Charging 20$ a head for a potluck/BYOB

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Anonymous wrote:I have never, ever, been invited to a paying block party. My (wealthy) street does block parties.

The whole idea behind a potluck is that you contribute in food instead of in money. The host can't have it both ways.

Then OP should volunteer to host this one.

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Anonymous wrote:I have never, ever, been invited to a paying block party. My (wealthy) street does block parties.

The whole idea behind a potluck is that you contribute in food instead of in money. The host can't have it both ways.

I'm really baffled as to why that's so hard for people to understand.

All of this new money with no class, I guess.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think that's unreasonable given that they are providing some food and presumably planning, setting up, and cleaning up. You can always decline to participate. You can always volunteer to plan the next one and change how it's done.

I agree. $20 is not going to cover a couple of burgers with all fixings, sides, as well as the multiple drinks most adults will consume.

Sine they ask that people bring food and drink that they'll consume, no one will eat $20 worth of burgers

Perhaps you will if you paid for $20 worth of burgers.

No, I wouldn't. For the same reason I don't go to Golden Corrale. I eat until I'm full not until I've eating X amount of dollars worth of food.

Then don't go? Host your own block party on your time and dime? View everything in life as a quid pro quo where you must always end up on the upside of the deal?

I'm pretty sure that the cheap, tacky "hostess" is viewing this as a quid pro quo.

Why should she foot the bill for an open-invitation block party?

Because she is organizing and hosting it. If you charge people then provide all of the food and drinks.

Or mix it up and do both.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have never, ever, been invited to a paying block party. My (wealthy) street does block parties.

The whole idea behind a potluck is that you contribute in food instead of in money. The host can't have it both ways.

I'm really baffled as to why that's so hard for people to understand.

All of this new money with no class, I guess.

Well, block parties are kind of no class. But they're fun.

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I had a paper route growing up in an upper class neighborhood in the 80s. A couple more blue collar families had stretched to afford the smaller houses in the neighborhood. Always tipped well. The guy in the biggest house on the neighborhood did not work a salaried job, his income was passive, yet he was the worst tipper in the neighborhood. A dime for a couple weeks of delivering papers. Anedoctal I know, but some of the cheapest people I know are the wealthiest.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think that's unreasonable given that they are providing some food and presumably planning, setting up, and cleaning up. You can always decline to participate. You can always volunteer to plan the next one and change how it's done.

I agree. $20 is not going to cover a couple of burgers with all fixings, sides, as well as the multiple drinks most adults will consume.

Sine they ask that people bring food and drink that they'll consume, no one will eat $20 worth of burgers

Perhaps you will if you paid for $20 worth of burgers.

No, I wouldn't. For the same reason I don't go to Golden Corrale. I eat until I'm full not until I've eating X amount of dollars worth of food.

Then don't go? Host your own block party on your time and dime? View everything in life as a quid pro quo where you must always end up on the upside of the deal?

I'm pretty sure that the cheap, tacky "hostess" is viewing this as a quid pro quo.

Why should she foot the bill for an open-invitation block party?

Because she is organizing and hosting it. If you charge people then provide all of the food and drinks.

Or mix it up and do both.

Sure, and the marojity of the people will view it as cheap and tacky. But I guess you're welcome to ask your neighbors whatever you like.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have never, ever, been invited to a paying block party. My (wealthy) street does block parties.

The whole idea behind a potluck is that you contribute in food instead of in money. The host can't have it both ways.

I'm really baffled as to why that's so hard for people to understand.

All of this new money with no class, I guess.

Well, block parties are kind of no class. But they're fun.

This one definitely is no class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a paper route growing up in an upper class neighborhood in the 80s. A couple more blue collar families had stretched to afford the smaller houses in the neighborhood. Always tipped well. The guy in the biggest house on the neighborhood did not work a salaried job, his income was passive, yet he was the worst tipper in the neighborhood. A dime for a couple weeks of delivering papers. Anedoctal I know, but some of the cheapest people I know are the wealthiest.

That has always been my experience too.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think that's unreasonable given that they are providing some food and presumably planning, setting up, and cleaning up. You can always decline to participate. You can always volunteer to plan the next one and change how it's done.

I agree. $20 is not going to cover a couple of burgers with all fixings, sides, as well as the multiple drinks most adults will consume.

Sine they ask that people bring food and drink that they'll consume, no one will eat $20 worth of burgers

Fixings, sides, napkins, cups, cutlery, soft drinks, tables, charcoal. Also she should frankly get a cut from having to deal with petty, whiny, shrews like you and OP. Just stay home and peer through your curtain at everyone else having fun, Gladys.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think that's unreasonable given that they are providing some food and presumably planning, setting up, and cleaning up. You can always decline to participate. You can always volunteer to plan the next one and change how it's done.

I agree. $20 is not going to cover a couple of burgers with all fixings, sides, as well as the multiple drinks most adults will consume.

$20 per person. For hot dogs, hamburgers, ice, and soft drinks?? With lots of other food at the party, most adults aren’t going to eat “a couple of burgers.” And people are making up that the “host” is paying kids to set up tables and chairs.

Fake “host” sounds cheap. At those prices, she is going to wind up with a lot of extra money.

I'm amazed at all the people calling the organizer (not host!) cheap, when apparently OP and her entire neighborhood are vastly wealthy, but kick up an epic fuss at contributing $20. Rich people neighborhoods are the literal worst. No community, no caring, no collaboration, just suspicion, comparison, and condescension.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think that's unreasonable given that they are providing some food and presumably planning, setting up, and cleaning up. You can always decline to participate. You can always volunteer to plan the next one and change how it's done.

I agree. $20 is not going to cover a couple of burgers with all fixings, sides, as well as the multiple drinks most adults will consume.

Sine they ask that people bring food and drink that they'll consume, no one will eat $20 worth of burgers

Fixings, sides, napkins, cups, cutlery, soft drinks, tables, charcoal. Also she should frankly get a cut from having to deal with petty, whiny, shrews like you and OP. Just stay home and peer through your curtain at everyone else having fun, Gladys.

OK tacky Trishia! Hope the plastic knives and napkins don't break the bank.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think that's unreasonable given that they are providing some food and presumably planning, setting up, and cleaning up. You can always decline to participate. You can always volunteer to plan the next one and change how it's done.

I agree. $20 is not going to cover a couple of burgers with all fixings, sides, as well as the multiple drinks most adults will consume.

$20 per person. For hot dogs, hamburgers, ice, and soft drinks?? With lots of other food at the party, most adults aren’t going to eat “a couple of burgers.” And people are making up that the “host” is paying kids to set up tables and chairs.

Fake “host” sounds cheap. At those prices, she is going to wind up with a lot of extra money.

Ha. Had my son's end of baseball season cook out last Sunday. Most dads had two burgers and one dog. You must hang out with little Asian ladies.

You were carefully monitoring this?

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Anonymous wrote:Definitely tacky! Hosts are hosts because they take on the pain and expense of hosting.

But they're NOT hosting it, they're just organizing it. Someone has to. Are YOU going to?

That’s the point - rich lady is so clueless and cheap that she doesn’t what a block party is. A block party is something the community plans and does together. A PP up thread described it. It’s not one rich lady proclaiming “come to a block party in front of my house for $20 and bring a dish!” That is an extremely badly hosted party , not a block party.

This is hilarious honestly. The thing about these types of parties in poor neighborhoods is that everyone just jumps to volunteer stuff for the party. It might not be the classiest event ever but people very capable of getting it done and feeding everyone without the nickel and diming.

[Anonymous]

At our big block party, people are not eating multiple hot dogs and burgers! There's so much other food that mostly people have ONE hot dog or burger. There's even other main courses that people contribute usually. And the fixings- ketchup, relish and mustard? I have zero problem buying those at Costco and then we use up the rest of it at bbqs all summer long. It's not like people eat an entire container of ketchup.

We use a sign up sheet. One person brings hot dogs, one person burgers, and there's signups for everything else. Burgers and hot dogs DO NOT cost more than other sides at a party. We also have a note that says you're not obligated to contribute and that there's always more than enough food for all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think that's unreasonable given that they are providing some food and presumably planning, setting up, and cleaning up. You can always decline to participate. You can always volunteer to plan the next one and change how it's done.

I agree. $20 is not going to cover a couple of burgers with all fixings, sides, as well as the multiple drinks most adults will consume.

$20 per person. For hot dogs, hamburgers, ice, and soft drinks?? With lots of other food at the party, most adults aren’t going to eat “a couple of burgers.” And people are making up that the “host” is paying kids to set up tables and chairs.

Fake “host” sounds cheap. At those prices, she is going to wind up with a lot of extra money.

I'm amazed at all the people calling the organizer (not host!) cheap, when apparently OP and her entire neighborhood are vastly wealthy, but kick up an epic fuss at contributing $20. Rich people neighborhoods are the literal worst. No community, no caring, no collaboration, just suspicion, comparison, and condescension.

Why do people who have no spirit of generosity or community insist on "hosting" and "doing everyone a favor"? Either you host a party or you don't. Enough with the cheapness and nickle and diming.