How old to have sex?

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Mine was 18 and the guy was 17. They were each other’s first. It seemed about right.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's ideal that they lose their virginity in late high school - like senior year, maybe even the summer before college and then break up with the boyfriend - rather than go to college as a virgin. Better to have figured out some stuff in a more controlled environment in my opinion.

Or, they become overly emotionally involved with that boyfriend and try to keep the relationship going in college, often affecting their chance to fully enjoy the experience. I’ve seen it happen many times.

I don't know that servicing the whole frat for Blacked and Bleached is necessary to "fully enjoy" the experience.

I don’t exactly know what that is, but that’s not what I meant. It’s not just that it prevents them from dating or hooking up with other people, it can prevent them from making friends, from making an effort to go out and being social, from just generally letting go of high school and growing up a bit. People in college with boyfriends/girlfriends from high school are weighed down. They’re less fun to be around.

That implies that they won’t have a ‘serious’ relationship in college to weigh them down.

Not at all. It’s different when you have friends in common, when you’re not leaving campus every other weekend to go visit someone, when you actually want to go out and be social because you don’t feel like you have to sit home and behave, or whatever.

This is exactly what happened to me! Completely different (and worse) experience than I would otherwise have had.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's ideal that they lose their virginity in late high school - like senior year, maybe even the summer before college and then break up with the boyfriend - rather than go to college as a virgin. Better to have figured out some stuff in a more controlled environment in my opinion.

That’s so funny! Those were my thoughts as a 17 year old haha so I did take that step with my longtime boyfriend the summer before we left for college! I was happy not to go a virgin but I also ended up meeting my husband in college and I wouldn’t have minded just waiting until he came along !

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Anonymous wrote:Lately I’ve been know. To stare

Why is that fool

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Anonymous wrote:Agreed that 14 is way too young. What age would be acceptable?

I’d personally prefer college, but I’ve read some posts here say they’d prefer high school so they can supervise, support and coach their kids.

Depends on the maturity level of the people involved.
12-16 was normal for about 60% of my graduating class. Maybe 10% or less graduated virgins, unless they were just very discreet. Girls tend to have sex about 2 years earlier than boys on average, mostly because girls tend to date boys 2 years older than them in Jr. High and High School.

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Anonymous wrote:SUPERVISE AND COACH?! What exactly are you smoking?

You mean like making porn? You know it's illegal.

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This thread is so messed up.

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Anonymous wrote:Agreed that 14 is way too young. What age would be acceptable?

I’d personally prefer college, but I’ve read some posts here say they’d prefer high school so they can supervise, support and coach their kids.

Depends on the maturity level of the people involved.
12-16 was normal for about 60% of my graduating class. Maybe 10% or less graduated virgins, unless they were just very discreet. Girls tend to have sex about 2 years earlier than boys on average, mostly because girls tend to date boys 2 years older than them in Jr. High and High School.

Are you from New York? Because this is not normal.

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Anonymous wrote:Agreed that 14 is way too young. What age would be acceptable?

I’d personally prefer college, but I’ve read some posts here say they’d prefer high school so they can supervise, support and coach their kids.

After marriage.

This is the only correct answer. What is wrong with Americans?

In my country, the children wait for the s*x until after we parents find them a suitable mate and they become married. It should be the same way here.

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Mine was 15 and her boyfriend was the same age. Too young. We say a lot of fall out from it in ways I didn’t really process until later.

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Anonymous wrote:Agreed that 14 is way too young. What age would be acceptable?

I’d personally prefer college, but I’ve read some posts here say they’d prefer high school so they can supervise, support and coach their kids.

After marriage.

This is the only correct answer. What is wrong with Americans?

In my country, the children wait for the s*x until after we parents find them a suitable mate and they become married. It should be the same way here.

Why is that?
I'm sure there are other cultural differences between the 2 countries.
Not saying I want 14 yo to have sex, but some of your cultural norms may be unacceptable to me as an American

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Anonymous wrote:Agreed that 14 is way too young. What age would be acceptable?

I’d personally prefer college, but I’ve read some posts here say they’d prefer high school so they can supervise, support and coach their kids.

After marriage.

This is the only correct answer. What is wrong with Americans?

In my country, the children wait for the s*x until after we parents find them a suitable mate and they become married. It should be the same way here.

Do live in America now?

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Anonymous wrote:Agreed that 14 is way too young. What age would be acceptable?

I’d personally prefer college, but I’ve read some posts here say they’d prefer high school so they can supervise, support and coach their kids.

After marriage.

This is the only correct answer. What is wrong with Americans?

In my country, the children wait for the s*x until after we parents find them a suitable mate and they become married. It should be the same way here.

So, doesn’t sound like your home country is European. India?

We don’t have enough space to list all that is wrong with India.

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Anonymous wrote:Agreed that 14 is way too young. What age would be acceptable?

I’d personally prefer college, but I’ve read some posts here say they’d prefer high school so they can supervise, support and coach their kids.

Depends on the maturity level of the people involved.
12-16 was normal for about 60% of my graduating class. Maybe 10% or less graduated virgins, unless they were just very discreet. Girls tend to have sex about 2 years earlier than boys on average, mostly because girls tend to date boys 2 years older than them in Jr. High and High School.

Where on earth did you grow up? Not normal at all. Part of the 10% here, as were all but one girl in my 8-person friend group in high school.

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Anonymous wrote:Agreed that 14 is way too young. What age would be acceptable?

I’d personally prefer college, but I’ve read some posts here say they’d prefer high school so they can supervise, support and coach their kids.

Depends on the maturity level of the people involved.
12-16 was normal for about 60% of my graduating class. Maybe 10% or less graduated virgins, unless they were just very discreet. Girls tend to have sex about 2 years earlier than boys on average, mostly because girls tend to date boys 2 years older than them in Jr. High and High School.

Where on earth did you grow up? Not normal at all. Part of the 10% here, as were all but one girl in my 8-person friend group in high school.

Adding on to my own post… the one girl who did it was probably about 14 at the time and deeply regretted it for the rest of high school.