Did you buy alcohol for your Freshman when you dropped them off?

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Anonymous wrote:Nope but I did pack condoms. Along the lines of having a drink at home, I gave her, her first gummy. Better to know what it feels like safe at home. I’m not buying alcohol or weed for her.

So, you basically told her "go have sex with people you don't know!" on her first night? why not give her booze and drugs too?

Do you really believe your 18+ college kid isn’t having sex?

why is it any better to give them condoms than give them a bottle of tequila?

Giving your kid condoms is not like giving your kid tequila it’s like giving them an uber account so they don’t drink a ride.

A pack of condoms on the first day of college is literally encouraging them to have sex with strangers. Maybe that's what you want for your kids? But god forbid they have a bottle of tequila!

A bottle of tequila and hooking up with strangers can be related.

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If a kid drinks a bottle of tequila, he or she will likely be having sex with a stranger shortly thereafter.

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No . good grief

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Anonymous wrote:If a kid drinks a bottle of tequila, he or she will likely be having sex with a stranger shortly thereafter.

The parent who drops their daughter off at college and hands them a pack of condoms but screams at their daughter for wanting to explore alcohol in a safe environment is a parent who is setting their daughter up for a difficult freshman year.

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Condoms = “when you decide to have sex, be safe”. Consensual sex is legal in all 50 states.
Bottle of tequila = “who cares about the law. Or learning. You’re here to party”. Underage drinking is illegal on college campuses.

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Anonymous wrote:Condoms = “when you decide to have sex, be safe”. Consensual sex is legal in all 50 states.
Bottle of tequila = “who cares about the law. Or learning. You’re here to party”. Underage drinking is illegal on college campuses.

if you don't think your kid sees their first week at college as this, you're deluded and it's your kid who is probably going to pay the price when they get in over their heads.

smarten up, for your kid's sake.

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Anonymous wrote:Condoms = “when you decide to have sex, be safe”. Consensual sex is legal in all 50 states.
Bottle of tequila = “who cares about the law. Or learning. You’re here to party”. Underage drinking is illegal on college campuses.

if you don't think your kid sees their first week at college as this, you're deluded and it's your kid who is probably going to pay the price when they get in over their heads.

smarten up, for your kid's sake.

Mine didn't party the entire first year, guess I don't have a kid.

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Sounds like your kid is trying to convince you everyone is doing it. Not correct

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Anonymous wrote:If a kid drinks a bottle of tequila, he or she will likely be having sex with a stranger shortly thereafter.

The parent who drops their daughter off at college and hands them a pack of condoms but screams at their daughter for wanting to explore alcohol in a safe environment is a parent who is setting their daughter up for a difficult freshman year.

The safe environment for your kid to explore alcohol isn’t alone on her dorm room early in freshman year. If you feel strongly that her first exposure to alcohol shouldn’t be at college parties then let her drink at home or at parties with familiar people she trusts the summer before.

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Anonymous wrote:Condoms = “when you decide to have sex, be safe”. Consensual sex is legal in all 50 states.
Bottle of tequila = “who cares about the law. Or learning. You’re here to party”. Underage drinking is illegal on college campuses.

if you don't think your kid sees their first week at college as this, you're deluded and it's your kid who is probably going to pay the price when they get in over their heads.

smarten up, for your kid's sake.

Mine didn't party the entire first year, guess I don't have a kid.

is that what they told you?



and you believed them?



I told my parents that too!

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No, but I know he bought some with a fake ID.

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Anonymous wrote:Condoms = “when you decide to have sex, be safe”. Consensual sex is legal in all 50 states.
Bottle of tequila = “who cares about the law. Or learning. You’re here to party”. Underage drinking is illegal on college campuses.

if you don't think your kid sees their first week at college as this, you're deluded and it's your kid who is probably going to pay the price when they get in over their heads.

smarten up, for your kid's sake.

Not to be sanctimonious, but I have four children. Two have already graduated college and have successful careers, one is in college, one in HS. I have no doubt they partied. But they also knew they were in college to earn a degree that would provide an opportunity for good careers. We didn’t give them alcohol, but did give them condoms - not as in “go sleep around” but “be careful when you do have sex”. Only one partied with the frat scene that we know of, and the other 2 are more of the “close circle of friends” types and not massive party type (introverts that don’t like big crowds). I imagine they drink in small group settings.
They can figure out how to get booze like every other college kid, and that doesn’t mean getting open and laced bottles from rapist frat boys. There’s lots of ways to get booze, but parents should not be supplying it.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope but I did pack condoms. Along the lines of having a drink at home, I gave her, her first gummy. Better to know what it feels like safe at home. I’m not buying alcohol or weed for her.

So, you basically told her "go have sex with people you don't know!" on her first night? why not give her booze and drugs too?

Do you really believe your 18+ college kid isn’t having sex?

why is it any better to give them condoms than give them a bottle of tequila?

Giving your kid condoms is not like giving your kid tequila it’s like giving them an uber account so they don’t drink a ride.

A pack of condoms on the first day of college is literally encouraging them to have sex with strangers. Maybe that's what you want for your kids? But god forbid they have a bottle of tequila!

The latter is not legal.

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Anonymous wrote:If so, what is the reasoning?

No, just a huge bottle of domestic vodka.

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Anonymous wrote:No. What a weird question. I don’t know anyone that would do this.

Same. What decent parent buys alcohol for a 17 yr old?!

One who loves them enough to keep them from seeking out older frat guys to help them procure the booze they're going to drink anyway?

So instead of teaching her not to get drunk with strange men, you give her alcohol so she is already wasted by the time she gets to the frat party? What a way to set her up for success.

You do know kids drink at college, right?

Sorry, rather her have her mixing her own drinks than letting some rapist at a frat do it.

Some do. Some don't.

Tell yourself what you need to if it helps you sleep better at night, but the more you shelter your kid, the wilder they're going to go at college when they escape from your overbearing grip.

Parent of a senior here. Somehow doing fine, even though I did not buy them alcohol. YMMV.