I’ve never been so disappointed in my dsughter

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Jesus wept

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Better then a hepatitis.

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I’d be very disappointed if my child did this also. She’s kind of annoying and overexposed, but this is when I think of Mel Robbins’s “Let Them” method. You have no control over your 25 yo daughter, she made a stupid choice, she will pay the consequences (undoubtedly, she’ll regret it one day), and don’t let it impact you.

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Anonymous wrote:Hope she already has a husband, no real man will want her now!

OP here. Just because I personally don’t approve of my daughter’s choices doesn’t mean you have any right to say things that are misogynistic. F you, buddy! (And by the way: my daughter does not have a husband and isn’t interested in a “real man”; she is an out and proud lesbian).

OP you sound like a peach with absolutely no sense of humor or ability to read a room. No wonder your spawn got a tramp stamp. She’s running as far away from you as she can you miserable shrew

That is so rude oh my god

New here?

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter (25) went and did the one thing I always advised her never to do: get a tattoo. It’s of a hippopotamus and is really ugly. I just can’t understand why someone would get a tattoo of a hippo! I’ll admit it’s well-done but this is just disappointing. I’ve always said, ever since she was a little girl, that tattoos are a bad idea. She said that “she wanted to do it for a long time” and “it has nothing to do with me” but I somehow doubt that. I just am SO disappointed. Ugh. What’s a mom to do?

My parents' one and only rule, NO tattoos. This was a non negotiable. One of my sisters got a "tramp" stamp while in college and she admittedly was absolutely stoned out of her mind when she got it. One day she was helping rinse off my parent's patio before a family barbecue bent over and Dad saw it, ugh he was beyond angry. Having lost family in the Holocaust who obviously had tattooed numbers on them was a sacred thing to him and my mother. They did nothing then, but she was cut out of the will when my dad died.

He sounds awful. Bet he was controlling in other ways too. What a jerk.

How is that controlling? He had some rules and she violated them. He didn't stop her from mutilating her body. But there were consequences.

I loathe tatoos, but that was punitive and dumb on his part.

Why? She tried to lie and cover it up. Is inking your skin really that important? She could have just not done it but she did so she should have just owned it in the first place. Maybe if she had talked to him rationally things would have been different.

No, the father is a jerk. His adult daughter doesn't need to tell him anything considering how he reacts. She knew he would never react well.

Then she can't cry when there are consequences. If she wants a big girl tattoo, knowing her father's preferences, that's how the cookie crumbles.

That's a wild overreaction and quite the FU to his daughter whose choice didn't actually impact him in any way. Just another controlling ahole who obviously had other issues.

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You are contorlling. Your daughter is an adult and her own person. Does your mother still control all your decisions? Do you only do things that your mother would approve of?

Most adults become independent and make their own choices in life. It really matters not if you like tattooes - it has nothing to do with you.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter (25) went and did the one thing I always advised her never to do: get a tattoo. It’s of a hippopotamus and is really ugly. I just can’t understand why someone would get a tattoo of a hippo! I’ll admit it’s well-done but this is just disappointing. I’ve always said, ever since she was a little girl, that tattoos are a bad idea. She said that “she wanted to do it for a long time” and “it has nothing to do with me” but I somehow doubt that. I just am SO disappointed. Ugh. What’s a mom to do?

My parents' one and only rule, NO tattoos. This was a non negotiable. One of my sisters got a "tramp" stamp while in college and she admittedly was absolutely stoned out of her mind when she got it. One day she was helping rinse off my parent's patio before a family barbecue bent over and Dad saw it, ugh he was beyond angry. Having lost family in the Holocaust who obviously had tattooed numbers on them was a sacred thing to him and my mother. They did nothing then, but she was cut out of the will when my dad died.

He sounds awful. Bet he was controlling in other ways too. What a jerk.

How is that controlling? He had some rules and she violated them. He didn't stop her from mutilating her body. But there were consequences.

I loathe tatoos, but that was punitive and dumb on his part.

Why? She tried to lie and cover it up. Is inking your skin really that important? She could have just not done it but she did so she should have just owned it in the first place. Maybe if she had talked to him rationally things would have been different.

No, the father is a jerk. His adult daughter doesn't need to tell him anything considering how he reacts. She knew he would never react well.

Then she can't cry when there are consequences. If she wants a big girl tattoo, knowing her father's preferences, that's how the cookie crumbles.

That's a wild overreaction and quite the FU to his daughter whose choice didn't actually impact him in any way. Just another controlling ahole who obviously had other issues.

Look if you simply MUST have a stupid tattoo like a hippo when your father has made his opinions known, then go ahead. It's a choice if it's that important to someone.

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Whatever is the reason, its a poor choice but its a free country, people with low understanding of life can drink, drug, gamble, gun, vote etc etc

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Her body, her choice! Are you going to make her keep the baby if she ends up with an unwanted pregnancy?

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dealing with lymphoma right now, would be devastated if my kids got one...raises lymphoma risk 20 percent and btw like colon cancer lymphoma rates are rising for unknown reasons.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d be very disappointed if my child did this also. She’s kind of annoying and overexposed, but this is when I think of Mel Robbins’s “Let Them” method. You have no control over your 25 yo daughter, she made a stupid choice, she will pay the consequences (undoubtedly, she’ll regret it one day), and don’t let it impact you.

This. There will be regret eventually, not your problem OP.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I was expecting a bit of vitriol but this is just beyond the pale. I’m not a “troll” and I will not “Go back to the Troll Bridge”. Let’s all be adults here.

Yes, including your daughter. She IS an adult.

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I tell my kids they have to wait until they are 25. And do it as a custom temporary tattoo for a year first.

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Anonymous wrote:dealing with lymphoma right now, would be devastated if my kids got one...raises lymphoma risk 20 percent and btw like colon cancer lymphoma rates are rising for unknown reasons.

I’m sorry you have lymphoma. So did my dad. But I was very surprised about a link with tattoos. This Harvard article makes it sound like a nonissue https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/do-tattoos-cause-lymphoma-202407193059
But reading info on one of the studies does seem concerning. https://www.thelancet.com/journals/eclinm/article/PIIS2589-5370(24)00228-1/fulltext

I’m a previous poster whose young adult DD has four tattoos.