How old to have sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's ideal that they lose their virginity in late high school - like senior year, maybe even the summer before college and then break up with the boyfriend - rather than go to college as a virgin. Better to have figured out some stuff in a more controlled environment in my opinion.

“Controlled environment” PP?
What’s controllled about it? You standing by with a video camera? Outside the door with a cup of hot cocoa to chat about it after?
What exactly are you envisioning is happening inside your “controlled environment” for experimental teen sex at home?
This might be the strangest thread I’ve ever encountered on here.
And weirdly, the parents advocating for pushing your teens to have sex while in high school are going to be the same ones telling the rest of us we are “too involved” in decorating our kid’s dorm……

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:16 is fine. That was me.

Gross.
Just because no one supervised your childhood which obviously led to age-inappropriate actions at such a young age doesn’t mean you need to try to normalize this for everyone else’s kids.
Just no.

16 is the average age PP

There is nothing gross about it. Sex is great and I’m not gonna lie, teen sex was insanely good. I lost my v card at 15 and no regrets.

I would never shame my teens so long as it’s consensual and they use protection.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's ideal that they lose their virginity in late high school - like senior year, maybe even the summer before college and then break up with the boyfriend - rather than go to college as a virgin. Better to have figured out some stuff in a more controlled environment in my opinion.

“Controlled environment” PP?
What’s controllled about it? You standing by with a video camera? Outside the door with a cup of hot cocoa to chat about it after?
What exactly are you envisioning is happening inside your “controlled environment” for experimental teen sex at home?
This might be the strangest thread I’ve ever encountered on here.
And weirdly, the parents advocating for pushing your teens to have sex while in high school are going to be the same ones telling the rest of us we are “too involved” in decorating our kid’s dorm……

DP. I think both of those are weird and over involved.

[Anonymous]

My father's job moved us to Western Europe when I was in high school.. At 16 I found out I was about the last virgin. (This was the 80s.) However, I caught up soon enough

I still have a thing for Frenchmen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agreed that 14 is way too young. What age would be acceptable?

I’d personally prefer college, but I’ve read some posts here say they’d prefer high school so they can supervise, support and coach their kids.

After marriage.

+1
I’m going with this one as well.

And not because you’ll “go to hell” for not waiting. It’s still my child’s choice—and God will love her regardless.
But God has a purpose and plan for designing sex to be experienced within that covenant relationship. It’s a beautiful physical expression of two coming together as one. No morning-after regret. No angst of insecurity with whether he will call afterward, no pregnancy “scare” or crisis of circumstance, just love and comfort and safety and warmth and overwhelming joyful feeling of giving to each other and belonging to one another for eternity.

Sure—there are other ways to experience a sexual relationship. But God wants His best for us and instructs that physical intimacy is deliberately designed for marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is so messed up.

Seriously. I can’t stop thinking about a parent preferring their child to have a bunch of casual sexual relationships instead of a serious romantic relationship. Like it’s better to risk pregnancy or sexual violence with a stranger than experience emotional intimacy. I can’t get my brain around it.

Same.
But I also can’t get my brain around how girls have managed to be manipulated into casual sex (no prob) while at the same time being “freaked out” of a guy who they’ve been sleeping with since the third date says “I love you” after two months because that’s “way too soon” or “too serious”
Like…wuuttt???

What have we done????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:16 is fine. That was me.

Gross.
Just because no one supervised your childhood which obviously led to age-inappropriate actions at such a young age doesn’t mean you need to try to normalize this for everyone else’s kids.
Just no.

16 is the average age PP

There is nothing gross about it. Sex is great and I’m not gonna lie, teen sex was insanely good. I lost my v card at 15 and no regrets.

I would never shame my teens so long as it’s consensual and they use protection.

Why have any standards at all?

[Anonymous]

I had sex the first time at 17 with a guy who was 35, it was great. I got married at 18 to a guy who was 24, I went to college later.

My parents had no input and nothing to do with when I first had sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had sex the first time at 17 with a guy who was 35, it was great. I got married at 18 to a guy who was 24, I went to college later.

My parents had no input and nothing to do with when I first had sex.

Please try not to normalize pedophilia for younger generations.
While I’m glad that you don’t choose to carry any harm as a result of being a victim of that experience, there is nothing normal about a 35 year old man preying on a 17-year-old child.

I wish you much happiness.

[Anonymous]

No one in my friend circle had sex in high school. We were the smart kids in all advanced classes. Some dated some didn’t but definitely no sex. We told each other everything so it’s not like they were sneaking around. In fact I was the first in my group at 19 in college. Even then, I wish I had waited to be in a more stable relationship instead of casually dating someone. Now my kids are the in the smart cohort and none of their friends are dating yet so I’m kind of expecting a similar path.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agreed that 14 is way too young. What age would be acceptable?

I’d personally prefer college, but I’ve read some posts here say they’d prefer high school so they can supervise, support and coach their kids.

Yuck.

Troll

12 yo Troll

[Anonymous]

In the infamous words of Chef from South Park - 17.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had sex the first time at 17 with a guy who was 35, it was great. I got married at 18 to a guy who was 24, I went to college later.

My parents had no input and nothing to do with when I first had sex.

Please try not to normalize pedophilia for younger generations.
While I’m glad that you don’t choose to carry any harm as a result of being a victim of that experience, there is nothing normal about a 35 year old man preying on a 17-year-old child.

I wish you much happiness.

You think there are younger generations reading this? Ok. It may not have been "normal" but it was mine. He did not prey on me.

Thanks, I am very happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one in my friend circle had sex in high school. We were the smart kids in all advanced classes. Some dated some didn’t but definitely no sex. We told each other everything so it’s not like they were sneaking around. In fact I was the first in my group at 19 in college. Even then, I wish I had waited to be in a more stable relationship instead of casually dating someone. Now my kids are the in the smart cohort and none of their friends are dating yet so I’m kind of expecting a similar path.

My NMSF kid had sex with Presidential Scholar S/O when seniors in HS. Broke up when went to college. All good.

Not quite sure why you are interjecting some strange intelligence factor in here. Are you trying to insinuate that only dumb kids have sex before college?

[Anonymous]

Psycho troll thread