Charging 20$ a head for a potluck/BYOB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$20/ head is ridiculous. Our neighborhood used to do this and it was $5/ head or $20/ family.

Do you have to have a permit to block off the street? Those can be pricey but again not $20/ head.

Yep, same. And that paid for pizzas. Everything else was byob, but it seemed more than reasonable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Burger, roll, condiments, soft drinks, fixings. That there is $15. Plus if they hire a kid to clean, that alone covers the $20.

They aren’t hosting a party. They are arranging a block party and handling the costs that are easier to combine.

I think maybe you are new to wealthy neighborhoods and don’t get it.

Again, if they are providing the food, why ask the people to also bring food and drinks? Tacky!!!!!!!!

Because it is a block party. They aren't hosting it. It isn't tacky. I think maybe you grew up in a poor neighborhood.

lol. Poor neighborhoods have MUCH better block parties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think it's tacky at all. It covers rolls , condiments, ice and beverages. Probably pays the kids who do the set up and break down of tables and chairs.

Honestly, its pretty tacky to expect your neighbor to pay for your block party, regardless of income.

So why are they asking people to bring a dish and bring their own booze then?

There used to be a time when people had manners, and if they wanted to host a party, they'd foot the bill.

You literally quoted the answer to the question you posed.

[Anonymous]

My fed gov agency does this too. We have to pay to attend any sort of party in the break room and bring a dish (also can't count towards your work time either).

Rich people are cheap though. I would speak up if I were you. "Hi! Where is the $20 going for this party? Will you be hiring entertainment for the kids, DJ or a bar?." I would plan it myself though and cut these cheapos out.

My neighborhood block parties are fun. We're pretty rich too (not the same level you described though). We already own a professional bounce house, one has a professional water slide for the front lawn, one has incredible speakers, and another neighbor has a massive movie projector and projector that they play kids movies on when it gets dark to entertain kids. We all own enough tables and chairs that there's seating for at least 40, but most people stand at the bar tables. Everyone comes with a full bar set up and tons of great food. We have donated to have the fire dept show up too so the kids can tour the fire truck as an activity. All of us have big houses (so we have the ability to store seating for 40) and often host big parties so we own much of what we need. It seems like a PITA to have to ask neighbors for cash, too much trouble.

[Anonymous]

I agree this sounds tacky. It shouldn’t cost my family of 4 $80 for homemade burgers. And what’s a block party without some sort of entertainment? The ones in our neighborhood have had things like a bounce house, live music, games, an ice cream truck.

IMO the organizer should expect to pay for most of the party but say something like “contributions welcome.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Burger, roll, condiments, soft drinks, fixings. That there is $15. Plus if they hire a kid to clean, that alone covers the $20.

They aren’t hosting a party. They are arranging a block party and handling the costs that are easier to combine.

I think maybe you are new to wealthy neighborhoods and don’t get it.

Again, if they are providing the food, why ask the people to also bring food and drinks? Tacky!!!!!!!!

It sounds like it's a community party, not a personal hospitality thing.

So then everyone should know what the money is for? Table rentals? Cleanup? What?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Burger, roll, condiments, soft drinks, fixings. That there is $15. Plus if they hire a kid to clean, that alone covers the $20.

They aren’t hosting a party. They are arranging a block party and handling the costs that are easier to combine.

I think maybe you are new to wealthy neighborhoods and don’t get it.

BS. Rolls are 5 bucks for 8. Coke is $11 a 12 pack. Ice is $5 a bag, fixings like condiments lettuce tomato and onion are another $2 a head easy.

Stop being such a cheap free loader.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree this sounds tacky. It shouldn’t cost my family of 4 $80 for homemade burgers. And what’s a block party without some sort of entertainment? The ones in our neighborhood have had things like a bounce house, live music, games, an ice cream truck.

IMO the organizer should expect to pay for most of the party but say something like “contributions welcome.”

If it's truly a block party, the organizer should not be on the hook to pay for "most" of it. Perhaps this organizer is overcharging, but she certainly does not owe the community an open-invitation party on her dime.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My fed gov agency does this too. We have to pay to attend any sort of party in the break room and bring a dish (also can't count towards your work time either).

Rich people are cheap though. I would speak up if I were you. "Hi! Where is the $20 going for this party? Will you be hiring entertainment for the kids, DJ or a bar?." I would plan it myself though and cut these cheapos out.

My neighborhood block parties are fun. We're pretty rich too (not the same level you described though). We already own a professional bounce house, one has a professional water slide for the front lawn, one has incredible speakers, and another neighbor has a massive movie projector and projector that they play kids movies on when it gets dark to entertain kids. We all own enough tables and chairs that there's seating for at least 40, but most people stand at the bar tables. Everyone comes with a full bar set up and tons of great food. We have donated to have the fire dept show up too so the kids can tour the fire truck as an activity. All of us have big houses (so we have the ability to store seating for 40) and often host big parties so we own much of what we need. It seems like a PITA to have to ask neighbors for cash, too much trouble.

^^you guys block party!! Where is this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Burger, roll, condiments, soft drinks, fixings. That there is $15. Plus if they hire a kid to clean, that alone covers the $20.

They aren’t hosting a party. They are arranging a block party and handling the costs that are easier to combine.

I think maybe you are new to wealthy neighborhoods and don’t get it.

Again, if they are providing the food, why ask the people to also bring food and drinks? Tacky!!!!!!!!

It sounds like it's a community party, not a personal hospitality thing.

So then everyone should know what the money is for? Table rentals? Cleanup? What?

Ask before you pony up, then. If it sounds like a scam to you, decline the invitation. If you really want a block party for your neighborhood, organize it yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree this sounds tacky. It shouldn’t cost my family of 4 $80 for homemade burgers. And what’s a block party without some sort of entertainment? The ones in our neighborhood have had things like a bounce house, live music, games, an ice cream truck.

IMO the organizer should expect to pay for most of the party but say something like “contributions welcome.”

If it's truly a block party, the organizer should not be on the hook to pay for "most" of it. Perhaps this organizer is overcharging, but she certainly does not owe the community an open-invitation party on her dime.

It’s not truly a block party - that’s the point. The hostess wants the social cachet of being the block party organizer with doing none of the actual work of organizing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think it's tacky at all. It covers rolls , condiments, ice and beverages. Probably pays the kids who do the set up and break down of tables and chairs.

Honestly, its pretty tacky to expect your neighbor to pay for your block party, regardless of income.

So why are they asking people to bring a dish and bring their own booze then?

There used to be a time when people had manners, and if they wanted to host a party, they'd foot the bill.

You literally quoted the answer to the question you posed.

Nope. If I'm bringing my own food, you're not feeding me. Why should I pay for your family to eat burgers and stuff?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Burger, roll, condiments, soft drinks, fixings. That there is $15. Plus if they hire a kid to clean, that alone covers the $20.

They aren’t hosting a party. They are arranging a block party and handling the costs that are easier to combine.

I think maybe you are new to wealthy neighborhoods and don’t get it.

Again, if they are providing the food, why ask the people to also bring food and drinks? Tacky!!!!!!!!

It sounds like it's a community party, not a personal hospitality thing.

So then everyone should know what the money is for? Table rentals? Cleanup? What?

Ask before you pony up, then. If it sounds like a scam to you, decline the invitation. If you really want a block party for your neighborhood, organize it yourself.

I'm not OP but I would 100% ask before paying for ridiculous crap like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree this sounds tacky. It shouldn’t cost my family of 4 $80 for homemade burgers. And what’s a block party without some sort of entertainment? The ones in our neighborhood have had things like a bounce house, live music, games, an ice cream truck.

IMO the organizer should expect to pay for most of the party but say something like “contributions welcome.”

If it's truly a block party, the organizer should not be on the hook to pay for "most" of it. Perhaps this organizer is overcharging, but she certainly does not owe the community an open-invitation party on her dime.

It’s not truly a block party - that’s the point. The hostess wants the social cachet of being the block party organizer with doing none of the actual work of organizing.

But she's inviting all of you randos. It sounds like she's organizing something. Maybe OP should volunteer to help set up the entertainment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree this sounds tacky. It shouldn’t cost my family of 4 $80 for homemade burgers. And what’s a block party without some sort of entertainment? The ones in our neighborhood have had things like a bounce house, live music, games, an ice cream truck.

IMO the organizer should expect to pay for most of the party but say something like “contributions welcome.”

If it's truly a block party, the organizer should not be on the hook to pay for "most" of it. Perhaps this organizer is overcharging, but she certainly does not owe the community an open-invitation party on her dime.

It’s not truly a block party - that’s the point. The hostess wants the social cachet of being the block party organizer with doing none of the actual work of organizing.

But she's inviting all of you randos. It sounds like she's organizing something. Maybe OP should volunteer to help set up the entertainment.

She should just actually host a party, crazy thought!