Redshirting a March birthday boy

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Anonymous wrote:NP. So many bad takes here. OP, this is a private school. They can do what they want. If you want to attend the school, you can either accept this or go to another school. You can argue with the school if you want, maybe it will work, maybe it won’t. The school is certainly under no obligation to admit your child in the grade you want, versus what the admissions team wants. They’ll just go to the next person on the list if you seem difficult.

OP already has another child at currently enrolled there, they aren’t new to the private school world or this school specifically.

I know. That still does not mean the school is under any obligation to admit the sibling in the grade that OP prefers. If the school has a wait list — and many do — the school is not going to spend a lot of time worrying about the decision. OP is of course free to ask for reconsideration politely, but the school has no obligation to admit according to what OP wants. All the hyperventilating in this thread is useless.

Thank you. OP here. What I was hoping to get from this thread was the opinion of parents of older children. There aren’t many March redshirted kids at our school and I worry that my son will feel “less then” or perhaps other kids will make fun of him. He is also tall for his age and quite athletic (for an almost 5 year old).

I appreciate some some of the apps that mentioned that in middle school this becomes a non issue, but I am afraid of my son being embarrassed of turning 7 in K with some of his friends still being 5 and much smaller than him.

We are not very tall people (though my husband’s family has very tall people) so it’s likely his growth will slow down (it happened with my older kids).

He may be embarrassed in K about being older, and then at a huge advantage in middle in high school. From the perspective of a high school son this seems like a no brainer to me, the red shirted boys have a leg up.

He will absolutely not be embarrassed about being older. My 2nd grade son just turned 8 a few months ago and has a friend turning 9 in March. They are all jealous he gets to be 9 first. That's how it goes every year.

Well, my 2nd grader keeps talking about his classmate who has the same birthday as he does in a few weeks but will be turning 9 instead of 8. My DC is stunned about it and keeps asking if the other boy is “dumb or something.”

No one is remotely impressed.

What an own goal here. You do realize this is because your DC has bad manners and has you for a parent, right, and that this is not common among the normal families who teach character to their children? If I had heard something like that from my kids (none of whom were redshirted and one of whom was one of the younger kids), I would have been horrified and immediately corrected them. I certainly would never have talked so proudly about their appalling behavior on DCUM. But of course I never heard anything like that from them.

Anyhow, yes, I do believe your child did this. But most other children by age 8 have much better manners and observational powers. You and your child are outliers.

Bad manners? What are you talking about? He’s not saying anything to the child. He’s asking me about it at home. DC is used to kids bring older. The vast majority of boys in his class have summer and fall birthdays. He’s just shocked that this March birthday kid, who appears to have no learning disabilities is in the same year as he is. It’s confusing to him and he asks me about it.

You sound sensitive because you’ve learned your desire to give your kid an alleged advantage might actually backfire. March is way, way too late to redshirt. It’s called “holding back” at that point.

As well as raising a badly-mannered child, you can’t even read. None of my children were redshirted, which I said explicitly in my post.

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Anonymous wrote:NP. So many bad takes here. OP, this is a private school. They can do what they want. If you want to attend the school, you can either accept this or go to another school. You can argue with the school if you want, maybe it will work, maybe it won’t. The school is certainly under no obligation to admit your child in the grade you want, versus what the admissions team wants. They’ll just go to the next person on the list if you seem difficult.

OP already has another child at currently enrolled there, they aren’t new to the private school world or this school specifically.

I know. That still does not mean the school is under any obligation to admit the sibling in the grade that OP prefers. If the school has a wait list — and many do — the school is not going to spend a lot of time worrying about the decision. OP is of course free to ask for reconsideration politely, but the school has no obligation to admit according to what OP wants. All the hyperventilating in this thread is useless.

Thank you. OP here. What I was hoping to get from this thread was the opinion of parents of older children. There aren’t many March redshirted kids at our school and I worry that my son will feel “less then” or perhaps other kids will make fun of him. He is also tall for his age and quite athletic (for an almost 5 year old).

I appreciate some some of the apps that mentioned that in middle school this becomes a non issue, but I am afraid of my son being embarrassed of turning 7 in K with some of his friends still being 5 and much smaller than him.

We are not very tall people (though my husband’s family has very tall people) so it’s likely his growth will slow down (it happened with my older kids).

He may be embarrassed in K about being older, and then at a huge advantage in middle in high school. From the perspective of a high school son this seems like a no brainer to me, the red shirted boys have a leg up.

He will absolutely not be embarrassed about being older. My 2nd grade son just turned 8 a few months ago and has a friend turning 9 in March. They are all jealous he gets to be 9 first. That's how it goes every year.

Well, my 2nd grader keeps talking about his classmate who has the same birthday as he does in a few weeks but will be turning 9 instead of 8. My DC is stunned about it and keeps asking if the other boy is “dumb or something.”

No one is remotely impressed.

What an own goal here. You do realize this is because your DC has bad manners and has you for a parent, right, and that this is not common among the normal families who teach character to their children? If I had heard something like that from my kids (none of whom were redshirted and one of whom was one of the younger kids), I would have been horrified and immediately corrected them. I certainly would never have talked so proudly about their appalling behavior on DCUM. But of course I never heard anything like that from them.

Anyhow, yes, I do believe your child did this. But most other children by age 8 have much better manners and observational powers. You and your child are outliers.

Bad manners? What are you talking about? He’s not saying anything to the child. He’s asking me about it at home. DC is used to kids bring older. The vast majority of boys in his class have summer and fall birthdays. He’s just shocked that this March birthday kid, who appears to have no learning disabilities is in the same year as he is. It’s confusing to him and he asks me about it.

You sound sensitive because you’ve learned your desire to give your kid an alleged advantage might actually backfire. March is way, way too late to redshirt. It’s called “holding back” at that point.

As well as raising a badly-mannered child, you can’t even read. None of my children were redshirted, which I said explicitly in my post.

Oh I can read, I just don’t believe you.

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Anonymous wrote:NP. So many bad takes here. OP, this is a private school. They can do what they want. If you want to attend the school, you can either accept this or go to another school. You can argue with the school if you want, maybe it will work, maybe it won’t. The school is certainly under no obligation to admit your child in the grade you want, versus what the admissions team wants. They’ll just go to the next person on the list if you seem difficult.

OP already has another child at currently enrolled there, they aren’t new to the private school world or this school specifically.

I know. That still does not mean the school is under any obligation to admit the sibling in the grade that OP prefers. If the school has a wait list — and many do — the school is not going to spend a lot of time worrying about the decision. OP is of course free to ask for reconsideration politely, but the school has no obligation to admit according to what OP wants. All the hyperventilating in this thread is useless.

Thank you. OP here. What I was hoping to get from this thread was the opinion of parents of older children. There aren’t many March redshirted kids at our school and I worry that my son will feel “less then” or perhaps other kids will make fun of him. He is also tall for his age and quite athletic (for an almost 5 year old).

I appreciate some some of the apps that mentioned that in middle school this becomes a non issue, but I am afraid of my son being embarrassed of turning 7 in K with some of his friends still being 5 and much smaller than him.

We are not very tall people (though my husband’s family has very tall people) so it’s likely his growth will slow down (it happened with my older kids).

He may be embarrassed in K about being older, and then at a huge advantage in middle in high school. From the perspective of a high school son this seems like a no brainer to me, the red shirted boys have a leg up.

He will absolutely not be embarrassed about being older. My 2nd grade son just turned 8 a few months ago and has a friend turning 9 in March. They are all jealous he gets to be 9 first. That's how it goes every year.

Well, my 2nd grader keeps talking about his classmate who has the same birthday as he does in a few weeks but will be turning 9 instead of 8. My DC is stunned about it and keeps asking if the other boy is “dumb or something.”

No one is remotely impressed.

What an own goal here. You do realize this is because your DC has bad manners and has you for a parent, right, and that this is not common among the normal families who teach character to their children? If I had heard something like that from my kids (none of whom were redshirted and one of whom was one of the younger kids), I would have been horrified and immediately corrected them. I certainly would never have talked so proudly about their appalling behavior on DCUM. But of course I never heard anything like that from them.

Anyhow, yes, I do believe your child did this. But most other children by age 8 have much better manners and observational powers. You and your child are outliers.

Bad manners? What are you talking about? He’s not saying anything to the child. He’s asking me about it at home. DC is used to kids bring older. The vast majority of boys in his class have summer and fall birthdays. He’s just shocked that this March birthday kid, who appears to have no learning disabilities is in the same year as he is. It’s confusing to him and he asks me about it.

You sound sensitive because you’ve learned your desire to give your kid an alleged advantage might actually backfire. March is way, way too late to redshirt. It’s called “holding back” at that point.

As well as raising a badly-mannered child, you can’t even read. None of my children were redshirted, which I said explicitly in my post.

Oh I can read, I just don’t believe you.

Uh, okay, crazy. Why yes, that sure makes a lot of sense. 🤣🤣🤣

Man. No wonder people say DCUM anti-redshirters are insane. You have to invent your own worlds in your heads when you encounter the slightest disagreement with your world view. It’s literally crazy behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:NP. So many bad takes here. OP, this is a private school. They can do what they want. If you want to attend the school, you can either accept this or go to another school. You can argue with the school if you want, maybe it will work, maybe it won’t. The school is certainly under no obligation to admit your child in the grade you want, versus what the admissions team wants. They’ll just go to the next person on the list if you seem difficult.

OP already has another child at currently enrolled there, they aren’t new to the private school world or this school specifically.

I know. That still does not mean the school is under any obligation to admit the sibling in the grade that OP prefers. If the school has a wait list — and many do — the school is not going to spend a lot of time worrying about the decision. OP is of course free to ask for reconsideration politely, but the school has no obligation to admit according to what OP wants. All the hyperventilating in this thread is useless.

Thank you. OP here. What I was hoping to get from this thread was the opinion of parents of older children. There aren’t many March redshirted kids at our school and I worry that my son will feel “less then” or perhaps other kids will make fun of him. He is also tall for his age and quite athletic (for an almost 5 year old).

I appreciate some some of the apps that mentioned that in middle school this becomes a non issue, but I am afraid of my son being embarrassed of turning 7 in K with some of his friends still being 5 and much smaller than him.

We are not very tall people (though my husband’s family has very tall people) so it’s likely his growth will slow down (it happened with my older kids).

He may be embarrassed in K about being older, and then at a huge advantage in middle in high school. From the perspective of a high school son this seems like a no brainer to me, the red shirted boys have a leg up.

He will absolutely not be embarrassed about being older. My 2nd grade son just turned 8 a few months ago and has a friend turning 9 in March. They are all jealous he gets to be 9 first. That's how it goes every year.

Well, my 2nd grader keeps talking about his classmate who has the same birthday as he does in a few weeks but will be turning 9 instead of 8. My DC is stunned about it and keeps asking if the other boy is “dumb or something.”

No one is remotely impressed.

What an own goal here. You do realize this is because your DC has bad manners and has you for a parent, right, and that this is not common among the normal families who teach character to their children? If I had heard something like that from my kids (none of whom were redshirted and one of whom was one of the younger kids), I would have been horrified and immediately corrected them. I certainly would never have talked so proudly about their appalling behavior on DCUM. But of course I never heard anything like that from them.

Anyhow, yes, I do believe your child did this. But most other children by age 8 have much better manners and observational powers. You and your child are outliers.

Bad manners? What are you talking about? He’s not saying anything to the child. He’s asking me about it at home. DC is used to kids bring older. The vast majority of boys in his class have summer and fall birthdays. He’s just shocked that this March birthday kid, who appears to have no learning disabilities is in the same year as he is. It’s confusing to him and he asks me about it.

You sound sensitive because you’ve learned your desire to give your kid an alleged advantage might actually backfire. March is way, way too late to redshirt. It’s called “holding back” at that point.

As well as raising a badly-mannered child, you can’t even read. None of my children were redshirted, which I said explicitly in my post.

Oh I can read, I just don’t believe you.

Uh, okay, crazy. Why yes, that sure makes a lot of sense. 🤣🤣🤣

Man. No wonder people say DCUM anti-redshirters are insane. You have to invent your own worlds in your heads when you encounter the slightest disagreement with your world view. It’s literally crazy behavior.

Lol! You’re funny! A private school is being extremely nasty to one of its families and forcing them to make difficult choices for no reason and you’re defending it.

Worldview?!? Omg, I can’t stop laughing.

And yes, I don’t believe you. Sorry. I don’t. Otherwise, you’d see exactly what was going on here. But thank you for the good laugh.

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Anonymous wrote:NP. So many bad takes here. OP, this is a private school. They can do what they want. If you want to attend the school, you can either accept this or go to another school. You can argue with the school if you want, maybe it will work, maybe it won’t. The school is certainly under no obligation to admit your child in the grade you want, versus what the admissions team wants. They’ll just go to the next person on the list if you seem difficult.

OP already has another child at currently enrolled there, they aren’t new to the private school world or this school specifically.

I know. That still does not mean the school is under any obligation to admit the sibling in the grade that OP prefers. If the school has a wait list — and many do — the school is not going to spend a lot of time worrying about the decision. OP is of course free to ask for reconsideration politely, but the school has no obligation to admit according to what OP wants. All the hyperventilating in this thread is useless.

Thank you. OP here. What I was hoping to get from this thread was the opinion of parents of older children. There aren’t many March redshirted kids at our school and I worry that my son will feel “less then” or perhaps other kids will make fun of him. He is also tall for his age and quite athletic (for an almost 5 year old).

I appreciate some some of the apps that mentioned that in middle school this becomes a non issue, but I am afraid of my son being embarrassed of turning 7 in K with some of his friends still being 5 and much smaller than him.

We are not very tall people (though my husband’s family has very tall people) so it’s likely his growth will slow down (it happened with my older kids).

He may be embarrassed in K about being older, and then at a huge advantage in middle in high school. From the perspective of a high school son this seems like a no brainer to me, the red shirted boys have a leg up.

He will absolutely not be embarrassed about being older. My 2nd grade son just turned 8 a few months ago and has a friend turning 9 in March. They are all jealous he gets to be 9 first. That's how it goes every year.

Well, my 2nd grader keeps talking about his classmate who has the same birthday as he does in a few weeks but will be turning 9 instead of 8. My DC is stunned about it and keeps asking if the other boy is “dumb or something.”

No one is remotely impressed.

What an own goal here. You do realize this is because your DC has bad manners and has you for a parent, right, and that this is not common among the normal families who teach character to their children? If I had heard something like that from my kids (none of whom were redshirted and one of whom was one of the younger kids), I would have been horrified and immediately corrected them. I certainly would never have talked so proudly about their appalling behavior on DCUM. But of course I never heard anything like that from them.

Anyhow, yes, I do believe your child did this. But most other children by age 8 have much better manners and observational powers. You and your child are outliers.

Bad manners? What are you talking about? He’s not saying anything to the child. He’s asking me about it at home. DC is used to kids bring older. The vast majority of boys in his class have summer and fall birthdays. He’s just shocked that this March birthday kid, who appears to have no learning disabilities is in the same year as he is. It’s confusing to him and he asks me about it.

You sound sensitive because you’ve learned your desire to give your kid an alleged advantage might actually backfire. March is way, way too late to redshirt. It’s called “holding back” at that point.

As well as raising a badly-mannered child, you can’t even read. None of my children were redshirted, which I said explicitly in my post.

Oh I can read, I just don’t believe you.

Uh, okay, crazy. Why yes, that sure makes a lot of sense. 🤣🤣🤣

Man. No wonder people say DCUM anti-redshirters are insane. You have to invent your own worlds in your heads when you encounter the slightest disagreement with your world view. It’s literally crazy behavior.

Lol! You’re funny! A private school is being extremely nasty to one of its families and forcing them to make difficult choices for no reason and you’re defending it.

Worldview?!? Omg, I can’t stop laughing.

And yes, I don’t believe you. Sorry. I don’t. Otherwise, you’d see exactly what was going on here. But thank you for the good laugh.

Okay crazy.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. We applied for PK and were told to wait another and keep in preschool for the PK year.

Also, our school is pretty popular and has very long waitlists so I am 110% sure money has nothing to do with it.

Finally, I am sure my son would have been rejected had he not been a sibling. He just does not stand out in any of the ways his older sister (first to attend the school) did.

I spoke to other parents and it seems the school is being really tough on boys lately… not sure. I have also heard that they are trying to increase diversity and we are white.

Again, while my son is probably not a genius, I don’t see what the admission people saw in him that his current teachers did not see in 6 months. I will try to push back and see if there is room for compromise (let him start in K and then we hold back next year if he does not meet requirements).

So, you hold him back a year so they can take other kids they'd prefer to take and he doesn't get accepted the next year. Then what? It seems better to put your child at a school that wants him for him.

Schools are a business. They don’t get to know a child and want them for who they are. They want a child for donations, future donations, good behavior, and other attributes.

If this school provides a good education and is willing to work with the family, don’t hold a grudge because the class they are creating will be more mature and better behaved than at an average public school. Moving a child a class down is an easy solution.

If the kids are more mature and well behaved, why do you hear about all kinds of behavior problems at some privates AND, if they are more mature, why do privates not often start Algebra until 8th or 9th grade? So, these kids are much older than their public school cohorts, and their math and other classes are on a slower track. I'm not even sure how you compare kids at that point as then they don't seem much smarter or capable, just older.

Have you ever stepped foot inside a private school? Your understanding of math and behavior are not accurate.

Yes, I have. We did private until second and looked at multiple schools in 4th and 5th grades and I wasn’t that impressed. Did summer school at one and the teaching was subpar as they hired a phd student with no teaching skills after promising their own teachers.

Come MS when we did not want to return due to Covid, could not find a school that would keep my child’s math track which was Algebra in 6th. One said we could pay extra for a teacher to tutor but come hs they did not offer anything past calculus.

Publics tend to accelerate kids in math but learn material at a more shallow level, while privates tend to go slower and deeper in math.

That being said, it is possible to catch up in private as some will still let you accelerate on different paths or take courses over summer like geometry.

The reality is more school to school variation that you would expect. Our private offers multiple courses past the equivalent of AP Calc BC.

We did a summer geometry class at a private and it was not comparable to a year class. That makes no sense. Why not offer algebra in 7th.

Public’s are not more shallow. They are the same classes. The important thing is the teacher.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. We applied for PK and were told to wait another and keep in preschool for the PK year.

Also, our school is pretty popular and has very long waitlists so I am 110% sure money has nothing to do with it.

Finally, I am sure my son would have been rejected had he not been a sibling. He just does not stand out in any of the ways his older sister (first to attend the school) did.

I spoke to other parents and it seems the school is being really tough on boys lately… not sure. I have also heard that they are trying to increase diversity and we are white.

Again, while my son is probably not a genius, I don’t see what the admission people saw in him that his current teachers did not see in 6 months. I will try to push back and see if there is room for compromise (let him start in K and then we hold back next year if he does not meet requirements).

So, you hold him back a year so they can take other kids they'd prefer to take and he doesn't get accepted the next year. Then what? It seems better to put your child at a school that wants him for him.

Schools are a business. They don’t get to know a child and want them for who they are. They want a child for donations, future donations, good behavior, and other attributes.

If this school provides a good education and is willing to work with the family, don’t hold a grudge because the class they are creating will be more mature and better behaved than at an average public school. Moving a child a class down is an easy solution.

If the kids are more mature and well behaved, why do you hear about all kinds of behavior problems at some privates AND, if they are more mature, why do privates not often start Algebra until 8th or 9th grade? So, these kids are much older than their public school cohorts, and their math and other classes are on a slower track. I'm not even sure how you compare kids at that point as then they don't seem much smarter or capable, just older.

Have you ever stepped foot inside a private school? Your understanding of math and behavior are not accurate.

Yes, I have. We did private until second and looked at multiple schools in 4th and 5th grades and I wasn’t that impressed. Did summer school at one and the teaching was subpar as they hired a phd student with no teaching skills after promising their own teachers.

Come MS when we did not want to return due to Covid, could not find a school that would keep my child’s math track which was Algebra in 6th. One said we could pay extra for a teacher to tutor but come hs they did not offer anything past calculus.

Publics tend to accelerate kids in math but learn material at a more shallow level, while privates tend to go slower and deeper in math.

That being said, it is possible to catch up in private as some will still let you accelerate on different paths or take courses over summer like geometry.

The reality is more school to school variation that you would expect. Our private offers multiple courses past the equivalent of AP Calc BC.

We did a summer geometry class at a private and it was not comparable to a year class. That makes no sense. Why not offer algebra in 7th.

Public’s are not more shallow. They are the same classes. The important thing is the teacher.

This is really dependent on the individual schools. Some public school accelerated math courses are indeed very shallow and those kids struggle in competitive private schools. Some private schools are weaker than publics. It is not possible to generalize.

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Anonymous wrote:NP. So many bad takes here. OP, this is a private school. They can do what they want. If you want to attend the school, you can either accept this or go to another school. You can argue with the school if you want, maybe it will work, maybe it won’t. The school is certainly under no obligation to admit your child in the grade you want, versus what the admissions team wants. They’ll just go to the next person on the list if you seem difficult.

OP already has another child at currently enrolled there, they aren’t new to the private school world or this school specifically.

I know. That still does not mean the school is under any obligation to admit the sibling in the grade that OP prefers. If the school has a wait list — and many do — the school is not going to spend a lot of time worrying about the decision. OP is of course free to ask for reconsideration politely, but the school has no obligation to admit according to what OP wants. All the hyperventilating in this thread is useless.

Thank you. OP here. What I was hoping to get from this thread was the opinion of parents of older children. There aren’t many March redshirted kids at our school and I worry that my son will feel “less then” or perhaps other kids will make fun of him. He is also tall for his age and quite athletic (for an almost 5 year old).

I appreciate some some of the apps that mentioned that in middle school this becomes a non issue, but I am afraid of my son being embarrassed of turning 7 in K with some of his friends still being 5 and much smaller than him.

We are not very tall people (though my husband’s family has very tall people) so it’s likely his growth will slow down (it happened with my older kids).

He may be embarrassed in K about being older, and then at a huge advantage in middle in high school. From the perspective of a high school son this seems like a no brainer to me, the red shirted boys have a leg up.

He will absolutely not be embarrassed about being older. My 2nd grade son just turned 8 a few months ago and has a friend turning 9 in March. They are all jealous he gets to be 9 first. That's how it goes every year.

Well, my 2nd grader keeps talking about his classmate who has the same birthday as he does in a few weeks but will be turning 9 instead of 8. My DC is stunned about it and keeps asking if the other boy is “dumb or something.”

No one is remotely impressed.

The issue here is your parenting, not the age another student started kindergarten. Your kid is displaying unacceptable behavior and you need to correct it. Sorry that parenting means telling your child to stop being a dick.

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I'm 100% sure your kid is picking it up from you. The fact that he "keeps talking" about it and is continuously name calling is 100% a fail on your part. None of these kids redshirt themselves. It is the adults in their lives who do it. If you or your kid aren't sharp enough to pick up on that and then take your remarks to the adults, why do you even allow/encourage your kid to keep bringing it up? Has he not figured it out yet that yes, his classmate is # age and yes, classmate's parents make choices for him as you do for your kid? Good grief. Talk about someone being "dumb or something."

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Anonymous wrote:NP. So many bad takes here. OP, this is a private school. They can do what they want. If you want to attend the school, you can either accept this or go to another school. You can argue with the school if you want, maybe it will work, maybe it won’t. The school is certainly under no obligation to admit your child in the grade you want, versus what the admissions team wants. They’ll just go to the next person on the list if you seem difficult.

OP already has another child at currently enrolled there, they aren’t new to the private school world or this school specifically.

I know. That still does not mean the school is under any obligation to admit the sibling in the grade that OP prefers. If the school has a wait list — and many do — the school is not going to spend a lot of time worrying about the decision. OP is of course free to ask for reconsideration politely, but the school has no obligation to admit according to what OP wants. All the hyperventilating in this thread is useless.

Thank you. OP here. What I was hoping to get from this thread was the opinion of parents of older children. There aren’t many March redshirted kids at our school and I worry that my son will feel “less then” or perhaps other kids will make fun of him. He is also tall for his age and quite athletic (for an almost 5 year old).

I appreciate some some of the apps that mentioned that in middle school this becomes a non issue, but I am afraid of my son being embarrassed of turning 7 in K with some of his friends still being 5 and much smaller than him.

We are not very tall people (though my husband’s family has very tall people) so it’s likely his growth will slow down (it happened with my older kids).

He may be embarrassed in K about being older, and then at a huge advantage in middle in high school. From the perspective of a high school son this seems like a no brainer to me, the red shirted boys have a leg up.

He will absolutely not be embarrassed about being older. My 2nd grade son just turned 8 a few months ago and has a friend turning 9 in March. They are all jealous he gets to be 9 first. That's how it goes every year.

Well, my 2nd grader keeps talking about his classmate who has the same birthday as he does in a few weeks but will be turning 9 instead of 8. My DC is stunned about it and keeps asking if the other boy is “dumb or something.”

No one is remotely impressed.

The issue here is your parenting, not the age another student started kindergarten. Your kid is displaying unacceptable behavior and you need to correct it. Sorry that parenting means telling your child to stop being a dick.

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I'm 100% sure your kid is picking it up from you. The fact that he "keeps talking" about it and is continuously name calling is 100% a fail on your part. None of these kids redshirt themselves. It is the adults in their lives who do it. If you or your kid aren't sharp enough to pick up on that and then take your remarks to the adults, why do you even allow/encourage your kid to keep bringing it up? Has he not figured it out yet that yes, his classmate is # age and yes, classmate's parents make choices for him as you do for your kid? Good grief. Talk about someone being "dumb or something."

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That post was so unintentionally revealing. Embarrassing for that PP.