The men who get the attractive women

[Anonymous]

In this era of social media it is a bit more complicated because a well crafted online presence can make you the most attractive man until you open your mouth and all women run to the nearest exit.

[Anonymous]

Confident, fit, and successful men get the most attention. Even if he's 5’6 and does not have an attractive face, that combination works.

[Anonymous]

Money. Women are smart. They look for the most important thing which M-O-N-E-Y.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The first time I saw my husband he was making a presentation in front of a large crowd. He was certainly good looking, but his command of the material and his confidence and ease of presenting it was incredibly impressive. Instead of standing behind a podium he roamed the stage with no notes and he really owned the room. I’m quite sure I wasn’t the only woman in that hall who wasn’t impressed.

He probably had a background in debate, toastmasters, mock trial or something like that. What's the big deal? How would it make him a good partner?

Seriously. Everyone in my field is a goox presenter who “roams the stage with no notes.” What a strange thing to be so impressed by.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The first time I saw my husband he was making a presentation in front of a large crowd. He was certainly good looking, but his command of the material and his confidence and ease of presenting it was incredibly impressive. Instead of standing behind a podium he roamed the stage with no notes and he really owned the room. I’m quite sure I wasn’t the only woman in that hall who wasn’t impressed.

He probably had a background in debate, toastmasters, mock trial or something like that. What's the big deal? How would it make him a good partner?

It is what attracted me to him. It wasn’t why I married him. OPs question was about attraction, not what it takes to choose a spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Money helps! Seriously, assuming the guy is pretty good looking if he is smart, has a sense of humor and makes you feel like you are the center of his attention can do the trick.

This must be Pete Davidson's shtick. He's also rich, I assume, but he dates celebrities so I don't think they care about that part much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The first time I saw my husband he was making a presentation in front of a large crowd. He was certainly good looking, but his command of the material and his confidence and ease of presenting it was incredibly impressive. Instead of standing behind a podium he roamed the stage with no notes and he really owned the room. I’m quite sure I wasn’t the only woman in that hall who wasn’t impressed.

He probably had a background in debate, toastmasters, mock trial or something like that. What's the big deal? How would it make him a good partner?

Seriously. Everyone in my field is a goox presenter who “roams the stage with no notes.” What a strange thing to be so impressed by.

It is well know that next to dying people are afraid of speaking in front of a large audience. So lucky that your field is populated by such rare gifted people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If confidence was such an easy trait to acquire I assure you women will the ones chasing men and not the other way around. Very few men have that confidence that women often talk about and these are the men that all women are chasing in real life and on OLD. The vast majority of men are simply invisible to women. It’s unfortunate because some of these men while not the most confident or engaged can be very good bfs or husbands.

I disagree. Confidence can be acquired with practice and effort, but some men don't try because they think they need things they can't change in order to be confident. Take salary. Some guys think that because a woman's ideal partner earns a lot of money, if a man doesn't earn a lot of money, he is worth less in the eyes of women. So some men who make average or below go slumping around believing that they aren't man enough. But nobody is perfect, and there are a lot of women would much rather have a confident, funny man who is making 60K a year than an insecure one making 100K. It's the same thing for a chubby woman who has a chip on her shoulder or no sense of self worth because men like .7 hip/waist ratios. You're not everyone's fantasy? Join the club! Really, if you know you're a good person you have no reason not to be confident in who you are. Of course everyone has their insecurities, but that doesn't have to make you an insecure person. My husband is short and he's a little insecure about it, but he sort of owns being insecure and can joke about it. He still has a strong sense of self and this great presence.

[Anonymous]

Easiest way to attract and keep a woman is money. There are more beautiful women than there are wealthy men, so the numbers work in the guys favor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If confidence was such an easy trait to acquire I assure you women will the ones chasing men and not the other way around. Very few men have that confidence that women often talk about and these are the men that all women are chasing in real life and on OLD. The vast majority of men are simply invisible to women. It’s unfortunate because some of these men while not the most confident or engaged can be very good bfs or husbands.

I disagree. Confidence can be acquired with practice and effort, but some men don't try because they think they need things they can't change in order to be confident. Take salary. Some guys think that because a woman's ideal partner earns a lot of money, if a man doesn't earn a lot of money, he is worth less in the eyes of women. So some men who make average or below go slumping around believing that they aren't man enough. But nobody is perfect, and there are a lot of women would much rather have a confident, funny man who is making 60K a year than an insecure one making 100K. It's the same thing for a chubby woman who has a chip on her shoulder or no sense of self worth because men like .7 hip/waist ratios. You're not everyone's fantasy? Join the club! Really, if you know you're a good person you have no reason not to be confident in who you are. Of course everyone has their insecurities, but that doesn't have to make you an insecure person. My husband is short and he's a little insecure about it, but he sort of owns being insecure and can joke about it. He still has a strong sense of self and this great presence.

.7 hip/waist ratio is a new one to me! I’m always learning something. But shouldn’t it be waist/hip where the waist is 70% of the hip size? How does the chest factor in?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The first time I saw my husband he was making a presentation in front of a large crowd. He was certainly good looking, but his command of the material and his confidence and ease of presenting it was incredibly impressive. Instead of standing behind a podium he roamed the stage with no notes and he really owned the room. I’m quite sure I wasn’t the only woman in that hall who wasn’t impressed.

He probably had a background in debate, toastmasters, mock trial or something like that. What's the big deal? How would it make him a good partner?

Seriously. Everyone in my field is a goox presenter who “roams the stage with no notes.” What a strange thing to be so impressed by.

Why do you make it about being "impressed?" Is this a guy thing, believing that women just want to be impressed? Sometimes being competent can be very attractive but a lot of attraction is the way someone makes you feel, or how nice they are to look at. Neither of those are "impressive."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If confidence was such an easy trait to acquire I assure you women will the ones chasing men and not the other way around. Very few men have that confidence that women often talk about and these are the men that all women are chasing in real life and on OLD. The vast majority of men are simply invisible to women. It’s unfortunate because some of these men while not the most confident or engaged can be very good bfs or husbands.

I disagree. Confidence can be acquired with practice and effort, but some men don't try because they think they need things they can't change in order to be confident. Take salary. Some guys think that because a woman's ideal partner earns a lot of money, if a man doesn't earn a lot of money, he is worth less in the eyes of women. So some men who make average or below go slumping around believing that they aren't man enough. But nobody is perfect, and there are a lot of women would much rather have a confident, funny man who is making 60K a year than an insecure one making 100K. It's the same thing for a chubby woman who has a chip on her shoulder or no sense of self worth because men like .7 hip/waist ratios. You're not everyone's fantasy? Join the club! Really, if you know you're a good person you have no reason not to be confident in who you are. Of course everyone has their insecurities, but that doesn't have to make you an insecure person. My husband is short and he's a little insecure about it, but he sort of owns being insecure and can joke about it. He still has a strong sense of self and this great presence.

.7 hip/waist ratio is a new one to me! I’m always learning something. But shouldn’t it be waist/hip where the waist is 70% of the hip size? How does the chest factor in?

Oh you're right, ha, yes. Supposedly this is some evolutionary way that marked fertility, and I guess any breast size will do, so chest doesn't factor into this. But my point can also be made with chest size. A woman really isn't justified in being insecure just because she has a non-ideal chest size or shape, but a lot of them are.

[Anonymous]

Have BDE without trying to neg

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I "knew" a man who weighed 130 pounds, looked like Crispin Glover and had no money (worked as a librarian!) and was a total womanizer. I think the secret was that he would notice many unique things about a woman that were NOT looks based. He would make her feel special and like the only woman in the world without ever saying anything about her appearance since that would have given her all the power. Of course it was all bull since he jumped from woman to woman but it worked for him.

It's Dan right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of tall guys exude a lot of confidence and charisma and are women magnets with some other obvious deficits. Agree personality goes a long way. Women will overlook more than men will in the looks department, I think.

I think at the time in our life when most of us are dating and meeting our spouse, money is mostly a non-factor?

DH is tall and attractive but has a very quiet confidence. It is very sexy.