One-sided exclusivity

[Anonymous]

I always tried to date 3 men at a time until one is almost certain to propose.

It is such a waste of time to date serially. If you need to break off with one or if they break off with you, it is so much easier when you have two others going. If one does not work out, then you have to start from scratch. So I always dated and been intimate with 3 men at a time. It is small enough number that you can manage to meet with all of them once a week.

Until I was pretty sure that DH was going to propose I was dating two other men. There is no need to talk about exclusivity. It is better not discussed at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I always tried to date 3 men at a time until one is almost certain to propose.

It is such a waste of time to date serially. If you need to break off with one or if they break off with you, it is so much easier when you have two others going. If one does not work out, then you have to start from scratch. So I always dated and been intimate with 3 men at a time. It is small enough number that you can manage to meet with all of them once a week.

Until I was pretty sure that DH was going to propose I was dating two other men. There is no need to talk about exclusivity. It is better not discussed at all.

Did you always use condoms ? What about O sex?

[Anonymous]

Sleeping with more than one person is totally gross whether you’re male or female. Ewwww

[Anonymous]

I don't sleep with more than one man at a time.

And I don't sleep with a man unless he agrees to be exclusive with me and has shown me std testing.

A man might sleep with a woman whose sleeping around...but he's unlikely to marry her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't sleep with more than one man at a time.

And I don't sleep with a man unless he agrees to be exclusive with me and has shown me std testing.

A man might sleep with a woman whose sleeping around...but he's unlikely to marry her.

Ok he’ll br exclusive with you. For 2 weeks. So he can ditch condoms. And he’ll he still sleeping with others. This is what men do

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't sleep with more than one man at a time.

And I don't sleep with a man unless he agrees to be exclusive with me and has shown me std testing.

A man might sleep with a woman who’s sleeping around...but he's unlikely to marry her.

Most men don’t want to marry anyway. And how can you agree to be exclusive if you didn’t tryout them sexually ? Sorry but as a woman I had some lackluster partners who did want to be exclusive. But I just didn’t enjoy being sexual with them and knew it wouldn’t improve !

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I always tried to date 3 men at a time until one is almost certain to propose.

It is such a waste of time to date serially. If you need to break off with one or if they break off with you, it is so much easier when you have two others going. If one does not work out, then you have to start from scratch. So I always dated and been intimate with 3 men at a time. It is small enough number that you can manage to meet with all of them once a week.

Until I was pretty sure that DH was going to propose I was dating two other men. There is no need to talk about exclusivity. It is better not discussed at all.

Your DH proposed when you weren't dating exclusively? What an idiot. Literally a cuck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't sleep with more than one man at a time.

And I don't sleep with a man unless he agrees to be exclusive with me and has shown me std testing.

A man might sleep with a woman whose sleeping around...but he's unlikely to marry her.

Ok he’ll br exclusive with you. For 2 weeks. So he can ditch condoms. And he’ll he still sleeping with others. This is what men do

See, I'm not an idiot, so I don't ditch condoms, regardless of what a man tells me about exclusivity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always tried to date 3 men at a time until one is almost certain to propose.

It is such a waste of time to date serially. If you need to break off with one or if they break off with you, it is so much easier when you have two others going. If one does not work out, then you have to start from scratch. So I always dated and been intimate with 3 men at a time. It is small enough number that you can manage to meet with all of them once a week.

Until I was pretty sure that DH was going to propose I was dating two other men. There is no need to talk about exclusivity. It is better not discussed at all.

Your DH proposed when you weren't dating exclusively? What an idiot. Literally a cuck.

I’m not PP, but both myself and many women I know wasted years on men who said they’d propose and never did. With my ex, I told him I was dating for marriage and he agreed, I waited 2 years for a ring, pressured him for an additional year (and he kept promising “it’s coming soon!”) then finally broke up. 3 years of my life wasted.

I think it’s very smart for women to continue dating other men until engaged. Even if you give a man a 2 year deadline, by that point you’re extremely emotionally entangled and it’s hard to just end things. Better to keep your options open and not get attached to one person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always tried to date 3 men at a time until one is almost certain to propose.

It is such a waste of time to date serially. If you need to break off with one or if they break off with you, it is so much easier when you have two others going. If one does not work out, then you have to start from scratch. So I always dated and been intimate with 3 men at a time. It is small enough number that you can manage to meet with all of them once a week.

Until I was pretty sure that DH was going to propose I was dating two other men. There is no need to talk about exclusivity. It is better not discussed at all.

Your DH proposed when you weren't dating exclusively? What an idiot. Literally a cuck.

I’m not PP, but both myself and many women I know wasted years on men who said they’d propose and never did. With my ex, I told him I was dating for marriage and he agreed, I waited 2 years for a ring, pressured him for an additional year (and he kept promising “it’s coming soon!”) then finally broke up. 3 years of my life wasted.

I think it’s very smart for women to continue dating other men until engaged. Even if you give a man a 2 year deadline, by that point you’re extremely emotionally entangled and it’s hard to just end things. Better to keep your options open and not get attached to one person.

Yes, in all these 19th century novels women had several suitors and were going out with all of them freely until one proposes. Woman is not a private property, and if a man didnt take committment to take care of her, build a future together, at a minimum move in, there is no need to be exclusive. In modern times because of availability of birth control and barrier protections from STDs, women can also be intimate with several men at the same time.

Men however are not happy with these trends in dating. Gender equality is not in their favor when it gets to pretty women who are in demand, or the gender stats are not in favor of men in a specific geographic area.

In my view, this would push a truly interested man to commit faster than being his deeply attached shadow.

[Anonymous]

Don’t kiss and tell. If you’re not exclusive, you can say you’re not quite ready for that step but deflect any questions probing for details if the guys asks for exclusivity, consider it and let him know your decision. That prevents most of the hard feelings and lights a little fire under those afraid to lose you. And those that don’t, well, f’em. Literally. LOL.