I’ve never been so disappointed in my dsughter

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter (25) went and did the one thing I always advised her never to do: get a tattoo. It’s of a hippopotamus and is really ugly. I just can’t understand why someone would get a tattoo of a hippo! I’ll admit it’s well-done but this is just disappointing. I’ve always said, ever since she was a little girl, that tattoos are a bad idea. She said that “she wanted to do it for a long time” and “it has nothing to do with me” but I somehow doubt that. I just am SO disappointed. Ugh. What’s a mom to do?

My parents' one and only rule, NO tattoos. This was a non negotiable. One of my sisters got a "tramp" stamp while in college and she admittedly was absolutely stoned out of her mind when she got it. One day she was helping rinse off my parent's patio before a family barbecue bent over and Dad saw it, ugh he was beyond angry. Having lost family in the Holocaust who obviously had tattooed numbers on them was a sacred thing to him and my mother. They did nothing then, but she was cut out of the will when my dad died.

Wild. What a controlling prick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it seems to me like an enormous portion of the population 30 years and younger has tattoos. It's not at all scandalous anymore. You're going to have to accept this and move on, and the longer you act put out, the worse this is going to harm your relationship with your daughter.

FWIW, my 14 yr old has been telling me for a few years now that she wants to get tattoos. I've told her that's fine, it's your body, but please don't get anything on your neck or your face. If she does that, I will be really upset, and I think rightfully so. A tattoo anywhere else can be covered up when necessary.

This. I'm 38 and tattoos seem like no big deal for the majority of my age group. Soon enough those who seem the most bothered will be out of the business world and tattoos won't really be a big deal (barring face tatts or offensive ones etc )

[Anonymous]

Did she get it on her forehead? If not, I hear you and I don’t like tattoos either, but you’re gonna have to let your 25?year old daughter be herself.

A friend’s son tattoos his knuckles when he was in his 20s, and she was upset because she felt it influenced his job prospects, but fwiw he has gone on to get the jobs he had wanted. So it has been okay.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter (25) went and did the one thing I always advised her never to do: get a tattoo. It’s of a hippopotamus and is really ugly. I just can’t understand why someone would get a tattoo of a hippo! I’ll admit it’s well-done but this is just disappointing. I’ve always said, ever since she was a little girl, that tattoos are a bad idea. She said that “she wanted to do it for a long time” and “it has nothing to do with me” but I somehow doubt that. I just am SO disappointed. Ugh. What’s a mom to do?

My parents' one and only rule, NO tattoos. This was a non negotiable. One of my sisters got a "tramp" stamp while in college and she admittedly was absolutely stoned out of her mind when she got it. One day she was helping rinse off my parent's patio before a family barbecue bent over and Dad saw it, ugh he was beyond angry. Having lost family in the Holocaust who obviously had tattooed numbers on them was a sacred thing to him and my mother. They did nothing then, but she was cut out of the will when my dad died.

I'm a (jewish) sister, and if my dad cut my sibling out of the will, I'd absolutely give that sibling half of what he gave me. He'd be dead, and presumably my sibling and I would have decades on earth together. I don't have tattoos and don't plan on getting any, but know people who absolutely LOVE them and stand by their decision to get them even decades after getting them. No reason to let Nazis from the 1940's steal something that brings people happiness. Think of it as taking art back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter (25) went and did the one thing I always advised her never to do: get a tattoo. It’s of a hippopotamus and is really ugly. I just can’t understand why someone would get a tattoo of a hippo! I’ll admit it’s well-done but this is just disappointing. I’ve always said, ever since she was a little girl, that tattoos are a bad idea. She said that “she wanted to do it for a long time” and “it has nothing to do with me” but I somehow doubt that. I just am SO disappointed. Ugh. What’s a mom to do?

My parents' one and only rule, NO tattoos. This was a non negotiable. One of my sisters got a "tramp" stamp while in college and she admittedly was absolutely stoned out of her mind when she got it. One day she was helping rinse off my parent's patio before a family barbecue bent over and Dad saw it, ugh he was beyond angry. Having lost family in the Holocaust who obviously had tattooed numbers on them was a sacred thing to him and my mother. They did nothing then, but she was cut out of the will when my dad died.

He sounds awful. Bet he was controlling in other ways too. What a jerk.

[Anonymous]

I don’t like tattoos, but if it’s easily covered with clothing, it’s not a big deal or worth getting upset about.

If it is somewhere really visible like neck or face, there’s nothing you can do, but a whole lot more people are on your side.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter (25) went and did the one thing I always advised her never to do: get a tattoo. It’s of a hippopotamus and is really ugly. I just can’t understand why someone would get a tattoo of a hippo! I’ll admit it’s well-done but this is just disappointing. I’ve always said, ever since she was a little girl, that tattoos are a bad idea. She said that “she wanted to do it for a long time” and “it has nothing to do with me” but I somehow doubt that. I just am SO disappointed. Ugh. What’s a mom to do?

My parents' one and only rule, NO tattoos. This was a non negotiable. One of my sisters got a "tramp" stamp while in college and she admittedly was absolutely stoned out of her mind when she got it. One day she was helping rinse off my parent's patio before a family barbecue bent over and Dad saw it, ugh he was beyond angry. Having lost family in the Holocaust who obviously had tattooed numbers on them was a sacred thing to him and my mother. They did nothing then, but she was cut out of the will when my dad died.

I'm a (jewish) sister, and if my dad cut my sibling out of the will, I'd absolutely give that sibling half of what he gave me. He'd be dead, and presumably my sibling and I would have decades on earth together. I don't have tattoos and don't plan on getting any, but know people who absolutely LOVE them and stand by their decision to get them even decades after getting them. No reason to let Nazis from the 1940's steal something that brings people happiness. Think of it as taking art back.

My great aunt had a tattoo from a concentration camp. She refused to have it removed or covered up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter (25) went and did the one thing I always advised her never to do: get a tattoo. It’s of a hippopotamus and is really ugly. I just can’t understand why someone would get a tattoo of a hippo! I’ll admit it’s well-done but this is just disappointing. I’ve always said, ever since she was a little girl, that tattoos are a bad idea. She said that “she wanted to do it for a long time” and “it has nothing to do with me” but I somehow doubt that. I just am SO disappointed. Ugh. What’s a mom to do?

My parents' one and only rule, NO tattoos. This was a non negotiable. One of my sisters got a "tramp" stamp while in college and she admittedly was absolutely stoned out of her mind when she got it. One day she was helping rinse off my parent's patio before a family barbecue bent over and Dad saw it, ugh he was beyond angry. Having lost family in the Holocaust who obviously had tattooed numbers on them was a sacred thing to him and my mother. They did nothing then, but she was cut out of the will when my dad died.

He sounds awful. Bet he was controlling in other ways too. What a jerk.

How is that controlling? He had some rules and she violated them. He didn't stop her from mutilating her body. But there were consequences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter (25) went and did the one thing I always advised her never to do: get a tattoo. It’s of a hippopotamus and is really ugly. I just can’t understand why someone would get a tattoo of a hippo! I’ll admit it’s well-done but this is just disappointing. I’ve always said, ever since she was a little girl, that tattoos are a bad idea. She said that “she wanted to do it for a long time” and “it has nothing to do with me” but I somehow doubt that. I just am SO disappointed. Ugh. What’s a mom to do?

My parents' one and only rule, NO tattoos. This was a non negotiable. One of my sisters got a "tramp" stamp while in college and she admittedly was absolutely stoned out of her mind when she got it. One day she was helping rinse off my parent's patio before a family barbecue bent over and Dad saw it, ugh he was beyond angry. Having lost family in the Holocaust who obviously had tattooed numbers on them was a sacred thing to him and my mother. They did nothing then, but she was cut out of the will when my dad died.

He sounds awful. Bet he was controlling in other ways too. What a jerk.

How is that controlling? He had some rules and she violated them. He didn't stop her from mutilating her body. But there were consequences.

I loathe tatoos, but that was punitive and dumb on his part.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter (25) went and did the one thing I always advised her never to do: get a tattoo. It’s of a hippopotamus and is really ugly. I just can’t understand why someone would get a tattoo of a hippo! I’ll admit it’s well-done but this is just disappointing. I’ve always said, ever since she was a little girl, that tattoos are a bad idea. She said that “she wanted to do it for a long time” and “it has nothing to do with me” but I somehow doubt that. I just am SO disappointed. Ugh. What’s a mom to do?

My parents' one and only rule, NO tattoos. This was a non negotiable. One of my sisters got a "tramp" stamp while in college and she admittedly was absolutely stoned out of her mind when she got it. One day she was helping rinse off my parent's patio before a family barbecue bent over and Dad saw it, ugh he was beyond angry. Having lost family in the Holocaust who obviously had tattooed numbers on them was a sacred thing to him and my mother. They did nothing then, but she was cut out of the will when my dad died.

He sounds awful. Bet he was controlling in other ways too. What a jerk.

How is that controlling? He had some rules and she violated them. He didn't stop her from mutilating her body. But there were consequences.

I loathe tatoos, but that was punitive and dumb on his part.

Why? She tried to lie and cover it up. Is inking your skin really that important? She could have just not done it but she did so she should have just owned it in the first place. Maybe if she had talked to him rationally things would have been different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter (25) went and did the one thing I always advised her never to do: get a tattoo. It’s of a hippopotamus and is really ugly. I just can’t understand why someone would get a tattoo of a hippo! I’ll admit it’s well-done but this is just disappointing. I’ve always said, ever since she was a little girl, that tattoos are a bad idea. She said that “she wanted to do it for a long time” and “it has nothing to do with me” but I somehow doubt that. I just am SO disappointed. Ugh. What’s a mom to do?

My parents' one and only rule, NO tattoos. This was a non negotiable. One of my sisters got a "tramp" stamp while in college and she admittedly was absolutely stoned out of her mind when she got it. One day she was helping rinse off my parent's patio before a family barbecue bent over and Dad saw it, ugh he was beyond angry. Having lost family in the Holocaust who obviously had tattooed numbers on them was a sacred thing to him and my mother. They did nothing then, but she was cut out of the will when my dad died.

I'm a (jewish) sister, and if my dad cut my sibling out of the will, I'd absolutely give that sibling half of what he gave me. He'd be dead, and presumably my sibling and I would have decades on earth together. I don't have tattoos and don't plan on getting any, but know people who absolutely LOVE them and stand by their decision to get them even decades after getting them. No reason to let Nazis from the 1940's steal something that brings people happiness. Think of it as taking art back.

My great aunt had a tattoo from a concentration camp. She refused to have it removed or covered up.

Good for her! No shame in surviving hatred.

[Anonymous]

Hope she already has a husband, no real man will want her now!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter (25) went and did the one thing I always advised her never to do: get a tattoo. It’s of a hippopotamus and is really ugly. I just can’t understand why someone would get a tattoo of a hippo! I’ll admit it’s well-done but this is just disappointing. I’ve always said, ever since she was a little girl, that tattoos are a bad idea. She said that “she wanted to do it for a long time” and “it has nothing to do with me” but I somehow doubt that. I just am SO disappointed. Ugh. What’s a mom to do?

My parents' one and only rule, NO tattoos. This was a non negotiable. One of my sisters got a "tramp" stamp while in college and she admittedly was absolutely stoned out of her mind when she got it. One day she was helping rinse off my parent's patio before a family barbecue bent over and Dad saw it, ugh he was beyond angry. Having lost family in the Holocaust who obviously had tattooed numbers on them was a sacred thing to him and my mother. They did nothing then, but she was cut out of the will when my dad died.

I'm a (jewish) sister, and if my dad cut my sibling out of the will, I'd absolutely give that sibling half of what he gave me. He'd be dead, and presumably my sibling and I would have decades on earth together. I don't have tattoos and don't plan on getting any, but know people who absolutely LOVE them and stand by their decision to get them even decades after getting them. No reason to let Nazis from the 1940's steal something that brings people happiness. Think of it as taking art back.

Yes! As a Jewish person with tattoos I love this!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hope she already has a husband, no real man will want her now!

Oh!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hope she already has a husband, no real man will want her now!

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