S/O What makes this fair

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:None of it is fair. Sibling 1 should not have offered, given that none of the other children of sibling 2 were offered money for their education. Sibling 3 is ABSOLUTELY AWFUL!

Sibling 1 should rescind the offer.

Sibling 2 just has the one kid.

OK, but it doesn't change the conclusion. I bought in a very expensive school district to send my kids to the good publics we have in our area. I do not want to send my kids to private, and if I did, I would have planned things differently.

But S3 does want private school. His kids were in private school before the offer.

Where did Op/you state that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Something feels off about this whole scenario. But if I'm taking this all at face value, Sibling 1 doesn't owe anything to to Sibling 3. If I was Sibling 1 and wanted to be "fair" then I would just put some money in a 529 for Sibling 3's kids and call it a day.

Why would that be more fair?

Is this troll OP trying to start odd arguments?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:None of it is fair. Sibling 1 should not have offered, given that none of the other children of sibling 2 were offered money for their education. Sibling 3 is ABSOLUTELY AWFUL!

Sibling 1 should rescind the offer.

Sibling 2 just has the one kid.

OK, but it doesn't change the conclusion. I bought in a very expensive school district to send my kids to the good publics we have in our area. I do not want to send my kids to private, and if I did, I would have planned things differently.

But S3 does want private school. His kids were in private school before the offer.

So Sibling 3 has the money to pay for privcate school but just wants rich Sibling 1 to give him the money because poor Sibling 2 could not afford it? Oh no way. You didn't include that detail in the first post, OP! Sibling 3 is a terrible moocher.

S3’s kids attended parochial school before the offer was made, so S1 picked up that bill. But, S3 wants the same kind of school that S2 attends, which they can’t afford without making changes they don’t want to make.

Lol.

First you imply they’re at their oceanfront public school

Second you mysteriously say they’re already in private.

Now today they’re not at an independent school, they’re at a church school. But want to change. No one has applied or gotten in.

What a joke thread.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Omg sibling 3 is a total A!!! I would give them zero.

+1

$10k for school tuition grades 7-12 if needed. Otherwise wait until the will is read. The amounts used can be netted out of the will plus inflation.

Sounds like the original situation may have been a special need or something and well done on them for successfully obtaining 75% merit or need aid.

This shouldn’t have any bearing on family 2 demanding even one cent.

VERY rare to get 70-80% off tuition.
Troll must not have known that.

- DC area pk-12 Board member

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP is this a cultural thing? Are you Indian?

In American culture this is just bizarre. While it would be fine and thoughtful for a wealthy sibling to gift money to a lower income sibling to close the gap between the financial aid award and tuition bill , it would be really strange for another upper middle class sibling to stick their hand out expecting a gift too. This would be viewed in American culture as greedy, gross and really embarrassing, cringe worthy in fact.

However, in other cultures, shoving hands out whenever they find out a relative has money to get as much as they can isn’t viewed as negatively.

It’s up to you to decide which way to go. As the sibling, you are under zero obligation to give the UMC sibling anything.

WTF you racist jerk???? Why bring Indian culture into this? OP is clearly WASPY AF.

Yet the latest version is they’re at Catholic school!?

OP got tripped up in their lies and fabrications out of the gate with this nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:None of it is fair. Sibling 1 should not have offered, given that none of the other children of sibling 2 were offered money for their education. Sibling 3 is ABSOLUTELY AWFUL!

Sibling 1 should rescind the offer.

Sibling 2 just has the one kid.

OK, but it doesn't change the conclusion. I bought in a very expensive school district to send my kids to the good publics we have in our area. I do not want to send my kids to private, and if I did, I would have planned things differently.

But S3 does want private school. His kids were in private school before the offer.

Where did Op/you state that?

I just stated it there. I put limited details in the OP because I wanted as much confidentiality as possible, but then I realized that this detail was important so I added it. I wrote private here, and then later specified that it was parochial (a subset of private) because I anticipated that someone would be confused by a $10K private school. -- OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg sibling 3 is a total A!!! I would give them zero.

+1

$10k for school tuition grades 7-12 if needed. Otherwise wait until the will is read. The amounts used can be netted out of the will plus inflation.

Sounds like the original situation may have been a special need or something and well done on them for successfully obtaining 75% merit or need aid.

This shouldn’t have any bearing on family 2 demanding even one cent.

VERY rare to get 70-80% off tuition.
Troll must not have known that.

- DC area pk-12 Board member

It might be rare, but it happens. Maybe the kid isn't at your particular school.

-- OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Something feels off about this whole scenario. But if I'm taking this all at face value, Sibling 1 doesn't owe anything to to Sibling 3. If I was Sibling 1 and wanted to be "fair" then I would just put some money in a 529 for Sibling 3's kids and call it a day.

Why would that be more fair?

Is this troll OP trying to start odd arguments?

No, it's OP trying to clarify why giving money to a 529 is more fair than paying the tuition, if that's what S1 wants to do? Then I realized that I hadn't stated that the kids were in private.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:None of it is fair. Sibling 1 should not have offered, given that none of the other children of sibling 2 were offered money for their education. Sibling 3 is ABSOLUTELY AWFUL!

Sibling 1 should rescind the offer.

Sibling 2 just has the one kid.

OK, but it doesn't change the conclusion. I bought in a very expensive school district to send my kids to the good publics we have in our area. I do not want to send my kids to private, and if I did, I would have planned things differently.

But S3 does want private school. His kids were in private school before the offer.

So Sibling 3 has the money to pay for privcate school but just wants rich Sibling 1 to give him the money because poor Sibling 2 could not afford it? Oh no way. You didn't include that detail in the first post, OP! Sibling 3 is a terrible moocher.

S3’s kids attended parochial school before the offer was made, so S1 picked up that bill. But, S3 wants the same kind of school that S2 attends, which they can’t afford without making changes they don’t want to make.

Lol.

First you imply they’re at their oceanfront public school

Second you mysteriously say they’re already in private.

Now today they’re not at an independent school, they’re at a church school. But want to change. No one has applied or gotten in.

What a joke thread.

I have no idea what you are talking about.

In my OP, I stated that S2's kid was in private school, so obviously he has applied and gotten in. I didn't say anything about where S3's kids went to school, but that they wanted to go to an expensive private school like the one S2's kid goes to. I did say that they paid a lot of money for their house, and that one reason it was expensive was that it was in a top school district, and that the cost of their house probably made $50K private school out of reach.

S3's kids are in private, but an inexpensive parochial one. I never said anything different from that. Their parents want them at a more expensive school, but they haven't been accepted to one. They have looked at those schools for next year, but next year's acceptances aren't out.

S1 has been paying for S3's oldest since they started paying for S2's kid. This year, S3's middle kid got to 6th grade, and S1 took over that tuition as well. But they are just paying for parochial school, not the school S3 wants.

[Anonymous]

OP, are you S3?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you S3?

No, but I must be doing a better job of hiding my opinion than I thought if you think I might be supporting S3's point of view! It's really hard work to try to be neutral!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you S3?

No, but I must be doing a better job of hiding my opinion than I thought if you think I might be supporting S3's point of view! It's really hard work to try to be neutral!

Why play this game then? It's DCUM, we don't know you IRL. Which sibling are you? either rich S1 or poor, sick S2?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you S3?

OP is on Mars posting BS here on DCUM nonstop.