Why do so many parents let their kids just stay home?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Schools no longer do anything about taedies and absences and the kids know it

Schools are actually doing “things” about tardies and absences. We have protocols that the Virginia code requires us to do. But when we do do those things, parents then complain that we are “hassling” them for attendance that they don’t care about, thus not doing anything to help improve their child’s attendance. And THAT is what the kids know. “My parent(s) don’t care about my attendance so why should I.”

Stop blaming the schools for poor attendance. This isn’t a school issue, it’s a parenting issue. Ohhh wait… parents don’t understand they are the problem and lovveeeee to blame public schools. (Just look at all of these discussion boards). This is a vicious cycle that will never end because parents “these days” think public school is a joke, love to talk about how much they love teachers during teacher appreciation week, but actually love to talk shit about teachers and think they are better than teachers.

You know, the few parents who do try to appreciate teachers get really turned off by being told all of us are the problem.

Or would you like your room parents and PTA moms to up and disappear on you?

Room parents? The majority of classrooms post-Covid don’t use these anymore, unless you’re at a high SES school.

PTA moms? No real impact there. At quite a few Title I schools, meeting are attended by fewer than 10 families. So we’d never notice if a few dropped out.

I guess you're not the teacher on this forum who complains about parent involvement in schools being half what it was a couple decades ago. Maybe you should invite a few more parents into your school and encourage them to get more involved and invested.

If parents don't feel welcome in schools, then yeah they are going to point to teachers as a problem and feel more comfortable keeping kids home.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Schools no longer do anything about taedies and absences and the kids know it

Schools are actually doing “things” about tardies and absences. We have protocols that the Virginia code requires us to do. But when we do do those things, parents then complain that we are “hassling” them for attendance that they don’t care about, thus not doing anything to help improve their child’s attendance. And THAT is what the kids know. “My parent(s) don’t care about my attendance so why should I.”

Stop blaming the schools for poor attendance. This isn’t a school issue, it’s a parenting issue. Ohhh wait… parents don’t understand they are the problem and lovveeeee to blame public schools. (Just look at all of these discussion boards). This is a vicious cycle that will never end because parents “these days” think public school is a joke, love to talk about how much they love teachers during teacher appreciation week, but actually love to talk shit about teachers and think they are better than teachers.

Government school can be a joke. I love my children’s high school because most of their teachers have been competent and some have been excellent. The building is in good repair, the environmental is safe and activities/sports are robust.

It is silly to hassle parents about attendance if the kid is pulling good grades. FCPS was happy to keep buildings closed for months on end and were deaf to pleas and complaints about the effect on children and families.

Some children thrived during that time and there’s no need to be alarmed about attendance now that kids and parents have embraced the reality that kids can do well without being in the building constantly.

Props to the teachers who evolved to the next level and made this possible.

[Anonymous]

I’m ok if parents keep their kids at home, but if there not sick don’t ask me to do extra work.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yet all of you send your kids to public school and complain about it….

That boggles my mind. You are very wealthy people yet you cheap out on your kid’s education. Why?

Not everyone is wealthy enough for private school to not be a significant cost

You might need to give up a vacation or two but most people here can afford it. They just don’t want to change their lifestyle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m ok if parents keep their kids at home, but if there not sick don’t ask me to do extra work.

There are other valid reasons to be out.

I do agree that teachers shouldn’t put themselves out for kids that can’t do well when they blow off attendance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its easy to miss 10 days. My kids had bad strep in the fall and both missed 5 -6 days each. A few other illnesses or doctor appointments and you are easily up to 10.

Between multiple rounds of strep, plus pinkeye, and regular colds, I’m not sure if we’ve hit 10 days for my youngest or not, but she does tend to get sick a lot. We do all the make-up work and do our best. She’s never once stayed home because we “didn’t feel like” going to school. We’ve never once skipped because of a vacation or anything like that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yet all of you send your kids to public school and complain about it….

That boggles my mind. You are very wealthy people yet you cheap out on your kid’s education. Why?

Not everyone is wealthy enough for private school to not be a significant cost

You might need to give up a vacation or two but most people here can afford it. They just don’t want to change their lifestyle.

I want to say that I looked at tuition for some of the non-religious private schools around here about a decade ago and they were substantially higher than college tuition.

What the hell kind of vacations do you take that giving up one or two would net you a year's worth of college tuition money?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Schools no longer do anything about taedies and absences and the kids know it

Schools are actually doing “things” about tardies and absences. We have protocols that the Virginia code requires us to do. But when we do do those things, parents then complain that we are “hassling” them for attendance that they don’t care about, thus not doing anything to help improve their child’s attendance. And THAT is what the kids know. “My parent(s) don’t care about my attendance so why should I.”

Stop blaming the schools for poor attendance. This isn’t a school issue, it’s a parenting issue. Ohhh wait… parents don’t understand they are the problem and lovveeeee to blame public schools. (Just look at all of these discussion boards). This is a vicious cycle that will never end because parents “these days” think public school is a joke, love to talk about how much they love teachers during teacher appreciation week, but actually love to talk shit about teachers and think they are better than teachers.

Government school can be a joke. I love my children’s high school because most of their teachers have been competent and some have been excellent. The building is in good repair, the environmental is safe and activities/sports are robust.

It is silly to hassle parents about attendance if the kid is pulling good grades. FCPS was happy to keep buildings closed for months on end and were deaf to pleas and complaints about the effect on children and families.

Some children thrived during that time and there’s no need to be alarmed about attendance now that kids and parents have embraced the reality that kids can do well without being in the building constantly.

Props to the teachers who evolved to the next level and made this possible.

This is why I don't feel bad taking my kid out of school for family events.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yet all of you send your kids to public school and complain about it….

That boggles my mind. You are very wealthy people yet you cheap out on your kid’s education. Why?

Not everyone is wealthy enough for private school to not be a significant cost

You might need to give up a vacation or two but most people here can afford it. They just don’t want to change their lifestyle.

I want to say that I looked at tuition for some of the non-religious private schools around here about a decade ago and they were substantially higher than college tuition.

What the hell kind of vacations do you take that giving up one or two would net you a year's worth of college tuition money?

Who's talking about college tuition? You are complaining that public school is your only option and that's BS. There are plenty of cheaper private schools that you could send your kids to where they would get an excellent education and be prepared for college.

[Anonymous]

Nobody "lets" their kids stay home. You sound like you don't know what kids are like.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yet all of you send your kids to public school and complain about it….

That boggles my mind. You are very wealthy people yet you cheap out on your kid’s education. Why?

Not everyone is wealthy enough for private school to not be a significant cost

You might need to give up a vacation or two but most people here can afford it. They just don’t want to change their lifestyle.

I want to say that I looked at tuition for some of the non-religious private schools around here about a decade ago and they were substantially higher than college tuition.

What the hell kind of vacations do you take that giving up one or two would net you a year's worth of college tuition money?

Who's talking about college tuition? You are complaining that public school is your only option and that's BS. There are plenty of cheaper private schools that you could send your kids to where they would get an excellent education and be prepared for college.

Can you name some cheap private high schools in the DMV? Have been looking and did find cheaper parochial schools for elementary. High schools seem to be significantly more expensive.

[Anonymous]

My kid has missed 30 days of school so far and still has straight A’s. Goes to show you how inefficient the school day really is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yet all of you send your kids to public school and complain about it….

That boggles my mind. You are very wealthy people yet you cheap out on your kid’s education. Why?

Not everyone is wealthy enough for private school to not be a significant cost

You might need to give up a vacation or two but most people here can afford it. They just don’t want to change their lifestyle.

I want to say that I looked at tuition for some of the non-religious private schools around here about a decade ago and they were substantially higher than college tuition.

What the hell kind of vacations do you take that giving up one or two would net you a year's worth of college tuition money?

Who's talking about college tuition? You are complaining that public school is your only option and that's BS. There are plenty of cheaper private schools that you could send your kids to where they would get an excellent education and be prepared for college.

Can you name some cheap private high schools in the DMV? Have been looking and did find cheaper parochial schools for elementary. High schools seem to be significantly more expensive.

I bet PP think Basis McLean counts. I'd love to see the 702k vacations they think families with 2 kids go on, or the 110k vacations they think families with three kids go on.

[Anonymous]

*70k

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid has missed 30 days of school so far and still has straight A’s. Goes to show you how inefficient the school day really is.

Or it just shows you that he knows how to make up missing assignments and with all the systems in place he can turn things in late.