Would you let your teen go to the beach with another family?
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Anonymous
| Our teen DD has been invited to the beach with a friend and her family. Friend is also inviting many other friends and the sibling DS is also inviting friends. Typically, we would be ok with our DD having sleepovers with this family (even though they have a teen son) but in this beach situation, boys we don't know are also invited. It just seems like a lot of teenagers to have under one roof. My gut is uncomfortable saying yes to this. DD will be devastated if we say no. FWIW-she's 14 (just done with 8th grade). |
Anonymous
| How many friends? |
Anonymous
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I was prepared to reply “Of course!” Then I read that it’s a large, mixed-gender group of teens. And 14 is young to be on your own with older teens, regardless of their gender.
I’d reach out to the parents, thank them for the generous invitation, and ask some detailed questions about sleeping arrangements and the size of the group. What about alcohol and teens? I have teen daughters, and sending a 14 YO girl into a beach house filled with boys and girls would’ve given me pause, too. I think that conversation with the parents will clarify things for you. Either you’re going to be reassured that she will be appropriately supervised, or you’ll be more comfortable saying no. |
Anonymous
| No, probably not. I have let my kids go on vacation with other families, and have brought my kids friends but not in that situation. |
Anonymous
| Not with multiple teens. If just her yes. |
Anonymous
OP here. It seems like each kid is inviting about 4 friends. So 8 in total. But DD also said there might be cousins. Not sure about that one. Basically a lot of kids!!! |
Anonymous
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Yes, though I will mention that my DD14 is the oldest and has two younger elementary aged brothers. It’s likely the parents doing this to keep things fair - if one sibling can invite friends, then the other siblings can as well. No one wants to host separate trips for each child to bring a friend along.
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Anonymous
Ack. I was also prepared to say yes but that's a lot of kids. I would definitely reach out to the parents and get some specifics before agreeing to anything. |
Anonymous
This. If you don’t know any of the other kids invited, I’d say no. |
Anonymous
| I have and in your situation, I would, but after talking with parents. In our case, dd said the boys mainly hung out separately except for activities. The mom said they'd always be supervising and everything went great, dd came home with great memories. |
Anonymous
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Probably not. I'd allow a small group of same gender (like 4 girls) or I'd allow her to go with another family where each child brought 1 friend.
But what you describe I would probably say no to. |
Anonymous
| Honestly, a parent willing to take all those people to the beach is not planning to supervise much if at all. You can tell by the number of kids the parent is allowing to go. I'd frankly be more worried about riptides and drownings. |
Anonymous
This. And this is what I thought this post was going to be about. I am so, so much more worried about the dangers of the ocean than teen drinking or boys or something. |
Anonymous
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There's something creepy about the family even thinking this is okay, IMHO. Yes, parents of our daugther's 14 year old friends, do let them come away with us and a bunch of teenaged boys a few years older! It's cool! Come on, be cool!
Yeah it's a no from me dog. |
Anonymous
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Why would any family do this? It's like beach week for 8th graders. Weird.
Is it an older brother or a younger brother? Where are they all sleeping. I agree you should assume zero supervision will go on. |