Three year old literally WILL NOT get dressed in the morning (or ever)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is he associating getting dressed with something he doesn’t want to do?

This was true for my son - he didn't want to get dressed, because getting dressed meant we were about to go to daycare and he had to say goodbye to me. I don't have much advice except to stay calm, try not to make it a power struggle, and yes, some days just leave the house in pjs with clothes in a bag to change into if necessary. We lived through it and it eventually got better.

Oh, and like a PP, my son was later diagnosed with ADHD, interesting.

[Anonymous]

Your kid is in control and you’re not. You’re gentle parenting which can be disastrous for children who need boundaries and to be taught by their parents. You’re creating a monster.

Don’t get dressed? No TV for the day. Or no playground. Or whatever it is.

Even engaging in something like this is coming from a place of privilege. Do you think a woman in the early 1900s had the time to sit around and try to convince their child to get dressed? Or a single mom trying to get kids out of the house to daycare? Getting dressed is a simple activity and shouldn’t be a huge deal.

You need to learn to parent and control your child.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried dressing him in his clothes the night before?

This is what I did with my kids.

So they go through the day dressed in clothes that look wrinkled like they slept in them? Ridiculous. I do not understand grown women being dictated to by a 3 year old spoiled brat of their own making.

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This kid is a brat and the parents are to blame.

[Anonymous]

Send him where ever he is going in his PJs - he is 3 and no one will care (unless it is to a wedding).

He doesn't want to wear any clothes - oh well - he gets into the car naked.

We have left for preSchool in bathrobes, dress up clothes, PJs, fancy dresses, fancy dresses with skirts on top....
I put a pair of clothes in the car and gave them the option of changing before we got there.

If it is not a sensory thing - drop the rope as it takes 2 for a tug of war.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like some of these ideas a lot, thank you so much. Will try the story and store ideas in particular. Really appreciate it.

For the snarky responses, I am not a SAHM of one child. He is my second, and I am expecting my third, and I work full time. People really need to examine their anger and why they project so much bitterness on others.

It’s not anger. We are being honest with you, which is the benefit of asking questions on here. I have friends in real life whose kids run the show and they struggle in parenting. The truth is they don’t have boundaries and their parenting techniques are hurting their kids. But it’s inappropriate for me to say anything and they didn’t ask. Their lives are more difficult but they don’t know why.

For example, I go to lunch with the friend and her child and her child stands in her high chair but the mom just tries gently to tell her no. It’s a huge distraction and unsafe. The mother should teach the child to stay seated. I would simply remove the child from the restaurant or say “no dessert” if you do that. I wouldn’t keep telling my child the same thing over and over again in a sing song voice. Standing up in a high chair is not allowed. This same mom marvels how my child stays seated and eats her meal but she doesn’t understand it’s because there are consequences and I don’t allow or put up with that behavior.

The common themes seems to be no consequences for bad behavior. You can have consequences for a three year old. You’re underestimating his intelligence. You can take away TV, the playground, make him wear PJs to school, etc. There are consequences in life and he should start to learn this at age 3 in a small way. Being raised to think he can dictate not getting dressed is not good for him and will cause more and more issues as he gets older. He will have trouble when he faces larger consequences later on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did he do this before you dropped the nap?

Not at all.

I was going to ask if he’s getting enough sleep.

When he wakes up he may also be ridiculously hungry grumpy.

I vote for more sleep and dressing him night before.

[Anonymous]

Does the child enjoy whatever activity it is that you are leaving the house for? Or just enjoy getting attention from OP? Because this doesn’t sound like a clothes-sensory thing.