Redshirting a March birthday boy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Redshirting is a huge advantage for boys both socially and with sports in middle and high school. Other parents will be mad because your son is bigger and more developed than theirs, but I would gladly do this for a March birthday boy.

So, what happens to the kids who aren't athletic?

Some sports go by age, not grade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is what happens when they put first grade curriculum in kindergarten. Five year olds aren’t ready for first grade, so now they want six year olds in Kindergarten.

We’re ridiculous as a nation, and then wonder why kids struggle. Nations with highest literacy rates have real kindergarten.

Good luck OP.

Learning to read, write and do basic math is K, not first grade. Our kids are behind many other countries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. So many bad takes here. OP, this is a private school. They can do what they want. If you want to attend the school, you can either accept this or go to another school. You can argue with the school if you want, maybe it will work, maybe it won’t. The school is certainly under no obligation to admit your child in the grade you want, versus what the admissions team wants. They’ll just go to the next person on the list if you seem difficult.

OP already has another child at currently enrolled there, they aren’t new to the private school world or this school specifically.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:NP. So many bad takes here. OP, this is a private school. They can do what they want. If you want to attend the school, you can either accept this or go to another school. You can argue with the school if you want, maybe it will work, maybe it won’t. The school is certainly under no obligation to admit your child in the grade you want, versus what the admissions team wants. They’ll just go to the next person on the list if you seem difficult.

OP already has another child at currently enrolled there, they aren’t new to the private school world or this school specifically.

I know. That still does not mean the school is under any obligation to admit the sibling in the grade that OP prefers. If the school has a wait list — and many do — the school is not going to spend a lot of time worrying about the decision. OP is of course free to ask for reconsideration politely, but the school has no obligation to admit according to what OP wants. All the hyperventilating in this thread is useless.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. So many bad takes here. OP, this is a private school. They can do what they want. If you want to attend the school, you can either accept this or go to another school. You can argue with the school if you want, maybe it will work, maybe it won’t. The school is certainly under no obligation to admit your child in the grade you want, versus what the admissions team wants. They’ll just go to the next person on the list if you seem difficult.

OP already has another child at currently enrolled there, they aren’t new to the private school world or this school specifically.

I know. That still does not mean the school is under any obligation to admit the sibling in the grade that OP prefers. If the school has a wait list — and many do — the school is not going to spend a lot of time worrying about the decision. OP is of course free to ask for reconsideration politely, but the school has no obligation to admit according to what OP wants. All the hyperventilating in this thread is useless.

Thank you. OP here. What I was hoping to get from this thread was the opinion of parents of older children. There aren’t many March redshirted kids at our school and I worry that my son will feel “less then” or perhaps other kids will make fun of him. He is also tall for his age and quite athletic (for an almost 5 year old).

I appreciate some some of the apps that mentioned that in middle school this becomes a non issue, but I am afraid of my son being embarrassed of turning 7 in K with some of his friends still being 5 and much smaller than him.

We are not very tall people (though my husband’s family has very tall people) so it’s likely his growth will slow down (it happened with my older kids).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Redshirting is a huge advantage for boys both socially and with sports in middle and high school. Other parents will be mad because your son is bigger and more developed than theirs, but I would gladly do this for a March birthday boy.

You’re stupid. Plain and simple.

Wow, thanks. Sophisticated argument there. There is tons of data about how the oldest boys allowed on a team are likely to develop sooner and outperform, getting more playing time and reinforcing the advantage. If your son isn't athletic I don't see much of an advantage to red shirting, beyond the social skills and maturity. It is widely understood to be an advantage for athletes though.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. So many bad takes here. OP, this is a private school. They can do what they want. If you want to attend the school, you can either accept this or go to another school. You can argue with the school if you want, maybe it will work, maybe it won’t. The school is certainly under no obligation to admit your child in the grade you want, versus what the admissions team wants. They’ll just go to the next person on the list if you seem difficult.

OP already has another child at currently enrolled there, they aren’t new to the private school world or this school specifically.

I know. That still does not mean the school is under any obligation to admit the sibling in the grade that OP prefers. If the school has a wait list — and many do — the school is not going to spend a lot of time worrying about the decision. OP is of course free to ask for reconsideration politely, but the school has no obligation to admit according to what OP wants. All the hyperventilating in this thread is useless.

Thank you. OP here. What I was hoping to get from this thread was the opinion of parents of older children. There aren’t many March redshirted kids at our school and I worry that my son will feel “less then” or perhaps other kids will make fun of him. He is also tall for his age and quite athletic (for an almost 5 year old).

I appreciate some some of the apps that mentioned that in middle school this becomes a non issue, but I am afraid of my son being embarrassed of turning 7 in K with some of his friends still being 5 and much smaller than him.

We are not very tall people (though my husband’s family has very tall people) so it’s likely his growth will slow down (it happened with my older kids).

We really like to school, but I am not sure it’s worth it the risk of the social backlash my son would get.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:NP. So many bad takes here. OP, this is a private school. They can do what they want. If you want to attend the school, you can either accept this or go to another school. You can argue with the school if you want, maybe it will work, maybe it won’t. The school is certainly under no obligation to admit your child in the grade you want, versus what the admissions team wants. They’ll just go to the next person on the list if you seem difficult.

OP already has another child at currently enrolled there, they aren’t new to the private school world or this school specifically.

I know. That still does not mean the school is under any obligation to admit the sibling in the grade that OP prefers. If the school has a wait list — and many do — the school is not going to spend a lot of time worrying about the decision. OP is of course free to ask for reconsideration politely, but the school has no obligation to admit according to what OP wants. All the hyperventilating in this thread is useless.

Thank you. OP here. What I was hoping to get from this thread was the opinion of parents of older children. There aren’t many March redshirted kids at our school and I worry that my son will feel “less then” or perhaps other kids will make fun of him. He is also tall for his age and quite athletic (for an almost 5 year old).

I appreciate some some of the apps that mentioned that in middle school this becomes a non issue, but I am afraid of my son being embarrassed of turning 7 in K with some of his friends still being 5 and much smaller than him.

We are not very tall people (though my husband’s family has very tall people) so it’s likely his growth will slow down (it happened with my older kids).

He may be embarrassed in K about being older, and then at a huge advantage in middle in high school. From the perspective of a high school son this seems like a no brainer to me, the red shirted boys have a leg up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Redshirting is a huge advantage for boys both socially and with sports in middle and high school. Other parents will be mad because your son is bigger and more developed than theirs, but I would gladly do this for a March birthday boy.

You’re stupid. Plain and simple.

Wow, thanks. Sophisticated argument there. There is tons of data about how the oldest boys allowed on a team are likely to develop sooner and outperform, getting more playing time and reinforcing the advantage. If your son isn't athletic I don't see much of an advantage to red shirting, beyond the social skills and maturity. It is widely understood to be an advantage for athletes though.

Not sophisticated because it isn’t. Just call it what it is. Stupid, plain and simple.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:NP. So many bad takes here. OP, this is a private school. They can do what they want. If you want to attend the school, you can either accept this or go to another school. You can argue with the school if you want, maybe it will work, maybe it won’t. The school is certainly under no obligation to admit your child in the grade you want, versus what the admissions team wants. They’ll just go to the next person on the list if you seem difficult.

OP already has another child at currently enrolled there, they aren’t new to the private school world or this school specifically.

I know. That still does not mean the school is under any obligation to admit the sibling in the grade that OP prefers. If the school has a wait list — and many do — the school is not going to spend a lot of time worrying about the decision. OP is of course free to ask for reconsideration politely, but the school has no obligation to admit according to what OP wants. All the hyperventilating in this thread is useless.

Thank you. OP here. What I was hoping to get from this thread was the opinion of parents of older children. There aren’t many March redshirted kids at our school and I worry that my son will feel “less then” or perhaps other kids will make fun of him. He is also tall for his age and quite athletic (for an almost 5 year old).

I appreciate some some of the apps that mentioned that in middle school this becomes a non issue, but I am afraid of my son being embarrassed of turning 7 in K with some of his friends still being 5 and much smaller than him.

We are not very tall people (though my husband’s family has very tall people) so it’s likely his growth will slow down (it happened with my older kids).

He may be embarrassed in K about being older, and then at a huge advantage in middle in high school. From the perspective of a high school son this seems like a no brainer to me, the red shirted boys have a leg up.

He will absolutely not be embarrassed about being older. My 2nd grade son just turned 8 a few months ago and has a friend turning 9 in March. They are all jealous he gets to be 9 first. That's how it goes every year.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Redshirting is a huge advantage for boys both socially and with sports in middle and high school. Other parents will be mad because your son is bigger and more developed than theirs, but I would gladly do this for a March birthday boy.

You’re stupid. Plain and simple.

Wow, thanks. Sophisticated argument there. There is tons of data about how the oldest boys allowed on a team are likely to develop sooner and outperform, getting more playing time and reinforcing the advantage. If your son isn't athletic I don't see much of an advantage to red shirting, beyond the social skills and maturity. It is widely understood to be an advantage for athletes though.

Not sophisticated because it isn’t. Just call it what it is. Stupid, plain and simple.

Why is it stupid? Why wouldn't you want your son to be one of the oldest in his class? What disadvantage is there?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:NP. So many bad takes here. OP, this is a private school. They can do what they want. If you want to attend the school, you can either accept this or go to another school. You can argue with the school if you want, maybe it will work, maybe it won’t. The school is certainly under no obligation to admit your child in the grade you want, versus what the admissions team wants. They’ll just go to the next person on the list if you seem difficult.

OP already has another child at currently enrolled there, they aren’t new to the private school world or this school specifically.

I know. That still does not mean the school is under any obligation to admit the sibling in the grade that OP prefers. If the school has a wait list — and many do — the school is not going to spend a lot of time worrying about the decision. OP is of course free to ask for reconsideration politely, but the school has no obligation to admit according to what OP wants. All the hyperventilating in this thread is useless.

Thank you. OP here. What I was hoping to get from this thread was the opinion of parents of older children. There aren’t many March redshirted kids at our school and I worry that my son will feel “less then” or perhaps other kids will make fun of him. He is also tall for his age and quite athletic (for an almost 5 year old).

I appreciate some some of the apps that mentioned that in middle school this becomes a non issue, but I am afraid of my son being embarrassed of turning 7 in K with some of his friends still being 5 and much smaller than him.

We are not very tall people (though my husband’s family has very tall people) so it’s likely his growth will slow down (it happened with my older kids).

He may be embarrassed in K about being older, and then at a huge advantage in middle in high school. From the perspective of a high school son this seems like a no brainer to me, the red shirted boys have a leg up.

I actually think it gets more embarrassing as the kids age. I didn’t have a clue how old kids were until middle school when someone turned 13 in 6th grade and my DD turned 11 in August.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Redshirting is a huge advantage for boys both socially and with sports in middle and high school. Other parents will be mad because your son is bigger and more developed than theirs, but I would gladly do this for a March birthday boy.

You’re stupid. Plain and simple.

Wow, thanks. Sophisticated argument there. There is tons of data about how the oldest boys allowed on a team are likely to develop sooner and outperform, getting more playing time and reinforcing the advantage. If your son isn't athletic I don't see much of an advantage to red shirting, beyond the social skills and maturity. It is widely understood to be an advantage for athletes though.

Not sophisticated because it isn’t. Just call it what it is. Stupid, plain and simple.

Why is it stupid? Why wouldn't you want your son to be one of the oldest in his class? What disadvantage is there?

Being a high school student at 19

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Redshirting is a huge advantage for boys both socially and with sports in middle and high school. Other parents will be mad because your son is bigger and more developed than theirs, but I would gladly do this for a March birthday boy.

You’re stupid. Plain and simple.

Wow, thanks. Sophisticated argument there. There is tons of data about how the oldest boys allowed on a team are likely to develop sooner and outperform, getting more playing time and reinforcing the advantage. If your son isn't athletic I don't see much of an advantage to red shirting, beyond the social skills and maturity. It is widely understood to be an advantage for athletes though.

Not sophisticated because it isn’t. Just call it what it is. Stupid, plain and simple.

Why is it stupid? Why wouldn't you want your son to be one of the oldest in his class? What disadvantage is there?

Being a high school student at 19

And? It's increasingly common, my sons have a bunch of friends who graduate at 19. They are more likely to be top athletes and socially popular. It's a big advantage.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:NP. So many bad takes here. OP, this is a private school. They can do what they want. If you want to attend the school, you can either accept this or go to another school. You can argue with the school if you want, maybe it will work, maybe it won’t. The school is certainly under no obligation to admit your child in the grade you want, versus what the admissions team wants. They’ll just go to the next person on the list if you seem difficult.

OP already has another child at currently enrolled there, they aren’t new to the private school world or this school specifically.

I know. That still does not mean the school is under any obligation to admit the sibling in the grade that OP prefers. If the school has a wait list — and many do — the school is not going to spend a lot of time worrying about the decision. OP is of course free to ask for reconsideration politely, but the school has no obligation to admit according to what OP wants. All the hyperventilating in this thread is useless.

Thank you. OP here. What I was hoping to get from this thread was the opinion of parents of older children. There aren’t many March redshirted kids at our school and I worry that my son will feel “less then” or perhaps other kids will make fun of him. He is also tall for his age and quite athletic (for an almost 5 year old).

I appreciate some some of the apps that mentioned that in middle school this becomes a non issue, but I am afraid of my son being embarrassed of turning 7 in K with some of his friends still being 5 and much smaller than him.

We are not very tall people (though my husband’s family has very tall people) so it’s likely his growth will slow down (it happened with my older kids).

He may be embarrassed in K about being older, and then at a huge advantage in middle in high school. From the perspective of a high school son this seems like a no brainer to me, the red shirted boys have a leg up.

I actually think it gets more embarrassing as the kids age. I didn’t have a clue how old kids were until middle school when someone turned 13 in 6th grade and my DD turned 11 in August.

I would be much more embarrassed for the smallest, youngest boy in middle school.