Husband checks out 20 yr olds

[Anonymous]

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But, is he being obvious about it, like ogling. That's rude, disrespectful to OP and creepy to the young woman.

Hmmm. This post is missing something. And the missing element is a question mark instead of a period at the end of the first sentence. Most sane people (this excludes most of the women on DCUM) would wait for the answer before proceeding. The following post is an excellent example of why.

Yep. OP’s husband is a CREEP!

This nutjob jumps to a conclusion that is not in evidence. Why? Because she wants to bash men. The OP may be the only one who can tell that her DH is looking at these men.

The replies will be "Of course, everyone can tell that he is ogling these women," even when no data supports this response. <Sigh>.

Now do the posts that accuse the wife of being crazy etc.

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Anonymous wrote:Like Pavlov's dog, the only way to get through to a man is to make him suffer every time he does something you dont like. Meaning bring it up and start a fight about it directly after. Storm off and give him the silent dream. Shout at him loudly for being a creep so he's embarrassed in public. Bring it up later that night and mention how hurt you were by it. Rinse and repeat until he realizes checking this women out is more trouble than it's worth, and the little sick thrill he gets from checking out young women who would never give him the time of day in the first place is not worth ruining his day/event. He'll learn quick, trust me.

Men will pay for sex and they will give him the time of day. Men are very transactional. Women will say gross eww etc but for the man to satisfy his urge he will do the transaction and move on like nothing happened. He won't need extensive therapy and wine nights.

This is not something to brag about. It's sad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Like Pavlov's dog, the only way to get through to a man is to make him suffer every time he does something you dont like. Meaning bring it up and start a fight about it directly after. Storm off and give him the silent dream. Shout at him loudly for being a creep so he's embarrassed in public. Bring it up later that night and mention how hurt you were by it. Rinse and repeat until he realizes checking this women out is more trouble than it's worth, and the little sick thrill he gets from checking out young women who would never give him the time of day in the first place is not worth ruining his day/event. He'll learn quick, trust me.

Men will pay for sex and they will give him the time of day. Men are very transactional. Women will say gross eww etc but for the man to satisfy his urge he will do the transaction and move on like nothing happened. He won't need extensive therapy and wine nights.

This is not something to brag about. It's sad.

It's sad indeed similarly for the women entering these sugar daddies situation.

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It’s totally normal to notice attractive people, but when men in their 40s regularly focus on much younger women, especially teens or early 20s, it’s worth asking what impact that has. These young women are just going about their day in shorts and tank tops, not trying to invite attention from men twice their age. Constantly being looked at or sized up can make them feel uncomfortable, even unsafe, and it can start to shape how they move through the world and what they feel free to wear. I think most guys wouldn’t want their own daughter, niece, or younger sister to feel that way. This isn’t about shaming people for having eyes. It’s about recognizing power dynamics, being thoughtful about where we place our attention, and understanding that the way we look at others can affect their sense of freedom and safety. If the goal is to be a decent human, sometimes that means letting a thought pass without feeding it.

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Anonymous wrote:What's so funny about this thread is it really points out how delusional and just totally un self aware most men are. The way theyre talking in this thread as if their similarly middle aged wives are the only thing blocking them from being with these 20 somethings is so funny. Like if they were single and alone 20 somethings in bikinis would be flocking to them 😂 This is why there are so many Reddit threads of men asking/begging their wife to open the marriage, and then crashing out when they do and no woman wants them, meanwhile their "ugly" wife has men lined up to be with her and date her.

Middle aged men are so out of it, they dont realize that young women are pickier and more expectant than ever and none of them are even going to talk to some middle aged guy unless he's paying her rent. Young, single men are constantly whining about how hard the dating market is, and that's for gorgeous, successful ones, not some washed up balding 45 year old. Hello!

I don't think men are delusional. There is a difference between looking, dreaming and hoping. We just look and appreciate and dream of what if. That's all. You are taking way too deep lol. When I was 23, older women over 40 were totally invisible to me. I was interested in hot women around my age. At 47 today, I am not delusional fo think that a 22 years old woman will be salivating over me. She as an array of young men her age to be with.

Sure. But unless youre a socially clueless troglodyte you do it subtly. When I'm with my DH I definitely notice the hot 20 somethings with their firm bodies, six packs, full head of hair, etc. But it would be a douche move to openly salivate and make a fool of him and myself

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Anonymous wrote:It’s like complaining about a dog’s bark. Super tired of American women. Such children

They are trying to condition the men into liking post fertile bodies but success is not 100% just yet lol

Hahaha. This comment made my morning

Everyone, both men and women, are attracted to 20 somethings at the peak of their fertility. The difference is women dont make fools of themselves by openly ogling random 20 something men and embarrassing their partner in the process. The difference is basic social awareness. The other difference is 90% of women could actually succeed in hooking up with some 20 something hot guy, even if it was a one time thing, whereas 90% of men will have zero chance with any of these young women.

I view the 20-something boy at my work as I view my son and his friends. I have to keep reminding myself to speak to him as an adult. He actually came to me for advice about buying a gift for his girlfriend last week; I think he views me as a mom or aunt type person, and I'm fine with that. I would be appalled if one of my same-age colleagues was perving on him, to be honest. We need to nurture and protect young people.

Well I'm still attracted to them and at almost 40 I have hooked up with and dated many 20 something men. But most of these older men cannot do the same

OK, so you are childless...

No, I'm not...

[Anonymous]

Tell him he looks like a creepy pedo. Men think they’re so subtle when they do this but it’s so obvious and gross.

[Anonymous]

Females are most attractive during peak fertility.

It's science and how the earth gets populated.

The rejection of and fight with mother nature has led to a fertility crisis and a population on psych drugs

[Anonymous]

Try exercising more and cutting out carbs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Females are most attractive during peak fertility.

It's science and how the earth gets populated.

The rejection of and fight with mother nature has led to a fertility crisis and a population on psych drugs

So are men... get over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell him he looks like a creepy pedo. Men think they’re so subtle when they do this but it’s so obvious and gross.

The way they also love to act smug about this, as if it's some failing on their wife's part or some proof of virility on their part when really it just makes them look like a total creepy loser. It's mind boggling.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Tell him he looks like a creepy pedo. Men think they’re so subtle when they do this but it’s so obvious and gross.

The way they also love to act smug about this, as if it's some failing on their wife's part or some proof of virility on their part when really it just makes them look like a total creepy loser. It's mind boggling.

Absolutely. Women remember just *existing* as a young girl and seeing all the nasty old men drooling over us. It wasn’t attractive then and it’s still not.

[Anonymous]

I showed this post to my sophomore daughter and niece. Tell your husband that the 20-year olds are laughing at him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Females are most attractive during peak fertility.

It's science and how the earth gets populated.

The rejection of and fight with mother nature has led to a fertility crisis and a population on psych drugs

This is alway the response when someone is looking at children. Someone needs to check your hard drive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Husband does this sneaky staring anytime he sees a 20 year old with lots of exposed skin. We’re mid 40s. I’ve brought it up many times and he denies it. It’s gotten to the point where I see the young women before he does, as I now know his type.

I don’t even know what my question is. It’s just gross and depressing.

i do that. i am even older than your DH. what's wrong with looking?