Husband checks out 20 yr olds

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Anonymous wrote:Tell him he looks like a creepy pedo. Men think they’re so subtle when they do this but it’s so obvious and gross.

The way they also love to act smug about this, as if it's some failing on their wife's part or some proof of virility on their part when really it just makes them look like a total creepy loser. It's mind boggling.

Absolutely. Women remember just *existing* as a young girl and seeing all the nasty old men drooling over us. It wasn’t attractive then and it’s still not.

I think whats so annoying to me about it is the men acting like it's a two way street, like they've noticed these young girls and de facto the girls have noticed them back. Like it's some mutual transaction or attraction and the wife is some estranged, angry third party. When the reality is, the young girls want NOTHING to do with men they consider ancient, and if anything most of them feel more connection with the wife. As you said so well, we all remember being that age and having that experience. It was a mix between being grossed out by the old guy staring at you and pity/sympathy for the wife who has to put up with this repulsive man child. Men dont get that when they do this they truly alienate themselves from everyone. They do this antisocial behavior and then get dumped (70% of divorce filed by women) estranged from their kids and lonely. And expect everyone to cry for the "male loneliness epidemic". It's a joke!

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i never felt uncomfortable with a man just looking - emphasis on the just looking not leering or making weird comments.

And despite what is often claimed. we women look to, it's literally hardwired biology, what we don't do and this is largely do to social conditioning is catacalling.

Looking /noticing an attractive person not a problem.
Leering and catcalling a problem

[Anonymous]

Men “just looking” absolutely shaped my teens and 20s. I hated to go into the Walmart by myself. I felt nervous about walking alone in dc, especially on quiet blocks where it might just be me and a looking man. I absolutely avoided wearing certain clothes in certain places, I always had a cardigan or something. I learned not to laugh too loudly in public, rock to a beat on my headphones, or do anything else that might draw more unwanted attention.

At times I liked the attention, but mostly I think it just restricted my freedom

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell him he looks like a creepy pedo. Men think they’re so subtle when they do this but it’s so obvious and gross.

The way they also love to act smug about this, as if it's some failing on their wife's part or some proof of virility on their part when really it just makes them look like a total creepy loser. It's mind boggling.

Absolutely. Women remember just *existing* as a young girl and seeing all the nasty old men drooling over us. It wasn’t attractive then and it’s still not.

I think whats so annoying to me about it is the men acting like it's a two way street, like they've noticed these young girls and de facto the girls have noticed them back. Like it's some mutual transaction or attraction and the wife is some estranged, angry third party. When the reality is, the young girls want NOTHING to do with men they consider ancient, and if anything most of them feel more connection with the wife. As you said so well, we all remember being that age and having that experience. It was a mix between being grossed out by the old guy staring at you and pity/sympathy for the wife who has to put up with this repulsive man child. Men dont get that when they do this they truly alienate themselves from everyone. They do this antisocial behavior and then get dumped (70% of divorce filed by women) estranged from their kids and lonely. And expect everyone to cry for the "male loneliness epidemic". It's a joke!

Yikes!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men “just looking” absolutely shaped my teens and 20s. I hated to go into the Walmart by myself. I felt nervous about walking alone in dc, especially on quiet blocks where it might just be me and a looking man. I absolutely avoided wearing certain clothes in certain places, I always had a cardigan or something. I learned not to laugh too loudly in public, rock to a beat on my headphones, or do anything else that might draw more unwanted attention.

At times I liked the attention, but mostly I think it just restricted my freedom

Honestly it’s really not normal to “rock to a beat on my headphones” in public so yes I think you liked the attention.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Men “just looking” absolutely shaped my teens and 20s. I hated to go into the Walmart by myself. I felt nervous about walking alone in dc, especially on quiet blocks where it might just be me and a looking man. I absolutely avoided wearing certain clothes in certain places, I always had a cardigan or something. I learned not to laugh too loudly in public, rock to a beat on my headphones, or do anything else that might draw more unwanted attention.

At times I liked the attention, but mostly I think it just restricted my freedom

Honestly it’s really not normal to “rock to a beat on my headphones” in public so yes I think you liked the attention.

Yeah, I stare at people who do this too. And they are rarely attractive young women.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell him he looks like a creepy pedo. Men think they’re so subtle when they do this but it’s so obvious and gross.

The way they also love to act smug about this, as if it's some failing on their wife's part or some proof of virility on their part when really it just makes them look like a total creepy loser. It's mind boggling.

Absolutely. Women remember just *existing* as a young girl and seeing all the nasty old men drooling over us. It wasn’t attractive then and it’s still not.

I think whats so annoying to me about it is the men acting like it's a two way street, like they've noticed these young girls and de facto the girls have noticed them back. Like it's some mutual transaction or attraction and the wife is some estranged, angry third party. When the reality is, the young girls want NOTHING to do with men they consider ancient, and if anything most of them feel more connection with the wife. As you said so well, we all remember being that age and having that experience. It was a mix between being grossed out by the old guy staring at you and pity/sympathy for the wife who has to put up with this repulsive man child. Men dont get that when they do this they truly alienate themselves from everyone. They do this antisocial behavior and then get dumped (70% of divorce filed by women) estranged from their kids and lonely. And expect everyone to cry for the "male loneliness epidemic". It's a joke!

If they are so repulsed by me, why do so many of them have sex with me?

[Anonymous]

I’m a 50 something man and my sons tell me the girls in their friend group call me a DILF.

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I’m a woman. I appreciate attractive male bodies too. I’m just discreet about checking out people. That’s the main difference between middle aged women and middle aged men.

This. I also have two sons, so I'm hyper-aware of the ages of the men. Anything close to their ages is just gross to me. I also really don't appreciate the older women who do check them out. (Happens pretty frequently at the pool. It's not any cuter than when older men do it to younger women).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men “just looking” absolutely shaped my teens and 20s. I hated to go into the Walmart by myself. I felt nervous about walking alone in dc, especially on quiet blocks where it might just be me and a looking man. I absolutely avoided wearing certain clothes in certain places, I always had a cardigan or something. I learned not to laugh too loudly in public, rock to a beat on my headphones, or do anything else that might draw more unwanted attention.

At times I liked the attention, but mostly I think it just restricted my freedom

It never bothered me particularly. I'm in my 50s now, and far fewer men look--but they still do. Have some confidence.

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He's totally normal, but perhaps tell him to be more discrete. Men are supposed to be attracted to women. That's why you are married. I would be more worried if he wasn't doing it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Men “just looking” absolutely shaped my teens and 20s. I hated to go into the Walmart by myself. I felt nervous about walking alone in dc, especially on quiet blocks where it might just be me and a looking man. I absolutely avoided wearing certain clothes in certain places, I always had a cardigan or something. I learned not to laugh too loudly in public, rock to a beat on my headphones, or do anything else that might draw more unwanted attention.

At times I liked the attention, but mostly I think it just restricted my freedom

It never bothered me particularly. I'm in my 50s now, and far fewer men look--but they still do. Have some confidence.

NP. Actually, confident women have standards and feel comfortable expressing boundaries, and dont particularly want or need attention from strange men.

(Confident and attractive women still get checked out in their 50s but thats a different story )

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Anonymous wrote:Men “just looking” absolutely shaped my teens and 20s. I hated to go into the Walmart by myself. I felt nervous about walking alone in dc, especially on quiet blocks where it might just be me and a looking man. I absolutely avoided wearing certain clothes in certain places, I always had a cardigan or something. I learned not to laugh too loudly in public, rock to a beat on my headphones, or do anything else that might draw more unwanted attention.

At times I liked the attention, but mostly I think it just restricted my freedom

+1 It's very restricting

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell him he looks like a creepy pedo. Men think they’re so subtle when they do this but it’s so obvious and gross.

The way they also love to act smug about this, as if it's some failing on their wife's part or some proof of virility on their part when really it just makes them look like a total creepy loser. It's mind boggling.

Absolutely. Women remember just *existing* as a young girl and seeing all the nasty old men drooling over us. It wasn’t attractive then and it’s still not.

I think whats so annoying to me about it is the men acting like it's a two way street, like they've noticed these young girls and de facto the girls have noticed them back. Like it's some mutual transaction or attraction and the wife is some estranged, angry third party. When the reality is, the young girls want NOTHING to do with men they consider ancient, and if anything most of them feel more connection with the wife. As you said so well, we all remember being that age and having that experience. It was a mix between being grossed out by the old guy staring at you and pity/sympathy for the wife who has to put up with this repulsive man child. Men dont get that when they do this they truly alienate themselves from everyone. They do this antisocial behavior and then get dumped (70% of divorce filed by women) estranged from their kids and lonely. And expect everyone to cry for the "male loneliness epidemic". It's a joke!

If they are so repulsed by me, why do so many of them have sex with me?

Well that's what happens during the REM cycle of sleep

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Anonymous wrote:Like Pavlov's dog, the only way to get through to a man is to make him suffer every time he does something you dont like. Meaning bring it up and start a fight about it directly after. Storm off and give him the silent dream. Shout at him loudly for being a creep so he's embarrassed in public. Bring it up later that night and mention how hurt you were by it. Rinse and repeat until he realizes checking this women out is more trouble than it's worth, and the little sick thrill he gets from checking out young women who would never give him the time of day in the first place is not worth ruining his day/event. He'll learn quick, trust me.

Men will pay for sex and they will give him the time of day. Men are very transactional. Women will say gross eww etc but for the man to satisfy his urge he will do the transaction and move on like nothing happened. He won't need extensive therapy and wine nights.

Unless OP lives in the red light district in Amsterdam, these women are NOT prostitutes and not for sale. They'd likely laugh in his face if her dad bodded, bloated, wrinkled and balding 40 something husband even attempted to speak to these hot young girls. Most of them probably have their own great jobs or education, and sexy boyfriends their own age. Forget your delusional porn fantasy

I am afraid to inform you that some married men are okay being sugar daddies here in America. And some hot 20s are selling their services. You can find across college campuses all across the DMV. Again men are transactional creatures okay it's not that hard to understand.

The mere fact that couple dozen sugar babies sell their bodies on seeking.com doesn’t mean that all men are transactional or all 20 something women on the street would want to sell their bodies to OPs husband. That’s not hard to understand