Do you drink alcohol while ToTing with your kids?

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Anonymous wrote:No, I'm not an alcoholic though.

What's it like in your black and white world?

It's great. I am capable of spending an hour walking my kid around the neighborhood and then enjoying a glass of wine at home, without needing to carry a little "mommy juice" around with me while I make a nice memory with my kid.

I'm sorry that you can't do normal parenting activities without alcohol. That sounds difficult.

So your kids are so awful that you need to find solace in a glass of wine at the end of the night after spending an hour with them? I am sorry you are such a bad parent that you can't take your kids ToTing without having to drink way your troubles with "mommy juice" at the end of the night.

I had the same thought! She’s still drinking yet trying to frame it in a way that makes her look superior. Gave me a good chuckle.

You both sound defensive. No one said drinking is wrong, but why do you need to drink WHILE trick or treating with your kids? What is so hard about walking around the neighborhood for a little while that you feel you need that?

Where does it say anyone NEEDS it? Why do you feel like it’s a problem if someone takes their kid and enjoys a beer at the same time? Why does everyone NEED to do it your way, or else be labeled an alcoholic?

Why are you so triggered by someone pointing out that alcohol is not a necessary component to this activity? Why are you so defensive, if your way of doing it is so self-evidently good?

#1 - I never drank when taking my kids ToTing.
#2 - you were not just pointing out that alcohol is not necessary. Your post was dripping with superiority, trying to imply that you were much better than those who chose to enjoy a beverage while their kids ToT. You are the defensive one.

Actually, it just annoys me that adults in my neighborhood choose to turn Halloween into an alcohol-focused, adult-focused event, when it's for kids. There are tons of occasions where adults can get together and drink alcohol if they choose, I think it's weird that so many parents want to turn not just Halloween, but the main kid activation on halloween -- trick or treating -- into a boozy event. You could have a halloween party on the weekend, you could get together with parents after trick or treating is over. But people insist on making ToTing itself a boozy event.

I also think it sends a weird message to kids when you go trick or treating at a house and they are like "here's some candy kids! here's a jello shot parent!" It sends a strange message and I think reflects and unhealthy relationship with alcohol. But since ToTing is a community event, if you live in a neighborhood where a critical mass of parents are like this, no one cares if you think may be we should hold off on the drinking (or at least drinking jello shots, ffs) until the kids are done with their fun.

If my post is "dripping with superiority" then fine, I'm suprerior. I continue to think it's weird and not particularly healthy to make alcohol such a big part of Halloween for parents.

You’re a lot. Maybe stay home.

Good come back.

No, for real. It sounds exhausting to be about having these intrusive judgy thoughts. Rest up.

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Anonymous wrote:No, I'm not an alcoholic though.

What's it like in your black and white world?

It's great. I am capable of spending an hour walking my kid around the neighborhood and then enjoying a glass of wine at home, without needing to carry a little "mommy juice" around with me while I make a nice memory with my kid.

I'm sorry that you can't do normal parenting activities without alcohol. That sounds difficult.

So your kids are so awful that you need to find solace in a glass of wine at the end of the night after spending an hour with them? I am sorry you are such a bad parent that you can't take your kids ToTing without having to drink way your troubles with "mommy juice" at the end of the night.

I had the same thought! She’s still drinking yet trying to frame it in a way that makes her look superior. Gave me a good chuckle.

You both sound defensive. No one said drinking is wrong, but why do you need to drink WHILE trick or treating with your kids? What is so hard about walking around the neighborhood for a little while that you feel you need that?

Where does it say anyone NEEDS it? Why do you feel like it’s a problem if someone takes their kid and enjoys a beer at the same time? Why does everyone NEED to do it your way, or else be labeled an alcoholic?

Why are you so triggered by someone pointing out that alcohol is not a necessary component to this activity? Why are you so defensive, if your way of doing it is so self-evidently good?

#1 - I never drank when taking my kids ToTing.
#2 - you were not just pointing out that alcohol is not necessary. Your post was dripping with superiority, trying to imply that you were much better than those who chose to enjoy a beverage while their kids ToT. You are the defensive one.

Actually, it just annoys me that adults in my neighborhood choose to turn Halloween into an alcohol-focused, adult-focused event, when it's for kids. There are tons of occasions where adults can get together and drink alcohol if they choose, I think it's weird that so many parents want to turn not just Halloween, but the main kid activation on halloween -- trick or treating -- into a boozy event. You could have a halloween party on the weekend, you could get together with parents after trick or treating is over. But people insist on making ToTing itself a boozy event.

I also think it sends a weird message to kids when you go trick or treating at a house and they are like "here's some candy kids! here's a jello shot parent!" It sends a strange message and I think reflects and unhealthy relationship with alcohol. But since ToTing is a community event, if you live in a neighborhood where a critical mass of parents are like this, no one cares if you think may be we should hold off on the drinking (or at least drinking jello shots, ffs) until the kids are done with their fun.

If my post is "dripping with superiority" then fine, I'm suprerior. I continue to think it's weird and not particularly healthy to make alcohol such a big part of Halloween for parents.

You’re a lot. Maybe stay home.

Good come back.

NP. It’s apt.

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I think it’s odd that people are so focused on alcohol.

We gather as a community. Some people drink some don’t. Nobody is so drunk they can’t respond to a child being hurt.

It’s a fun night, the kids want to ToT with friends, people walk together it’s a social night.

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I did last year (I carried around a Yeti w/ beer in it while ToTing w/ my kids) and don't plan to this year. It is kind of fun to walk around the neighborhood at night w/ all the people out w/ an open container and get a little tipsy--it's a festive feeling. However, I have been drinking too much lately and the holiday season is typically when my drinking really ramps up and I am determined not to let that happen this year. I want to just be fully present and sober for the holidays (including Halloween) this year. I don't think my kids even noticed my drinking while ToTing last year but at some point they might notice and wonder why mom was always drinking while doing fun activities w/ them so I don't want them to have that memory.

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Anonymous wrote:No, I'm not an alcoholic though.

What's it like in your black and white world?

It's great. I am capable of spending an hour walking my kid around the neighborhood and then enjoying a glass of wine at home, without needing to carry a little "mommy juice" around with me while I make a nice memory with my kid.

I'm sorry that you can't do normal parenting activities without alcohol. That sounds difficult.

So your kids are so awful that you need to find solace in a glass of wine at the end of the night after spending an hour with them? I am sorry you are such a bad parent that you can't take your kids ToTing without having to drink way your troubles with "mommy juice" at the end of the night.

I had the same thought! She’s still drinking yet trying to frame it in a way that makes her look superior. Gave me a good chuckle.

You both sound defensive. No one said drinking is wrong, but why do you need to drink WHILE trick or treating with your kids? What is so hard about walking around the neighborhood for a little while that you feel you need that?

Because whether you have a glass of wine during the event or immediately after is the SAME THING.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids older but we live in a high density TOTing neighborhood and there were always a few houses happy to hand out beers to parents. It was just a relaxed and friendly vibe, nobody was getting wasted.

You must not be from New Orleans!

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Anonymous wrote:No, I'm not an alcoholic though.

What's it like in your black and white world?

It's great. I am capable of spending an hour walking my kid around the neighborhood and then enjoying a glass of wine at home, without needing to carry a little "mommy juice" around with me while I make a nice memory with my kid.

I'm sorry that you can't do normal parenting activities without alcohol. That sounds difficult.

So your kids are so awful that you need to find solace in a glass of wine at the end of the night after spending an hour with them? I am sorry you are such a bad parent that you can't take your kids ToTing without having to drink way your troubles with "mommy juice" at the end of the night.

I had the same thought! She’s still drinking yet trying to frame it in a way that makes her look superior. Gave me a good chuckle.

You both sound defensive. No one said drinking is wrong, but why do you need to drink WHILE trick or treating with your kids? What is so hard about walking around the neighborhood for a little while that you feel you need that?

Because whether you have a glass of wine during the event or immediately after is the SAME THING.

I mean, this is not correct.

I sometimes have a glass of wine when I get home from work. This is not the same thing as having a glass of wine at my desk at work.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids older but we live in a high density TOTing neighborhood and there were always a few houses happy to hand out beers to parents. It was just a relaxed and friendly vibe, nobody was getting wasted.

You must not be from New Orleans!

Sorry, I was trying to respond to the Southerner who said drinking wasn’t in their culture.

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Anonymous wrote:No, I'm not an alcoholic though.

What's it like in your black and white world?

It's great. I am capable of spending an hour walking my kid around the neighborhood and then enjoying a glass of wine at home, without needing to carry a little "mommy juice" around with me while I make a nice memory with my kid.

I'm sorry that you can't do normal parenting activities without alcohol. That sounds difficult.

So your kids are so awful that you need to find solace in a glass of wine at the end of the night after spending an hour with them? I am sorry you are such a bad parent that you can't take your kids ToTing without having to drink way your troubles with "mommy juice" at the end of the night.

I had the same thought! She’s still drinking yet trying to frame it in a way that makes her look superior. Gave me a good chuckle.

You both sound defensive. No one said drinking is wrong, but why do you need to drink WHILE trick or treating with your kids? What is so hard about walking around the neighborhood for a little while that you feel you need that?

Because whether you have a glass of wine during the event or immediately after is the SAME THING.

I mean, this is not correct.

I sometimes have a glass of wine when I get home from work. This is not the same thing as having a glass of wine at my desk at work.

But you still have to parent after trick or treating.

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Anonymous wrote:No, I'm not an alcoholic though.

What's it like in your black and white world?

It's great. I am capable of spending an hour walking my kid around the neighborhood and then enjoying a glass of wine at home, without needing to carry a little "mommy juice" around with me while I make a nice memory with my kid.

I'm sorry that you can't do normal parenting activities without alcohol. That sounds difficult.

So your kids are so awful that you need to find solace in a glass of wine at the end of the night after spending an hour with them? I am sorry you are such a bad parent that you can't take your kids ToTing without having to drink way your troubles with "mommy juice" at the end of the night.

I had the same thought! She’s still drinking yet trying to frame it in a way that makes her look superior. Gave me a good chuckle.

You both sound defensive. No one said drinking is wrong, but why do you need to drink WHILE trick or treating with your kids? What is so hard about walking around the neighborhood for a little while that you feel you need that?

Because whether you have a glass of wine during the event or immediately after is the SAME THING.

I mean, this is not correct.

I sometimes have a glass of wine when I get home from work. This is not the same thing as having a glass of wine at my desk at work.

But you still have to parent after trick or treating.

Not really. Once my kids are in bed, my parenting duties are pretty minimal. Certainly more minimal than they are while out trick or treating.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s odd that people are so focused on alcohol.

We gather as a community. Some people drink some don’t. Nobody is so drunk they can’t respond to a child being hurt.

It’s a fun night, the kids want to ToT with friends, people walk together it’s a social night.

This.

OP is loving their troll post.

For some people, including my family, Halloween is a community event. People do a variety of things. Who cares?

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No, I don't need a drink that badly, or to turn every kids' event into a parent party. Sitting around a firepit on any other cool fall night, sure.

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Anonymous wrote:We don't, but many parents do. I'd rather have my full faculties when walking the kids around in the dark (and yes, I do drink - just not in this case).

+1

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Heck yes

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Anonymous wrote:No, I'm not an alcoholic though.

What's it like in your black and white world?

It's great. I am capable of spending an hour walking my kid around the neighborhood and then enjoying a glass of wine at home, without needing to carry a little "mommy juice" around with me while I make a nice memory with my kid.

I'm sorry that you can't do normal parenting activities without alcohol. That sounds difficult.

So your kids are so awful that you need to find solace in a glass of wine at the end of the night after spending an hour with them? I am sorry you are such a bad parent that you can't take your kids ToTing without having to drink way your troubles with "mommy juice" at the end of the night.

I had the same thought! She’s still drinking yet trying to frame it in a way that makes her look superior. Gave me a good chuckle.

You both sound defensive. No one said drinking is wrong, but why do you need to drink WHILE trick or treating with your kids? What is so hard about walking around the neighborhood for a little while that you feel you need that?

Because whether you have a glass of wine during the event or immediately after is the SAME THING.

I mean, this is not correct.

I sometimes have a glass of wine when I get home from work. This is not the same thing as having a glass of wine at my desk at work.

But you still have to parent after trick or treating.

Not really. Once my kids are in bed, my parenting duties are pretty minimal. Certainly more minimal than they are while out trick or treating.

Not really. There could still be an emergency. Sickness. A fire. Some reason you’d need to drive. My point is that a drink or two over the course of an evening does not impair most adults to the point where they cannot perform basic parenting tasks. Including while walking around outside.