Would you let your teen go to the beach with another family?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would let my kid go. I don’t understand what people think would happen. They are in one house… the genders would be separated during sleeping arrangements. If you can’t swim, don’t get in the water. I think this would be fun.

As someone who was in a coed church group and did a sleep over with opposite sexes in very different parts of the huge church, let me tell you. Where there is a will there is a way. That church saw more action than most married bedrooms doe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would let my kid go. I don’t understand what people think would happen. They are in one house… the genders would be separated during sleeping arrangements. If you can’t swim, don’t get in the water. I think this would be fun.

As someone who was in a coed church group and did a sleep over with opposite sexes in very different parts of the huge church, let me tell you. Where there is a will there is a way. That church saw more action than most married bedrooms doe.

Yes. If you have a promiscuous child, there isn’t much you can do to stop this. But many (most?) teens are not like this, despite what this board would have people believe. I still think the bigger risk is just general debauchery and idiot behavior fueled by the mob mentality and not wanting to be a killjoy.

[Anonymous]

^^^just realized debauchery can also mean sex (in addition to other things) so that’s not the word I should have used. I retract it.

[Anonymous]

We did something like this but have 3 girls. No boys. HS age. We supervised and the kids all had fun. We did fun outings and beach time. I would be much more hesitant with boys and girls, it is a different situation and more room for teens doing "stupid teen" things.

[Anonymous]

We have a beach house and rising girl/boy twins.

Bringing teens to the beach is exhausting. My max has always been 6 and I don't bring coed groups. I'm so happy that they're almost 18 because that means next summer everyone can go on their own and I won't have to supervise. The worst was when they were 15 and I had kids (guests) sneaking out at 1am and I was up in the middle of the night wondering if I should call the parents or not. It was stressful.

As to drowning? It's highly, highly unlikely if the kids only swim on a guarded beach. At our beach in NJ there was a drowning last summer (someone swimming on an unguarded beach) and an article I read said something like there hasn't been a drowning on a guarded beach in 50 years in this town.

Of course, you can't guarantee that the kids won't swim after hours. I have this conversation with them every year and hope they listen. But if they're dumb enough to do this, they're probably doing equally dumb things at home in DC. At some point you have to trust them and hope they survive the teen years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a beach house and rising girl/boy twins.

Bringing teens to the beach is exhausting. My max has always been 6 and I don't bring coed groups. I'm so happy that they're almost 18 because that means next summer everyone can go on their own and I won't have to supervise. The worst was when they were 15 and I had kids (guests) sneaking out at 1am and I was up in the middle of the night wondering if I should call the parents or not. It was stressful.

As to drowning? It's highly, highly unlikely if the kids only swim on a guarded beach. At our beach in NJ there was a drowning last summer (someone swimming on an unguarded beach) and an article I read said something like there hasn't been a drowning on a guarded beach in 50 years in this town.

Of course, you can't guarantee that the kids won't swim after hours. I have this conversation with them every year and hope they listen. But if they're dumb enough to do this, they're probably doing equally dumb things at home in DC. At some point you have to trust them and hope they survive the teen years.

oops. rising SENIOR girl/boy twins.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would let my kid go. I don’t understand what people think would happen. They are in one house… the genders would be separated during sleeping arrangements. If you can’t swim, don’t get in the water. I think this would be fun.

As someone who was in a coed church group and did a sleep over with opposite sexes in very different parts of the huge church, let me tell you. Where there is a will there is a way. That church saw more action than most married bedrooms doe.

Saying someone is religious means nothing.

And this is a brother and sister with a few friends. Not a sleep away for teens from conservative families, who easily found their reason to get lucky.

[Anonymous]

I am gonna let you in on a little secret. Opposite sex means nothing anymore. These girls are getting all they need from each other and boys just do porn and their hands

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No.
If there are coed sleepovers i would need to be there and know exactly who is there.
As a survivor of SA, i can't put my child in any situation where it is ripe for something like that to happen.
Hang all day at hte beach all she wants, but would need to sleep at home at night.

So you basically have thrown all your anxiety onto your daughter and she's not allowed to do anything?

No sleepovers, no hanging out unsupervised, nothing?

Gotta let go so she can live a normal life