Hurtful comment

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP this is stupid. You are in your 50s and your children are adults. Why would your mother fly out to flat, boring, nowhere land midwestern town to stay with you? At your age, what would be the point? Your mom is an active person who enjoys doing interesting and outdoorsy things. You want her to travel from one of the most scenic areas in the country to one of the least scenic areas?

It’s also often not cheap to fly to the Midwest. I’m in California and can get cheap SW tickets to Seattle, Boise, Bozeman, Dallas, Denver, Phoenix etc. Getting to the mid west is entirely different which I’m sure you know if you fly out to visit her,

My sister is a year younger. She flies to see her. It’s cheaper to fly here than to my sisters very scenic albeit remote location.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do your adult kids want to see Grandma? Will they clear their schedule to spend time with her when she visits? Can you take day-trips to more interesting places?

They would love to spend time w her!
They want her to see their homes, lives.
It’s a little difficult for them travel because they all have an eye condition that makes traveling without assistance difficult.

I was not on your side until this response (I'm the pp that asked these questions re your kids). It does sound like your mom prefers visiting your sister because it's more fun and in line with what she likes to do. Are your adult children limited in what activities they can do with Grandma bc of their vision impairment? I can see how it would be hard to come up with activities that would interest your mom, and why it would hurt you that she wouldn't just come to spend time with you all.

My only suggestion is if you can do some legwork in finding activities/hikes/etc within a reasonable distance so she can spend some time with you but also do some active stuff on her own each day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“You would spend time with your grandkids. But if that’s not of interest to you, perhaps we shouldn’t visit you. Something to think about.”

But…it sounds like they already don’t visit her. ???
OP said her mom hadn’t seen her kids since they all visited her mom four years ago.

Something isntbb bc right if OP didn’t bother to ask until recently why mom won’t come to visit.
Four years means there’s virtually no relationship between grandma and the now-grown grandkids. And obviously OP did t really care to cultivate that relationship when the kids were younger, (and grandma didn’t do her part either)—-but now it is what it is….

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately I suspect OP and her family are considered “sickly” and “boring” and therefore not visited.