What to do with a parent that says bad things about your kid on the sidelines during games?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd want to investigate further because in sports "bad" could be "He needs to get right. GET RIGHT! Guard him!" or it could be "That kid needs to sit out. Get #11 off the field. What a waste of a defender!"

I think the former is OK and the later is obviously beyond the pale.

I'd sit near that dad next time and listen. And if he's being rude I'd say to him at the half or end, "Hey Paul, I'm Larlo's mom, he's #11. I wanna let you know we don't speak negatively about the kids sports as a general rule, so when you say X, Y and Z about my son, I take issue with it. Do you think you can stop?"

So obnoxious. He doesn’t care that you “take issue with it,” Karen.
If you want to let him know you know, that’s fine. But telling him you are offended is dumb and invites an argument. And don’t ask questions like “do you think you can stop?”
Just tell him “Larlo overheard you speaking about my DD when she was out in the field. Please be mindful not to criticize the players when you’re in the stands. They are just kids out here and they don’t need to hear parents speaking poorly about their teammates.”

I'm thinking about sitting next to the guy next game and say things like "wow, amazing consistency" at my kid (since this seemed to be his major call out last game).

The irony is big ears kid lost one of our only games this season in the last minute dorking around with the ball in front of the goal, losing it, + allowing the other team to score + win. This seems like the definition of inconsistency to me. Nobody called his kid out after or during the game.

I don't know. It's been a couple of days and I'm less heated. I still think the guy is major loser but it's not likely he's going to change when called out. More likely he'll just say nasty things behind my back to whoever will listen.

If it was the one game this happened that is in no way, zero, none, the definition of "inconsistency." Do you even know how "inconsistency" and "consistency" are defined?

Have reasons to like or dislike someone. I'm totally cool with that. But, you look like an imbecile saying something happening one time is the "definition of inconsistency."

[Anonymous]

You call another child's injury dubious. Did the pot call the kettle black?

[Anonymous]

He called the other parents kid inconsistent anonymously to people that don't even know the team. The other guy was saying it during the game so other parents on the team could hear.

Seems slightly different.

[Anonymous]

Not really that different. What is a dubious injury for a child? When is it ok for an adult not to respect a child who is injured? It's even worse if the child is younger but he never says the age group. He also claims his child makes all these great plays and the child is rewarded by the coach as an example of effort. I'm certain the other players don't like being compared to his player...ever. It is belittling as it is and pp said same.

[Anonymous]

I think I figured it all out.

[Anonymous]

Was this at VDA?

[Anonymous]

No it's a high school team.

[Anonymous]

This happens ALL OF THE TIME.

My youngest is a rising Senior.

If your kid is starting over their kid---get used to it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This happens ALL OF THE TIME.

My youngest is a rising Senior.

If your kid is starting over their kid---get used to it.

Oh I did have a moment when kids were smaller with a dad that was just nasty about all the teammates (his kid was goalie). We all listened to him game after game after game---and directly to the kids on the field too. A real nasty loud mouth. I snapped out tournament (only mom amongst many dads) and just said 'shut the F*ck up'. He never uttered a word again. Not my proudest moment, but I was a hero among the other dads and having a woman tell him to shut the F up I think humbled him.

I never uttered a word on any sideline since. Grew a thick skin and saw how pathetic and obvious these type of people are to everyone else.

With teen boys--it got to the point were the kid of the obnoxious dad would tell him to shut up. They are embarrassed by their parent's behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This happens ALL OF THE TIME.

My youngest is a rising Senior.

If your kid is starting over their kid---get used to it.

Oh I did have a moment when kids were smaller with a dad that was just nasty about all the teammates (his kid was goalie). We all listened to him game after game after game---and directly to the kids on the field too. A real nasty loud mouth. I snapped out tournament (only mom amongst many dads) and just said 'shut the F*ck up'. He never uttered a word again. Not my proudest moment, but I was a hero among the other dads and having a woman tell him to shut the F up I think humbled him.

I never uttered a word on any sideline since. Grew a thick skin and saw how pathetic and obvious these type of people are to everyone else.

With teen boys--it got to the point were the kid of the obnoxious dad would tell him to shut up. They are embarrassed by their parent's behavior.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This happens ALL OF THE TIME.

My youngest is a rising Senior.

If your kid is starting over their kid---get used to it.

Oh I did have a moment when kids were smaller with a dad that was just nasty about all the teammates (his kid was goalie). We all listened to him game after game after game---and directly to the kids on the field too. A real nasty loud mouth. I snapped out tournament (only mom amongst many dads) and just said 'shut the F*ck up'. He never uttered a word again. Not my proudest moment, but I was a hero among the other dads and having a woman tell him to shut the F up I think humbled him.

I never uttered a word on any sideline since. Grew a thick skin and saw how pathetic and obvious these type of people are to everyone else.

With teen boys--it got to the point were the kid of the obnoxious dad would tell him to shut up. They are embarrassed by their parent's behavior.

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Thanks. This brought back another crazy memory. My youngest kid was maybe 8 years old at the time (he also was tiny for his age). We were in a small gym for Futsal. The opposing coach was so incredibly loud and seemed fixated on my kid. He would say at the top of his lungs 'he can't use his left', shut him down. Now my kid was known to be completely ambidextrous with his feet. We drilled both feet training since he sould stand up straight. It was kind of batsh*t crazy--parents on our team were saying to me 'what the fk'. Then my kid nailed a goal with his left foot and I yelled at the top of my lungs "Nice left!", the entire gym burst out laughing.

It's a strange thing, these youth sports.

[Anonymous]

way to make yourself of the hero of your's son story

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:way to make yourself of the hero of your's son story

Screw this comment - loved the story

[Anonymous]

Are the bad things true?

[Anonymous]

Huh? Are you the guy that complains to the coach across the field about your kid not starting?