The men who get the attractive women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Confidence can make an unattractive guy sexy! Too many men think arrogance is confidence but arrogance is the biggest turnoff.

This. Arrogance is gross; true confidence (quiet self-assuredness) is one of the most attractive features in both genders IMO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Attractive. Tall. Strong earner. Pick 2 out of 3. Because usually you can’t have them all.

I’m dating an attractive guy who is 5’9” and a very medium earner but love his heart. He’s a good man and that goes a loooong way.

Tall is the second thing you mention. Then you describe your pick. Your pick does not fit your top three qualities. It’s odd to read. What’s up?

Agreed! She says to pick 2 out 3 but yet her guy only has 1???

I’m saying 2 out of 3 is the best you can realistically hope for.

[Anonymous]

It’s bc men prioritize looks and will look past flaws for beauty. Women know looks are temporary so will look past looks for money and good personality/good father traits.

[Anonymous]

Unless the woman has already secured a male who delivered children for her.

Sometimes after those life goals are reached, the standards to evaluate a mate are lowered. The woman can become slightly more superficial during the selection process. Criteria change depending on the woman’s life stage.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous]It’s bc men prioritize looks and will look past flaws for beauty. Women know looks are temporary so will look past looks for money and good personality/good father traits.[/quote]

I wish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless the woman has already secured a male who delivered children for her.

Sometimes after those life goals are reached, the standards to evaluate a mate are lowered. The woman can become slightly more superficial during the selection process. Criteria change depending on the woman’s life stage.

Yup.

And if woman is childless in middle age, she also may do that.

[Anonymous]

Agree! I just wrote what I know.
But criteria change all the time. Keep trying OP. Dating is fun.

[Anonymous]

Regular introverted (INFP) guy here who is happily married to a really hot woman. Dating was weird for me. It was like a famine or feast. I couldn’t get a single date for 9 months and then its like attractive women just took an interest in me all at once - and oddly enough it was after I got laid off and didn’t have a job.

Some things I noticed:

1. Hot women beget hot women. This is so random but its like you’re instantly more attractive when a woman sees you with another hot woman. There was this period where every time I saw this person out I happened to be with a different attractive date. We’d known each other a long time and its fair to say that prior this window of time she had less than zero interest in me. This all changed after she’d seen me out with dates. I think this also kinda figured into my wife falling for me as well.

2. Being the best version of yourself helps. Always stay fit (don’t make it your personality), have a stylish haircut and dress with a sense of style.

3. Be yourself unapologetically. Always treat everyone around you with kindness and dignity but treat yourself with the same respect. In other words, whoever you are be confident in it.

4. Be driven for self growth and improvement in as many areas of your life as possible - education (even just reading), career, physical fitness, volunteer work, etc.

5. Learn to appreciate people for who they are and enjoy interactions. As an introvert this was a tough one for me. It starts with just saying hello and being nice to people randomly. You learn to interact with people you don’t have an interest in and it helps make opening conversation with women you don’t like more natural.

6. Rejection happens. Even to the best looking guys - over and over and over. Don’t take it too personally.

7. Don’t be cheap or complain about the price of anything, ever. Lol.

8. Be funny. Introverts often seem to have a grear sense of humor but no one knows this until they get to know them. Move your sense of humor more towards the surface.

Dating has probably changed a lot since I was single. However, I suspect all of the above still holds true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Regular introverted (INFP) guy here who is happily married to a really hot woman. Dating was weird for me. It was like a famine or feast. I couldn’t get a single date for 9 months and then its like attractive women just took an interest in me all at once - and oddly enough it was after I got laid off and didn’t have a job.

Some things I noticed:

1. Hot women beget hot women. This is so random but its like you’re instantly more attractive when a woman sees you with another hot woman. There was this period where every time I saw this person out I happened to be with a different attractive date. We’d known each other a long time and its fair to say that prior this window of time she had less than zero interest in me. This all changed after she’d seen me out with dates. I think this also kinda figured into my wife falling for me as well.

2. Being the best version of yourself helps. Always stay fit (don’t make it your personality), have a stylish haircut and dress with a sense of style.

3. Be yourself unapologetically. Always treat everyone around you with kindness and dignity but treat yourself with the same respect. In other words, whoever you are be confident in it.

4. Be driven for self growth and improvement in as many areas of your life as possible - education (even just reading), career, physical fitness, volunteer work, etc.

5. Learn to appreciate people for who they are and enjoy interactions. As an introvert this was a tough one for me. It starts with just saying hello and being nice to people randomly. You learn to interact with people you don’t have an interest in and it helps make opening conversation with women you don’t like more natural.

6. Rejection happens. Even to the best looking guys - over and over and over. Don’t take it too personally.

7. Don’t be cheap or complain about the price of anything, ever. Lol.

8. Be funny. Introverts often seem to have a grear sense of humor but no one knows this until they get to know them. Move your sense of humor more towards the surface.

Dating has probably changed a lot since I was single. However, I suspect all of the above still holds true.

I messed up point 5. It should end with “women you do like”.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s bc men prioritize looks and will look past flaws for beauty. Women know looks are temporary so will look past looks for money and good personality/good father traits.[/quote]

I wish. [/quote]

Quality women absolutely will. The trick is you have to be willing to find a quality woman you also find attractive. All my ultra hot friends are married to men who are substantially less attractive. In half the cases the women make more. The physically hottest women are not married to the physically hottest men with rare exceptions—I can think of just one. My least attractive friend has the most physically attractive husband; she is ultra successful and he is unemployed and stays home with their kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Regular introverted (INFP) guy here who is happily married to a really hot woman. Dating was weird for me. It was like a famine or feast. I couldn’t get a single date for 9 months and then its like attractive women just took an interest in me all at once - and oddly enough it was after I got laid off and didn’t have a job.

Some things I noticed:

1. Hot women beget hot women. This is so random but its like you’re instantly more attractive when a woman sees you with another hot woman. There was this period where every time I saw this person out I happened to be with a different attractive date. We’d known each other a long time and its fair to say that prior this window of time she had less than zero interest in me. This all changed after she’d seen me out with dates. I think this also kinda figured into my wife falling for me as well.

2. Being the best version of yourself helps. Always stay fit (don’t make it your personality), have a stylish haircut and dress with a sense of style.

3. Be yourself unapologetically. Always treat everyone around you with kindness and dignity but treat yourself with the same respect. In other words, whoever you are be confident in it.

4. Be driven for self growth and improvement in as many areas of your life as possible - education (even just reading), career, physical fitness, volunteer work, etc.

5. Learn to appreciate people for who they are and enjoy interactions. As an introvert this was a tough one for me. It starts with just saying hello and being nice to people randomly. You learn to interact with people you don’t have an interest in and it helps make opening conversation with women you don’t like more natural.

6. Rejection happens. Even to the best looking guys - over and over and over. Don’t take it too personally.

7. Don’t be cheap or complain about the price of anything, ever. Lol.

8. Be funny. Introverts often seem to have a grear sense of humor but no one knows this until they get to know them. Move your sense of humor more towards the surface.

Dating has probably changed a lot since I was single. However, I suspect all of the above still holds true.

This is so true. I am an introvert and you just described me. I got lucky by meeting my fiancé on OLD otherwise in real life I wouldn’t have had the same luck. I won’t ever approach a woman in public I just don’t have that confidence. So I’ll make sure to keep my fiancé engaged and happy because I don’t want to go back to that process of finding a partner lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pete Davidson dates above his level. He is funny which is a plus. I suspect he has the guts to ask beautiful women out (many men don't) I suspect he has had his share of rejections even though that never hits the media.

He doesn't date above his level, they are his level because he's so funny. And successful, and competent, etc.

He’s not funny. He dates above his level because word got out that he is hung.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t care much about your face as long as you have a kind smile, you are funny and you work out.

A handful of muscle can go a long way.

Anyone can build muscle with effort.

I don’t think women care about muscles else I wouldn’t be single. Sadly I kind fit into the meathead stereotype but working on it lol

It depends. I was married to a cutie with no muscles. He is incredibly charismatic and smart. Now I want the muscular type. It’s really nice! Once you’ve tried it…

The thing I like about DHs muscles is going to the beach and watch other woman blatantly check him out. Turns me on so much. Those nights are the best.

[Anonymous]

Well, part of it isn't that they are "doing" something differently -- it's that they simply are different. People tend to partner up with people who are equally physically attractive.

[Anonymous]

Or have hidden qualities