the real world and your misandry is revolting. Be better.

You are an exception. 90 % of divorces between college educated couples are initiated by women. Male infidelity (#1 cause) ; unequal distribution of labor; controlling tendencies of male spouse; emotional pressure etc.

So yes, something to thing about if a woman dates a divorced man with college degree.

I'm not an exception. Nor would I have called myself a "single dad." I ran a household, yes, but I was divorced, not single.

I wanted to divorce for YEARS before she stepped out. I didn't because I feared how the courts would cut off access to my kids. There was no way I was going to be a Wednesday and every other weekend father. I know a LOT of frustrated men who feel the same way.

Again, I reiterate that men will sacrifice their happiness for their family. I've seen repeatedly, however, that once a woman decides she's unhappy and she blames her husband and the drudgery and labor of raising children for that unhappiness, she will not only be COACHED by therapists to "self-actualize" and leave, she will do so in a hurry. Usually, she wants a big financial payout if she does it. Often, this is with exit affairs -- they get caught up in limerance and think they can divorce, take up with the new guy and collect a fat check every month. At least Virginia and some other states penalize adultery.

The family courts have gotten better about recognizing the contribution of fathers. But they're still woefully behind. And that more than degrees attained, has more to do with the fact that women initiate divorce more than men -- they think they have more to gain.

Weird anomaly; but thanks for posting it over and over again I guess.

Cling to your delusion, PP. It doesn't make it an "anomaly" or "weird." It's very common. You're the one living in lala land. Maybe stop with your projection and seek help for your mental disorders.

If it’s common please back it up with some statistics.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m literally being told by the divorced dads: I want a family structure; I want another kid; I have money and can support a family.

This involves being part of a blended family--it's really difficult. My best friend went down this path and she's really struggling. Issues with the kids, her husband's ex-wife (and new husband), and soon her own kid on top of all of this--it's a lot.

Those Blender families never work…

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Anonymous wrote:It seems the harpies are still grumpy from the holidays…

I love how this thread can coexist right next to the “Are divorced men solely looking for sex?” thread and while the two are totally opposite in what they are griping about every harpy agrees that men are definitely always wrong…

You're a whole entire bi tch who sought out a mom's group to do the cyber equivalent of yanking a girl's ponytail for attention. You know you're a low value scrote. We know you're a low value scrote. To the corner with you.

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Anonymous wrote:It seems the harpies are still grumpy from the holidays…

I love how this thread can coexist right next to the “Are divorced men solely looking for sex?” thread and while the two are totally opposite in what they are griping about every harpy agrees that men are definitely always wrong…

+1. It's funny to see a website that's so convinced it understands men fail even to hit upon a consistent stereotype.

What are you doing here? Do you have a humiliation fetish?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m literally being told by the divorced dads: I want a family structure; I want another kid; I have money and can support a family.

Yeah, they do. They also want someone to do the household stuff (best case, split the load). They do not want to be solely responsible for household and kid stuff. Which is fine, I don't either, but the big question is why did they divorce then?

I divorced when my kids were 15 and 13. I dated but didn't marry until one was graduated from university and the other was a junior in college. I ran my household perfectly fine on my own, and I effectively had 90% physical custody as the kids didn't want to live with their mother for a variety of reasons. Men run their households just fine, thank you very much. And the fact that you automatically slandered an entire gender with this trope indicates lazy, archaic thinking and likely more than a touch of bitterness and projection. You're just not in touch with the real world and your misandry is revolting. Be better.

You are an exception. 90 % of divorces between college educated couples are initiated by women. Male infidelity (#1 cause) ; unequal distribution of labor; controlling tendencies of male spouse; emotional pressure etc.

So yes, something to thing about if a woman dates a divorced man with college degree.

I'm not an exception. Nor would I have called myself a "single dad." I ran a household, yes, but I was divorced, not single.

I wanted to divorce for YEARS before she stepped out. I didn't because I feared how the courts would cut off access to my kids. There was no way I was going to be a Wednesday and every other weekend father. I know a LOT of frustrated men who feel the same way.

Again, I reiterate that men will sacrifice their happiness for their family. I've seen repeatedly, however, that once a woman decides she's unhappy and she blames her husband and the drudgery and labor of raising children for that unhappiness, she will not only be COACHED by therapists to "self-actualize" and leave, she will do so in a hurry. Usually, she wants a big financial payout if she does it. Often, this is with exit affairs -- they get caught up in limerance and think they can divorce, take up with the new guy and collect a fat check every month. At least Virginia and some other states penalize adultery.

The family courts have gotten better about recognizing the contribution of fathers. But they're still woefully behind. And that more than degrees attained, has more to do with the fact that women initiate divorce more than men -- they think they have more to gain.

Nobody here cares about your fiction. You need to go take some classes because your plot sucks. No high functioning man who can run a household effectively is spending the first few days of the new year crying about his ex online and making up foolishness about what happens in women's therapy sessions.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m literally being told by the divorced dads: I want a family structure; I want another kid; I have money and can support a family.

Yeah, they do. They also want someone to do the household stuff (best case, split the load). They do not want to be solely responsible for household and kid stuff. Which is fine, I don't either, but the big question is why did they divorce then?

I divorced when my kids were 15 and 13. I dated but didn't marry until one was graduated from university and the other was a junior in college. I ran my household perfectly fine on my own, and I effectively had 90% physical custody as the kids didn't want to live with their mother for a variety of reasons. Men run their households just fine, thank you very much. And the fact that you automatically slandered an entire gender with this trope indicates lazy, archaic thinking and likely more than a touch of bitterness and projection. You're just not in touch with the real world and your misandry is revolting. Be better.

You are an exception. 90 % of divorces between college educated couples are initiated by women. Male infidelity (#1 cause) ; unequal distribution of labor; controlling tendencies of male spouse; emotional pressure etc.

So yes, something to thing about if a woman dates a divorced man with college degree.

I'm not an exception. Nor would I have called myself a "single dad." I ran a household, yes, but I was divorced, not single.

I wanted to divorce for YEARS before she stepped out. I didn't because I feared how the courts would cut off access to my kids. There was no way I was going to be a Wednesday and every other weekend father. I know a LOT of frustrated men who feel the same way.

Again, I reiterate that men will sacrifice their happiness for their family. I've seen repeatedly, however, that once a woman decides she's unhappy and she blames her husband and the drudgery and labor of raising children for that unhappiness, she will not only be COACHED by therapists to "self-actualize" and leave, she will do so in a hurry. Usually, she wants a big financial payout if she does it. Often, this is with exit affairs -- they get caught up in limerance and think they can divorce, take up with the new guy and collect a fat check every month. At least Virginia and some other states penalize adultery.

The family courts have gotten better about recognizing the contribution of fathers. But they're still woefully behind. And that more than degrees attained, has more to do with the fact that women initiate divorce more than men -- they think they have more to gain.

Weird anomaly; but thanks for posting it over and over again I guess.

Cling to your delusion, PP. It doesn't make it an "anomaly" or "weird." It's very common. You're the one living in lala land. Maybe stop with your projection and seek help for your mental disorders.

NP. The irony. You're a divorced mouth breather so bitter and angry at women that you're in a mom's support group looking for women to fight with. A panel of psychiatrists couldn't fully diagnose all of your personality disorders.