Disagreement over breast implants

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You're 48. Get a good bra. Not worth messing with your overall health for this.

I sort of wish I'd gotten mine done at 35, but now I'm 53 and let's just say the importance of looking cute naked has gone down for me.

But glad I don't have another thing in my life to be worried about health-wise. Also, not a great example for my daughter. (My mom got implants when I was a teenager, and it was weird and made me judge her and my own situation differently - which is probably why I didn't do it.)

This is often underlooked as a side effect of these surgeries. We spend so much time teaching our children (daughters especially) that their worth is not in their looks and their body. That they don't need to alter their body to appeal to other people. So what kind of message does it send when they see their parents doing all sorts of different surgeries to alter themselves to make them more attractive to other people? It's totally backwards.

Personally, I think a one off surgery to correct something you dislike is ok and can be rationalized, but I do think about this with people who are constantly going under the knife and tweaking themselves in an endless pursuit of some kind of perfection. I always think about this looking at pics of Ivanka with her constantly changing face and body. Poor Arabella looks a lot like her originally before the gazillion surgeries and has to be getting the message that's totally unacceptable.

Nah, it starts with the first one, but it very rarely ends there. And even if it is "just" the boobs at 40-45, it's the redo at 50-55, etc... There aren't a whole lot of truly "one and done" cosmetic procedures.

And pp's point about what it does to a daughter to watch her mother become someone else, while the kid is being told how beautiful she is as her natural self... that's chillingly accurate. We already have the first generation of kids raised by surgically-altered parents, and it's not great when you consider their self-esteem. More surgery isn't likely to improve their mental health!

False. If you go to an excellent surgeon, your implants can last many decades.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes the scarring is pretty bad. Depends on the procedure. I know a woman with scars that look like crucifixes.

This sounds like a breast reduction or lift. They have those T scars but most people who are getting that done think it's a worthwhile trade off for comfort.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're 48. Get a good bra. Not worth messing with your overall health for this.

I sort of wish I'd gotten mine done at 35, but now I'm 53 and let's just say the importance of looking cute naked has gone down for me.

But glad I don't have another thing in my life to be worried about health-wise. Also, not a great example for my daughter. (My mom got implants when I was a teenager, and it was weird and made me judge her and my own situation differently - which is probably why I didn't do it.)

This is often underlooked as a side effect of these surgeries. We spend so much time teaching our children (daughters especially) that their worth is not in their looks and their body. That they don't need to alter their body to appeal to other people. So what kind of message does it send when they see their parents doing all sorts of different surgeries to alter themselves to make them more attractive to other people? It's totally backwards.

Personally, I think a one off surgery to correct something you dislike is ok and can be rationalized, but I do think about this with people who are constantly going under the knife and tweaking themselves in an endless pursuit of some kind of perfection. I always think about this looking at pics of Ivanka with her constantly changing face and body. Poor Arabella looks a lot like her originally before the gazillion surgeries and has to be getting the message that's totally unacceptable.

Teenagers are not stupid. When the one-off thing is your boobs or lipo or ozempic to lose 15 vanity pounds, they know you were full of sh** all along and that the world and their mother does judge bodies.

[Anonymous]

People are so dramatic on this thread. Probably triggering all their own insecurities. Get a good surgeon and you’ll be fine, OP.

[Anonymous]

I had mine done last fall after having three babies in under five years. I had enough "before" pictures in bikinis so that the surgeon knew exactly what I wanted and nothing more. Fitness training helped the rest of my body get back into pre-baby shape. My husband was supportive but only after we did a lot of risk research. He is now very happy that I'm back to my pre-baby shape.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had mine done last fall after having three babies in under five years. I had enough "before" pictures in bikinis so that the surgeon knew exactly what I wanted and nothing more. Fitness training helped the rest of my body get back into pre-baby shape. My husband was supportive but only after we did a lot of risk research. He is now very happy that I'm back to my pre-baby shape.

What a world that we live in - a person can have three babies in 5 years and we have to somehow applaud that it doesn’t show?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got them at 37 after having three kids.

I’ve had no issues at all, easy recovery, look great. I’m small and fit and went with 325 cc as I was in a similar place- just empty skin bags from breastfeeding. I’m glad I did this!

OP is 48

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I got them at 37 after having three kids.

I’ve had no issues at all, easy recovery, look great. I’m small and fit and went with 325 cc as I was in a similar place- just empty skin bags from breastfeeding. I’m glad I did this!

OP is 48

So?

[Anonymous]

It is invasive and not necessary. Just wear padding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I got them at 37 after having three kids.

I’ve had no issues at all, easy recovery, look great. I’m small and fit and went with 325 cc as I was in a similar place- just empty skin bags from breastfeeding. I’m glad I did this!

OP is 48

Yeah, higher chance of getting breast cancer as you get older and harder to detect if you have implants. But, I could see older women getting implants after mastectomy.

[Anonymous]

Compromise with your husband; just get one side done.

[Anonymous]

Look, you can do what you want. It's your body and your resources. But your husband is right to view these sorts of surgeries as unnecessary waste and risk. They are. I hope whatever you decide that you at least appreciate your husband's perspective.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Fake boobs are low class. In case you care about that.

🫣 I hate to admit it but I always subconsciously think that too. And yes, honey, we can tell, even if you went for “tasteful”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 48, happily married with three kids. My boobs have been reduced to flat pancakes after breastfeeding our kids for a total of four years. The youngest is 7 so I think I’ve given my body enough of a chance to “bounce” back and the boobs are just not budging. I’m in great shape otherwise.

I would love to get conservative implants, just so my clothes fit the way they used to. I don’t even necessarily want a bigger bra size, I just want more fullness.

DH thinks this is crazy. He thinks anyone wanting plastic surgery is vain and almost mentally ill. It’s not a financial issue.

WWYD?

Guys always say that about implants. All I can tell you is that if your bed is creaky, get it fixed before you get them. Lol.

[Anonymous]

If getting implants will make you happier & money is not an issue, then by all means your husband should support you.

It is wrong for him to tell you that anyone who wants them is mentally ill.

If I were you - - I would go ahead ➕ get them.
After all, you have had three kids, he wasn’t the one who had to experience changes to his body!