Why do so many parents let their kids just stay home?

[Anonymous]

We were in that situation when our teen had a mental health crisis one year that results in serious school refusal. We had to get their mental health treated. It’s easy to think parents can force a kid can go by taking away electronics or something until you been through this. Go read on the SN forum for a while and you can see a lot of reasons kids miss a lot of school.

[Anonymous]

We went to see the eclipse in totality. Kids are both above grade level in math and reading. I teach at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The Daily actually just did an podcast episode on this on April 2. Very interesting, worth a listen.

Thanks. It was an interesting episode. I do think they could have talked more about how so many people work from home now. I don’t think elementary kids would be absent as much if adults all worked in person.

[Anonymous]

My ex leaves our high school kid home every time it's too windy outside or rains or eclipse. I already know the days the kid is going to miss.
He says that the kid is doing well at school. He definitely has some mental problems and kid is happy to have a day off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a math teacher. I do have strict curriculum to follow. Every missed class means the student is behind and will be able to follow lesson they come to, unless they catch up on their own. Since many parents do not know math and not able to tutor, it then falls on me to somehow get the kid up to speed. For just lessons I can replace 90 minutes of class with 45 minutes of 1:1 after school session but now you asking me to be a 1:2 tutor for every kid who kisses my class, and for free.
So whatever is happening or not happening in other classes, missing math means one of the following: 1) you ensure your kid is up to speed on lesson/practice (studying in their own or with you or with tutor); 2) your kid spends at least an hour after school with teacher - you burden the teacher and teacher needs to agree to this (unfair either way); 3) your kid goes on as nothing happened meaning they now have a gap (those gaps when they accumulate will mean your kid is slower in future classes, struggling to understand lessons that require strong prerequisite skills, etc)

Assuming you're saying that the child will NOT be able to follow the lesson they "come to"? As in if they miss a day the next lesson cannot be understood according to your teaching methods. You sound like a terrible teacher. Even in the workplace and the adult world, we have missing people, sickness and plenty of review and recaps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a math teacher. I do have strict curriculum to follow. Every missed class means the student is behind and will be able to follow lesson they come to, unless they catch up on their own. Since many parents do not know math and not able to tutor, it then falls on me to somehow get the kid up to speed. For just lessons I can replace 90 minutes of class with 45 minutes of 1:1 after school session but now you asking me to be a 1:2 tutor for every kid who kisses my class, and for free.
So whatever is happening or not happening in other classes, missing math means one of the following: 1) you ensure your kid is up to speed on lesson/practice (studying in their own or with you or with tutor); 2) your kid spends at least an hour after school with teacher - you burden the teacher and teacher needs to agree to this (unfair either way); 3) your kid goes on as nothing happened meaning they now have a gap (those gaps when they accumulate will mean your kid is slower in future classes, struggling to understand lessons that require strong prerequisite skills, etc)

Assuming you're saying that the child will NOT be able to follow the lesson they "come to"? As in if they miss a day the next lesson cannot be understood according to your teaching methods. You sound like a terrible teacher. Even in the workplace and the adult world, we have missing people, sickness and plenty of review and recaps.

I’m not the PP, but I am a math teacher. You mentioned that there’s plenty of opportunities for review and recaps at your job, that’s not always the case in HS and sometimes MS. Often times a new concept is taught every class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a math teacher. I do have strict curriculum to follow. Every missed class means the student is behind and will be able to follow lesson they come to, unless they catch up on their own. Since many parents do not know math and not able to tutor, it then falls on me to somehow get the kid up to speed. For just lessons I can replace 90 minutes of class with 45 minutes of 1:1 after school session but now you asking me to be a 1:2 tutor for every kid who kisses my class, and for free.
So whatever is happening or not happening in other classes, missing math means one of the following: 1) you ensure your kid is up to speed on lesson/practice (studying in their own or with you or with tutor); 2) your kid spends at least an hour after school with teacher - you burden the teacher and teacher needs to agree to this (unfair either way); 3) your kid goes on as nothing happened meaning they now have a gap (those gaps when they accumulate will mean your kid is slower in future classes, struggling to understand lessons that require strong prerequisite skills, etc)

Assuming you're saying that the child will NOT be able to follow the lesson they "come to"? As in if they miss a day the next lesson cannot be understood according to your teaching methods. You sound like a terrible teacher. Even in the workplace and the adult world, we have missing people, sickness and plenty of review and recaps.

No we don't. What do you think meeting minutes and recorded presentations are for? You might get a 5-minute recap of takeaways from a previous meeting but that has nothing to do with learning a new skill, practicing it in class and getting help and feedback as you practice. You sound like you work for a very slow and static outfit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a math teacher. I do have strict curriculum to follow. Every missed class means the student is behind and will be able to follow lesson they come to, unless they catch up on their own. Since many parents do not know math and not able to tutor, it then falls on me to somehow get the kid up to speed. For just lessons I can replace 90 minutes of class with 45 minutes of 1:1 after school session but now you asking me to be a 1:2 tutor for every kid who kisses my class, and for free.
So whatever is happening or not happening in other classes, missing math means one of the following: 1) you ensure your kid is up to speed on lesson/practice (studying in their own or with you or with tutor); 2) your kid spends at least an hour after school with teacher - you burden the teacher and teacher needs to agree to this (unfair either way); 3) your kid goes on as nothing happened meaning they now have a gap (those gaps when they accumulate will mean your kid is slower in future classes, struggling to understand lessons that require strong prerequisite skills, etc)

Assuming you're saying that the child will NOT be able to follow the lesson they "come to"? As in if they miss a day the next lesson cannot be understood according to your teaching methods. You sound like a terrible teacher. Even in the workplace and the adult world, we have missing people, sickness and plenty of review and recaps.

No we don't. What do you think meeting minutes and recorded presentations are for? You might get a 5-minute recap of takeaways from a previous meeting but that has nothing to do with learning a new skill, practicing it in class and getting help and feedback as you practice. You sound like you work for a very slow and static outfit.

This area does have a lot of federal employees.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a math teacher. I do have strict curriculum to follow. Every missed class means the student is behind and will be able to follow lesson they come to, unless they catch up on their own. Since many parents do not know math and not able to tutor, it then falls on me to somehow get the kid up to speed. For just lessons I can replace 90 minutes of class with 45 minutes of 1:1 after school session but now you asking me to be a 1:2 tutor for every kid who kisses my class, and for free.
So whatever is happening or not happening in other classes, missing math means one of the following: 1) you ensure your kid is up to speed on lesson/practice (studying in their own or with you or with tutor); 2) your kid spends at least an hour after school with teacher - you burden the teacher and teacher needs to agree to this (unfair either way); 3) your kid goes on as nothing happened meaning they now have a gap (those gaps when they accumulate will mean your kid is slower in future classes, struggling to understand lessons that require strong prerequisite skills, etc)

Assuming you're saying that the child will NOT be able to follow the lesson they "come to"? As in if they miss a day the next lesson cannot be understood according to your teaching methods. You sound like a terrible teacher. Even in the workplace and the adult world, we have missing people, sickness and plenty of review and recaps.

I’m not the PP, but I am a math teacher. You mentioned that there’s plenty of opportunities for review and recaps at your job, that’s not always the case in HS and sometimes MS. Often times a new concept is taught every class.

What if a kid is sick?

[Anonymous]

It’s literally everything. Read this article (gift link) https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2024/03/29/us/chronic-absences.html?ugrp=u&unlocked_article_code=1.kE0.PAJj.Yob7DQh-cwSR&smid=url-share

-Covid related closures made people from all ends of the economic spectrum feel like school was not a priority, so people are taking more time to travel/vacation during the school year.

- people are staying home more when sick

- student behavior is worse in school, and the kids who aren’t poorly behaved don’t want to go to school and put up with it

- kids got behind during Covid, are still behind, they have anxiety due to being behind and they have some degree of school refusal due to their anxiety

- working class and poor kids who are reliant on the bus can’t get to school if they miss their bus, or they need to stay home to watch a younger relative who also missed school

- not noted in the article but I know travel sports have ramped up and now have events on Fridays that kids miss school for

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a math teacher. I do have strict curriculum to follow. Every missed class means the student is behind and will be able to follow lesson they come to, unless they catch up on their own. Since many parents do not know math and not able to tutor, it then falls on me to somehow get the kid up to speed. For just lessons I can replace 90 minutes of class with 45 minutes of 1:1 after school session but now you asking me to be a 1:2 tutor for every kid who kisses my class, and for free.
So whatever is happening or not happening in other classes, missing math means one of the following: 1) you ensure your kid is up to speed on lesson/practice (studying in their own or with you or with tutor); 2) your kid spends at least an hour after school with teacher - you burden the teacher and teacher needs to agree to this (unfair either way); 3) your kid goes on as nothing happened meaning they now have a gap (those gaps when they accumulate will mean your kid is slower in future classes, struggling to understand lessons that require strong prerequisite skills, etc)

Assuming you're saying that the child will NOT be able to follow the lesson they "come to"? As in if they miss a day the next lesson cannot be understood according to your teaching methods. You sound like a terrible teacher. Even in the workplace and the adult world, we have missing people, sickness and plenty of review and recaps.

I’m not the PP, but I am a math teacher. You mentioned that there’s plenty of opportunities for review and recaps at your job, that’s not always the case in HS and sometimes MS. Often times a new concept is taught every class.

What if a kid is sick?

They may have an opportunity to meet with me during an advisory block or after school, but if they don’t come, I’m not killing myself to catch them up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a math teacher. I do have strict curriculum to follow. Every missed class means the student is behind and will be able to follow lesson they come to, unless they catch up on their own. Since many parents do not know math and not able to tutor, it then falls on me to somehow get the kid up to speed. For just lessons I can replace 90 minutes of class with 45 minutes of 1:1 after school session but now you asking me to be a 1:2 tutor for every kid who kisses my class, and for free.
So whatever is happening or not happening in other classes, missing math means one of the following: 1) you ensure your kid is up to speed on lesson/practice (studying in their own or with you or with tutor); 2) your kid spends at least an hour after school with teacher - you burden the teacher and teacher needs to agree to this (unfair either way); 3) your kid goes on as nothing happened meaning they now have a gap (those gaps when they accumulate will mean your kid is slower in future classes, struggling to understand lessons that require strong prerequisite skills, etc)

Assuming you're saying that the child will NOT be able to follow the lesson they "come to"? As in if they miss a day the next lesson cannot be understood according to your teaching methods. You sound like a terrible teacher. Even in the workplace and the adult world, we have missing people, sickness and plenty of review and recaps.

I’m not the PP, but I am a math teacher. You mentioned that there’s plenty of opportunities for review and recaps at your job, that’s not always the case in HS and sometimes MS. Often times a new concept is taught every class.

What if a kid is sick?

They may have an opportunity to meet with me during an advisory block or after school, but if they don’t come, I’m not killing myself to catch them up.

+1, kids are absent every day. We need to keep moving forward with the curriculum and not hold up the class to catch one student up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do so many parents let their kids just stay home?
Why?
I will understand when they are sick, or every now and then, but missing over 10 days a school year? Why? They don't feel like going so they don't go?

My child got COVID 1st week of school, strep in January, and has come down with something respiratory now. Then we have missed for orthodontist and doctor appointments. It’s easy to miss 10+

[Anonymous]

My kid was sick this entire week with the flu. First a high fever on Monday, then vomiting on weds and now coughing very badly. I’m super hopeful we can go on Monday.

We also need to travel in the fall and there isn’t a full week off school so we usually end up missing a few days there too.

[Anonymous]

Covid showed public school isn’t important