Disagreement over breast implants

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife wanted them, I was reluctant to insert myself into the decision as I both thought I'd enjoy them (and thus self-interested) and was concerned about the risks. Also in case she decided against I never wanted her to think her current body was displeasing.

She was adamant and it worked out well.

Yeah I think the DH can never good give a good answer beyond “whatever you want, dear.”

Your kids will tell everyone, just FYI. A neighbor got hers done (into a B cup) after having four kids and it was all we could talk about for months. And her kids made sure to mention it when meeting new people a decade later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife wanted them, I was reluctant to insert myself into the decision as I both thought I'd enjoy them (and thus self-interested) and was concerned about the risks. Also in case she decided against I never wanted her to think her current body was displeasing.

She was adamant and it worked out well.

Yeah I think the DH can never good give a good answer beyond “whatever you want, dear.”

Your kids will tell everyone, just FYI. A neighbor got hers done (into a B cup) after having four kids and it was all we could talk about for months. And her kids made sure to mention it when meeting new people a decade later.

False! Keep kids outta' grown up - adult conversations and business and they won't.

[Anonymous]

Op, I feel you, but try gaining some weight and do plank exercises. Since you are in great shape, sounds like you just need a little fat 😜 but seriously trying this for a few months and see.
My boobs got much bigger from the plank workout!
Also, menopause you will naturally gain lbs and the boobs can be a big surprise, lol
Just a heads up! It's wild.

[Anonymous]

DH here. It's an unnecessary risk. Also, they look weird. A 48 year old woman with really tight boobs. It's also very common for women your age to get implants before having an affair and leaving the marriage.
Have a conversation with him and address his concerns in a respectful manner. Don't do the angry woman "my body, my choice" routine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s crazy because we know they make you sick. Best case they just cause inflammation throughout your body. Also, fake boobs look fake no matter where they are placed or how small they are. Team DH.

This. No fake boobs look real. And your body will treat them as the foreign substance they are. Gravity will continue to work, resulting in the need for additional surgeries to keep lifting/replacing.

Just love your damn body. Your spouse does. You can too. It's pathetic that women feel the need to cut themselves apart to "feel better". Feeling better is a choice you can make right now, with respect for the body you have.

You don't owe the world some kind of stupid beauty ideal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife wanted them, I was reluctant to insert myself into the decision as I both thought I'd enjoy them (and thus self-interested) and was concerned about the risks. Also in case she decided against I never wanted her to think her current body was displeasing.

She was adamant and it worked out well.

Yeah I think the DH can never good give a good answer beyond “whatever you want, dear.”

Your kids will tell everyone, just FYI. A neighbor got hers done (into a B cup) after having four kids and it was all we could talk about for months. And her kids made sure to mention it when meeting new people a decade later.

False! Keep kids outta' grown up - adult conversations and business and they won't.

So you're gonna lie to your kids about why you can't lift anything for months?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I personally would never do it. It’s a major surgery and they have to be redone every 10 years. I would be upset if my dh did an elective surgery and I had to pick up all the slack while he recovered.

But what if the surgery added two inches to his dick

Women don't actually want this. Getting hit in the cervix isn't a pleasant feeling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I personally would never do it. It’s a major surgery and they have to be redone every 10 years. I would be upset if my dh did an elective surgery and I had to pick up all the slack while he recovered.

But what if the surgery added two inches to his dick

Women don't actually want this. Getting hit in the cervix isn't a pleasant feeling.

That depends on the starting point. If he’s four inches, another 2 would be very welcome particularly if it came with more thickness. If he’s already 7, then not really. Kind of like an A to a C would be a nice increase, but a D to G would be ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, I feel you, but try gaining some weight and do plank exercises. Since you are in great shape, sounds like you just need a little fat 😜 but seriously trying this for a few months and see.
My boobs got much bigger from the plank workout!
Also, menopause you will naturally gain lbs and the boobs can be a big surprise, lol
Just a heads up! It's wild.

haha yes. I actually have cleavage now.

But the increase in size is actually due to more fat, not more breast tissue. So while they are technically bigger, the boob is spread out more towards the outter edge of your ribs under your arms.

I have always been small, didn't even get much bigger when I was pregnant and nursing.

I've thought about implants, and like other DH's, my DH said he would rather I did not risk my life for vanity. I guess that is a testament to the fact that he would rather have me alive than me having bigger boobs. But, he said he has always enjoyed my small boobs so he's fine with it. But, if I really wanted it, he would support me and said he'd be happy with them either way, though he would not be happy if the sensitivity went away.

In the end, I opted to not do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife wanted them, I was reluctant to insert myself into the decision as I both thought I'd enjoy them (and thus self-interested) and was concerned about the risks. Also in case she decided against I never wanted her to think her current body was displeasing.

She was adamant and it worked out well.

Yeah I think the DH can never good give a good answer beyond “whatever you want, dear.”

Your kids will tell everyone, just FYI. A neighbor got hers done (into a B cup) after having four kids and it was all we could talk about for months. And her kids made sure to mention it when meeting new people a decade later.

False! Keep kids outta' grown up - adult conversations and business and they won't.

So you're gonna lie to your kids about why you can't lift anything for months?

Sooooo what else do you share with your minor age kids?
Tell us how your kids BLAB all your family business and embarrass you to everyone on a regular.

[Anonymous]

Isn't it a long painful recovery

[Anonymous]

Get them and go bigger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife wanted them, I was reluctant to insert myself into the decision as I both thought I'd enjoy them (and thus self-interested) and was concerned about the risks. Also in case she decided against I never wanted her to think her current body was displeasing.

She was adamant and it worked out well.

DH here in the exact scenario. The end result is that she now has amazing bewbs and is really happy with them.

[Anonymous]

I got them at 37 after having three kids.

I’ve had no issues at all, easy recovery, look great. I’m small and fit and went with 325 cc as I was in a similar place- just empty skin bags from breastfeeding. I’m glad I did this!

[Anonymous]

OP, do what you wnat. It's your body.
And do not listen to the incel trolls on this thread. They pollute most threads in Relationships.