Why would a mother not call her grown children?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask my mom.. she has priorities other than me. She lives close and I maybe see her yearly at most.

I am so intrigued by this.
Most of the parents of adult kids I see are leaning on the clingy side.
Do you have siblings? Do you and they have kids? What does your mother do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom hasn’t called or texted me in decades. My dad will call, and if it’s convenient for her she will pop into the FaceTime and say hi.

A couple days after I had major surgery last year I texted her and said “btw the surgery went well.” And she responded “Oh, good.” (She’s a nurse, too.)

I used to call more often but I don’t bother anymore because she DGAF.

This intrigues me also! Does she have other kids? What was she like growing up? Etc etc

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure about years, but my MIL waits until DH texts/calls her. She will never be the first one to reach out. She just gets pissier (sp?) and pissier about it lol.

This is my MIL…EXCEPT she will text when she needs him to do something. Like texting orders. Why? Because she’s an AH.

Seriously, my in laws literally have no relationship with anyone, even each other. When you see them, they just run their mouths about how much everyone they know sucks.

That’s my parents. They have no outside relationships and just sit in their recliners all day, watching TV and sneering at everyone else. They often talk about how smart they are and how stupid most other people are.

This actually sounds funny I am sorry!
Do they include you in the smart bunch or no? Do they consider each other smart?
This could make for a Beavis and Butthead type of TV I think!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My children's schedules are so busy I don't want to interfere and they know that, although I am always thinking about them. We text on the daily about this and that and they call me whenever they have free time for a long catch up chat. Works for all of us and no bitterness or hard feelings, I simply defer to them enjoying their daily lives. They know their mother always loves them and is always thinking about them and will always pick that phone up just to hear their voices. I do not understand the drama some of my friends and their kids put into their relationships.

No one knows "their mother always loves them" when she plays games and doesn't call for years on end.

I’m sorry you don’t know your mother loves you. I’m thankful my children know their parents love them every second of every day. They’re not insecure and are healthy adults. You might want to work on yourself.

What an evil and nasty response! I highly doubt that your children realize that their witch mother loves them. Maybe if you had a brain you'd realize that perhaps the PP is "insecure" (your own words NOT mine) because they had a witch like yourself as a mother who never called.

Crawl back under your rock!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My mom hasn’t called or texted me in decades. My dad will call, and if it’s convenient for her she will pop into the FaceTime and say hi.

A couple days after I had major surgery last year I texted her and said “btw the surgery went well.” And she responded “Oh, good.” (She’s a nurse, too.)

I used to call more often but I don’t bother anymore because she DGAF.

This intrigues me also! Does she have other kids? What was she like growing up? Etc etc

I'm the pp you quoted. I have a younger sister and brother. My sister and I had the same experience with her. My brother is the golden child, so it's very different for him. And yes, it was like this our whole lives. She had a bad relationship with her mother, and she had three brothers with whom she was close. I think she doesn't know how to relate to women. She doesn't have any friends other than my dad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure about years, but my MIL waits until DH texts/calls her. She will never be the first one to reach out. She just gets pissier (sp?) and pissier about it lol.

This is my MIL…EXCEPT she will text when she needs him to do something. Like texting orders. Why? Because she’s an AH.

Seriously, my in laws literally have no relationship with anyone, even each other. When you see them, they just run their mouths about how much everyone they know sucks.

That’s my parents. They have no outside relationships and just sit in their recliners all day, watching TV and sneering at everyone else. They often talk about how smart they are and how stupid most other people are.

This actually sounds funny I am sorry!
Do they include you in the smart bunch or no? Do they consider each other smart?
This could make for a Beavis and Butthead type of TV I think!

LOL. I'm only considered smart if I agree with them. And they consider each other to be brilliant. AND you are right -- this is totally a TV show waiting to be written!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure about years, but my MIL waits until DH texts/calls her. She will never be the first one to reach out. She just gets pissier (sp?) and pissier about it lol.

My mom is the same. Total narcissist