I think Miami, NYC or large international city is not the norm. That’s not everyday average cute girl going to a state school. She marries her Midwest khaki average cute dude who porks out at 45 from too much hops. But hey he has his gov benefits. DC has this but lower level. But even then I hear everyday people joke about sugar daddies/mommas all the time. Even people who claim they could never. I was in a moms groups when my kids were babies and the number of plain Jane Midwest moms joking how they married wrong and could use a sugar daddy sickened me. It’s so annoying because people don’t even know what they are talking about!! I don’t think 50s and 30s is an extreme though, 20s yes. Some of these men are having babies with these women. Not all, but it’s very common. Ask me how I know. I agree that being super fit and good looking gets you far at any age. Women date younger all the time and no they don’t get pointed out on their dates. That’s a hilarious thinking from that dude. Again not your average woman. Someone with funds to upkeep herself. Hate to point to celebrities but like Paris Hilton is her 40s. She’s married but you all get the point. |
The statistic was taken from the 2017 census. So it includes all age groups… Meaning if you’re an 85-year-old man married to a 65-year-old woman and got married 40 years ago you are included in this stat. it will likely go down as the younger generations are less less likely to feel pressure to marry, less likely to rely on a man financially, and more likely to be same-sex relationship relationships than any other generation before. It also includes the outliers like 60-year-old Brad Pitt dating a 34-year-old woman. Most men are not Brad Pitt and he’s a real outlier in terms of fame, money, and looks. |
Yep. My late teens daughter and her friends recently discovered one tree hill and Chad Michael Murray. They think he’s so cute. Turns out he is starring in a new movie with Brooke shields (they date in that movie) and I asked them if they wanted to watch and they were like ew no he’s old now! He’s 42. Still looks good LOL but they are into early 20s CMM. |
So...you don't want kids but haven't told her; or have led her to think you might want them eventually; or you just avoid the topic--to hang onto her? Interesting. Setting her up for not being able to have them after she wastes years with you either not communcating with her or just misleading her....But hey, you're "both very happy" for now, even though you're confident you'll break up, and your current happiness is really all that counts, right? I wonder if she knows you tell yourself, and strangers online, that "it's going to end." I'd wager she thinks you're committed to her. Foolish woman. Self-centered man. |
| I am sure most women in their 20s are not interested in a man in his 40s. But there are enough attractive ones in the DC area who do, that I am able to regularly date and have sex. The relationships never last, but that’s not really the point. |
As someone who dates a hedge fund manager from NYC in my 40s for over a year exclusively, I can attest that even those men often don't date these girls. They have a main partner who is just as successful as them in New York and are hanging out with young babies who seek dolce vita on business trips. |
I am the pp. My DH is not a club type guy, never was. When they go to conferences, I know some of the sales guys will get tables. Our friend is in sales and said it is common for the reps to rack up hundreds of thousands of dollars on those trips. On one trip, my friends and I were standing around in front of a club. We were in our forties. My feet hurt and I just got us a table. My thought was if my Dh or any of our male friends was here, they would or could get a table. It cost a few thousand to be able to sit down. That was not my idea of a fun night. The friend who wanted to go to this hot club thought it was a waste of money to get a table. Ugh. Why do I even go to these places? |
DP here. I’m genuinely curious what these 50 something year old men look like. Sure, if you look like Brad Pitt or George Clooney, I can see young and old women being attracted. I really can’t see my 25 year old self being interested in a 55 year old man. |
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And what are these 20 somethings like?
Are they poor? Are they ugly? Average? |
+1 I'm 53, and that's gross. I can't even imagine dating a 77 yr old man. Super gross. |
Yeah, when I was in college, grad school and living a young professional life, I met so many guys my same age. I can’t imagine being attracted to an old guy. The older guys I worked with were mostly all married with kids. There were a few single ones and they seemed kind of sleezy. I had absolutely zero interest in them. I can’t imagine a self respecting, well educated young female dating someone double their age. |
There are a lot of women out there not at all like you, and the dating apps have changed everything. |
My gf is 25, 5'8", very pretty (a "9"), thin (flat stomach), long hair. She is one of the top 5 prettiest women I have ever been with. |
6'4", 204, silver hair. I have been accused of looking like Anthony Bourdain. |
You are literally old enough to be her dad. Do people mistake you to be her father? How did you meet? |