One-sided exclusivity

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not serious doesn't imply having sex with multiple casual partners simultaneously. It.simply.means the guy isn't ready to fully commit. And the caution is justified by women who will use any excuse to act in a promiscuous manner. That's fine but don't be surprised if it's a.turnoff to serious guys. How is anyone supposed to know that they want to commit to you after a.couple.of dates? They need to see how you behave under.different scenarios. If your reaction to not getting immediate emotional gratification from the guy is to immediately run out and have sex with other people, don't.act.so.surprised.

Men are known to be dating multiple women way more than other way around. Don’t pretend it’s not the case. They are testosterone dependent and not serous for them means sleeping with several women. Just read comments on this forum !

I won’t commit to anyone myself after sleeping couple times. But it’s very easy to figure out multi dating pattern: I’m
not spending my prime dating evenings Friday-Saturday alone when a dude always “has his kids over”, “visits mom” , “out with buddies” etc

Except the reality is women easily attract 10x the attention most men can attract. Just because he says he doesn't want to be exclusive yet doesn't mean he's having sex with other women. Women interpret it this way to justify themelves banging multiple guys. A semi attractive woman could be banging multiple guys a week if she wanted without trying very hard. Most guys could t even come close.

Have the sense to recognize when a guy who wants to be serious is testing you. He wants to see how you will react. If your reaction is "OK I guess I can go out and bang multiple guys now" you are not the woman that the kind of guys you claim to be looking for would ever want

Listen, women are not children. If a man says he’s not ready to be exclusive (and I do always ask if that includes sex), I believe it. When people tell me what they are doing and who they are I’m not mistaken. Also when a man is continuously absent on prime dating nights - I might give it a few weeks to see if it’s a trend or an accident. But I’m
not sitting there waiting for him to call. Maybe I’m not banging 3 other guys but 1 other guy who is rather well known to me for sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not serious doesn't imply having sex with multiple casual partners simultaneously. It.simply.means the guy isn't ready to fully commit. And the caution is justified by women who will use any excuse to act in a promiscuous manner. That's fine but don't be surprised if it's a.turnoff to serious guys. How is anyone supposed to know that they want to commit to you after a.couple.of dates? They need to see how you behave under.different scenarios. If your reaction to not getting immediate emotional gratification from the guy is to immediately run out and have sex with other people, don't.act.so.surprised.

Men are known to be dating multiple women way more than other way around. Don’t pretend it’s not the case. They are testosterone dependent and not serous for them means sleeping with several women. Just read comments on this forum !

I won’t commit to anyone myself after sleeping couple times. But it’s very easy to figure out multi dating pattern: I’m
not spending my prime dating evenings Friday-Saturday alone when a dude always “has his kids over”, “visits mom” , “out with buddies” etc

Except the reality is women easily attract 10x the attention most men can attract. Just because he says he doesn't want to be exclusive yet doesn't mean he's having sex with other women. Women interpret it this way to justify themelves banging multiple guys. A semi attractive woman could be banging multiple guys a week if she wanted without trying very hard. Most guys could t even come close.

Have the sense to recognize when a guy who wants to be serious is testing you. He wants to see how you will react. If your reaction is "OK I guess I can go out and bang multiple guys now" you are not the woman that the kind of guys you claim to be looking for would ever want

Listen, women are not children. If a man says he’s not ready to be exclusive (and I do always ask if that includes sex), I believe it. When people tell me what they are doing and who they are I’m not mistaken. Also when a man is continuously absent on prime dating nights - I might give it a few weeks to see if it’s a trend or an accident. But I’m
not sitting there waiting for him to call. Maybe I’m not banging 3 other guys but 1 other guy who is rather well known to me for sure.

You make it sound as if your motivation to bang one or more other guys is that you feel spurned because your primary target wasn't willing to immediately cater to your emotional neediness.

Wow you really showed him, didn't you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not serious doesn't imply having sex with multiple casual partners simultaneously. It.simply.means the guy isn't ready to fully commit. And the caution is justified by women who will use any excuse to act in a promiscuous manner. That's fine but don't be surprised if it's a.turnoff to serious guys. How is anyone supposed to know that they want to commit to you after a.couple.of dates? They need to see how you behave under.different scenarios. If your reaction to not getting immediate emotional gratification from the guy is to immediately run out and have sex with other people, don't.act.so.surprised.

Men are known to be dating multiple women way more than other way around. Don’t pretend it’s not the case. They are testosterone dependent and not serous for them means sleeping with several women. Just read comments on this forum !

I won’t commit to anyone myself after sleeping couple times. But it’s very easy to figure out multi dating pattern: I’m
not spending my prime dating evenings Friday-Saturday alone when a dude always “has his kids over”, “visits mom” , “out with buddies” etc

Except the reality is women easily attract 10x the attention most men can attract. Just because he says he doesn't want to be exclusive yet doesn't mean he's having sex with other women. Women interpret it this way to justify themelves banging multiple guys. A semi attractive woman could be banging multiple guys a week if she wanted without trying very hard. Most guys could t even come close.

Have the sense to recognize when a guy who wants to be serious is testing you. He wants to see how you will react. If your reaction is "OK I guess I can go out and bang multiple guys now" you are not the woman that the kind of guys you claim to be looking for would ever want

Listen, women are not children. If a man says he’s not ready to be exclusive (and I do always ask if that includes sex), I believe it. When people tell me what they are doing and who they are I’m not mistaken. Also when a man is continuously absent on prime dating nights - I might give it a few weeks to see if it’s a trend or an accident. But I’m
not sitting there waiting for him to call. Maybe I’m not banging 3 other guys but 1 other guy who is rather well known to me for sure.

You make it sound as if your motivation to bang one or more other guys is that you feel spurned because your primary target wasn't willing to immediately cater to your emotional neediness.

Wow you really showed him, didn't you.

Not really. 1. I am capable of being interested in couple men at the same time. 2. It goes both ways - if he can’t abstain from seeing other women while he dates me, he’s also securing his emotional “fallback”. No?

[Anonymous]

Do whatever pleases you to do, but except the reality that if you insist on being promiscuous based on what you think other people are doing, you're not going to be very desirable as a long term serious partner to the kind of guys you say you want to be with.

Also if you are honest with any new guy you meet--telling them you are randomly banging guys casually just because you can--you are unlikely to ever get very far with the kind of guy you claim to want to be with.

Bottom line, you are not serious girlfriend or potential wife or mom material to any guy with options.

Like it or not. If you're not attracting the kind of guy you say you want to be with, it's time to start looking at your own behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do whatever pleases you to do, but except the reality that if you insist on being promiscuous based on what you think other people are doing, you're not going to be very desirable as a long term serious partner to the kind of guys you say you want to be with.

Also if you are honest with any new guy you meet--telling them you are randomly banging guys casually just because you can--you are unlikely to ever get very far with the kind of guy you claim to want to be with.

Bottom line, you are not serious girlfriend or potential wife or mom material to any guy with options.

Like it or not. If you're not attracting the kind of guy you say you want to be with, it's time to start looking at your own behavior.

Great, so the answer is lie. Of course, all other ladies your imaginary “high quality guy” dated were serious and exclusive with him the very first night they did it row.