Aunts didn’t come to baby shower

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It was an invitation not a summons. Once you get enough life experience you realize there is no need to waste time with people who don't like you regardless of if they are family.

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t care for them and don’t have a relationship, but expected them to come to a baby shower and give you stuff for a baby that isn’t even in the planet yet?

A baby shower kind of downer have much to do with the baby - it tends to be about fawning over the mother *who in this case does not like these people*. Why do you expect them to fawn over you?

I actually agree with this. My friend invited SIL to my Bachelorette night out and she ended up disappearing with some guy! But it wasn't really surprising since I knew she didn't like me much. If I had had a baby shower I'm sure she wouldn't have come.
Wait until the actual baby is born. My SIL had to be forced to visit by her parents. She didn't want to hold the baby, brought nothing, but happily ate the cake and coffee I served her 48 hours after my c section. FIL is always telling the kids stories about "Auntie S" and the kids barely know who she is.

Agreed. My sister is also MIA in my kids lives, unless she wants a hug (which my one kid always refuses) and a photo for her Instagram feed at holiday gatherings. It's weird to me because our aunts were all really awesome when we were growing up, but similar to this PP my kids barely know her.

Some people just don’t care for kids and/or their lives don’t revolve around you.

Except when they want to pretend on social media that they do.....that's probably the most perplexing thing about it.

Hoping you also mean people like OP, who have absolutely no interest in relationships with these people until they are not lavishing attention on her pregnant belly and the coming of her golden, very special Child? (Capitalization on purpose)

My XSIL was like this. Absolutely no interest in a relationship with me as a human beyond me buying her stuff and free childcare. This sounds OPs game.

I can only speak for my own experience, and I really don't think there's enough info from OP as to what they are looking for from their SILs. Where did she mention free childcare and lavishing attention? You seem to be projecting. It's perfectly normal for your family members and ILs to attend showers, or at least send a courtesy RSVP. Some of you are weird.

Yes, it is weird to invite random relatives that you don’t like, have a relationship with, and barely talk to, to your baby shower.

Not sure I'd think of my spouse's siblings, the future aunts, as "random relatives" but I understand some of you have pretty dysfunctional families where this is the case. OP, your SILs sound like exclusive mean girls to me, so now you know you can exclude them from invites in the future. Focus on building relationships with people you like and who like you in return.