What to do with a parent that says bad things about your kid on the sidelines during games?

[Anonymous]

I'd speak with this man away from everyone else, one on one and say the girls on the team say you're saying negative things on the sidelines about girls on our team and they're being negatively affected by this. It'd be good if you can just say positive words of encouragement.

Just leave it at that. Don't say it was your daughter specifically. If he doesn't stop, just stay away from him and tell your daughter to not get distracted by parents saying stupid things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you can say something to him either in person or through a text or email. Just say that you were told he was commenting negatively about your child, and if that’s true, you would expect him to refrain from doing that in the future. Let him know that these are not the major leagues, the states are not that high, And out of a sense of respect and community, we should refrain from speaking negatively about children anywhere other than in the privacy of his own home.

+1
But I'd simply.
"Mr Longears, you were overheard speaking negatively about Larla. As you are an adult, please model what respectful behavior looks like for children. They are children."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People are entitled to their opinions intent they?

Geez, this is where you are?

Yes, everyone has an opinion but saying mean things about a child is totally inappropriate, regardless if it's true.

[Anonymous]

It's poor manners, but on the other hand, did his behavior have any actual negative impact on your or any other kid? Seems like no. Let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's poor manners, but on the other hand, did his behavior have any actual negative impact on your or any other kid? Seems like no. Let it go.

You're one a them

[Anonymous]

OP, once your daughter tells her teammate (long ears daughter) about what was supposedly said, then you have an issue within the team and another complication as she’s going to tell long ears.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, once your daughter tells her teammate (long ears daughter) about what was supposedly said, then you have an issue within the team and another complication as she’s going to tell long ears.

More likely long ears will get embarrassed when his kid approaches him about it.

I'm not worried.

The guy is just being an ass + nervous about his kids playing time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:During our last game one of my kids friends sat next to a parent that said multiple bad things outloud to other parents about my kid. Obviously he didn't know the kid sitting next to him was listening to everything he said. Also the parents he spoke to didn't respond.

The irony of it all was that our coach called my kid out at halftime and after as the best player out there and that everyone else should be working as hard as she was. She also had an assist + as a mid was making plays happen left and right.

Complainers kid is coming off a dubious injury and getting very little minutes.

How should I handle this situation? If at all. Also the guy is weird + hangs out with the moms more than the dad's at games and practices.

Who cares? No adult should be talking about a child regardless of their skill level. Your "but my kid is GOOD" is equally as juvenile as someone talking bad about a kid. Both of you need to grow up.

[Anonymous]

Didn't you all get called back to the office? Move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:During our last game one of my kids friends sat next to a parent that said multiple bad things outloud to other parents about my kid. Obviously he didn't know the kid sitting next to him was listening to everything he said. Also the parents he spoke to didn't respond.

The irony of it all was that our coach called my kid out at halftime and after as the best player out there and that everyone else should be working as hard as she was. She also had an assist + as a mid was making plays happen left and right.

Complainers kid is coming off a dubious injury and getting very little minutes.

How should I handle this situation? If at all. Also the guy is weird + hangs out with the moms more than the dad's at games and practices.

Maybe his kid got that dubious injury by tripping over his ears, and now he's taking his frustrations out on the normal-eared players. Whatever the reason, if you say something to him, I bet you'll be heard.

[Anonymous]

Generally speaking I only complain about my own kid's play on the sidelines, and only at a volume where I'm sure they won't hear me. Seems like a fine rule for everyone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:During our last game one of my kids friends sat next to a parent that said multiple bad things outloud to other parents about my kid. Obviously he didn't know the kid sitting next to him was listening to everything he said. Also the parents he spoke to didn't respond.

The irony of it all was that our coach called my kid out at halftime and after as the best player out there and that everyone else should be working as hard as she was. She also had an assist + as a mid was making plays happen left and right.

Complainers kid is coming off a dubious injury and getting very little minutes.

How should I handle this situation? If at all. Also the guy is weird + hangs out with the moms more than the dad's at games and practices.

Maybe his kid got that dubious injury by tripping over his ears, and now he's taking his frustrations out on the normal-eared players. Whatever the reason, if you say something to him, I bet you'll be heard.

Hahaha best comment ever

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"KEEP MY KIDS NAME OUT OF YOUR ****ING MOUTH"

This is what i want to say.

My kids friend told her what the dad was saying. My kid is planning to tell her teamate what her dad was saying.

There was one thing kind of funny that came out of the entire situation. My kids friend didn't know who the guy was that was saying negative things. So she described him as "the big fat guy with a beard and really long ears". As soon as she said that everyone know who she was talking about.

That didn't take long for me to lose any sympathy for you. Your kid sucks if she does this. And you are a bad parent for not discouraging it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was with you until I got to the part about how the dad is weird and hangs out with the other moms more than dads. That’s irrelevant and makes me wonder about you. Grow up; this isn’t middle school.

I agree. The OP has brought in extraneous information, which undermines the credibility of the post. The OP starts with the perceived facts of the situation but then descends into character traits and personal judgments against the other person. This makes the OP sound whiney and gossipy.

-Yes, have the coach or team manager send an e-mail to all the parents to not say negative things about players on the field, even the other team.

-Two, directly address the other parents and request they do not talk about your kid at all.

-Three, be a better person and do not spread gossip and make anonymous whiney character assaults when you have turned to an anonymous forum to seek advice vs speaking to the other adult about the issue.

[Anonymous]

Tell your kids that if they hear anyone talking badly about someone they know they should call them out and say, “that’s my (whoever) you’re disrespecting.”