Do you drink alcohol while ToTing with your kids?

[Anonymous]

No, but is due to the fact that I don’t feel well the next day after drinking (even after one drink.)

[Anonymous]

If my neighbor makes gluhwein, definitely. If not, no. But, my kids are in middle school so I'm not ToTing with them anyway. The adults set up the candy tables outside and hang out.

[Anonymous]

I just take the free drugs that get slipped into my kids’ candy. Cheaper and fewer calories.

[Anonymous]

We have a block party gathering before tot and I have a drink there. Along with potluck dinner and chatting with neighbors. But I dont carry it with me when the kids start walking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We do a spiked hot coffee or cider drink.

I thought I’d carry on my mom's 1970s tradition of handing out hot cider to adults on Halloween. I did it Halloween 2003 when we moved to our current dcumlandia suburban neighborhood. Never again because every other parent asked if it was spiked/refused or held up a cup saying they already had their boozy beverage!

An adjacent court puts up cones at dusk. The parents gather to pre party with a keg. By the time actual ToT begins, one semi drunk dad stands over each residents’ huge bowl of candy lined up in from of the cones and instructs TOTers not to go any further, “jusstake shumcandees frumeach boll.”

I'm confused. Was your cider spiked with alcohol? Or were parents wishing it was spiked? Cider is normally spiked for adults. Grocery stores sell cider that's non alcoholic for kids, but it's more like spiced apple juice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I'm not an alcoholic though.

What's it like in your black and white world?

It's great. I am capable of spending an hour walking my kid around the neighborhood and then enjoying a glass of wine at home, without needing to carry a little "mommy juice" around with me while I make a nice memory with my kid.

I'm sorry that you can't do normal parenting activities without alcohol. That sounds difficult.

The bolded may be the disconnect. In my neighborhood, the evening is not fully a "parenting activity." It is a community social event for both kids and adults.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Used to when my kids needed parental supervision. It’s a thing in our neighborhood. Tons of adults walking around with open beverages. Several houses known for giving Jell-O shots or having a keg.

+1
Our neighbor has a driveway party for the adults. When the kids are done we all head there and the kids play with the other neighbor kids, while the adults have wine or whatever. Definitely not a jello shot neighborhood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I'm not an alcoholic though.

What's it like in your black and white world?

It's great. I am capable of spending an hour walking my kid around the neighborhood and then enjoying a glass of wine at home, without needing to carry a little "mommy juice" around with me while I make a nice memory with my kid.

I'm sorry that you can't do normal parenting activities without alcohol. That sounds difficult.

DP
You sound insufferable and judgmental. Glad you're so perfect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kids older but we live in a high density TOTing neighborhood and there were always a few houses happy to hand out beers to parents. It was just a relaxed and friendly vibe, nobody was getting wasted.

+1. Halloween has gotten to be a social event over the years. It's also common in our neighborhood for the parents handing out candy to be sitting outside around a firepit with an adult beverage.

Yeah. Vivid was a game changer in my neighborhood. We were always a big trick or treating neighborhood, but when Covid hit everyone got really creative with candy on clothes lines and fire pits everywhere. It was really nice to have adults outside by the fire and it became a lot more social. It’s really cool to see the glow of the fires as kids run from house to house.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We do a spiked hot coffee or cider drink.

This. And we offer hot cider (spiked or not) to friends who come to our door.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I'm not an alcoholic though.

What's it like in your black and white world?

It's great. I am capable of spending an hour walking my kid around the neighborhood and then enjoying a glass of wine at home, without needing to carry a little "mommy juice" around with me while I make a nice memory with my kid.

I'm sorry that you can't do normal parenting activities without alcohol. That sounds difficult.

So your kids are so awful that you need to find solace in a glass of wine at the end of the night after spending an hour with them? I am sorry you are such a bad parent that you can't take your kids ToTing without having to drink way your troubles with "mommy juice" at the end of the night.

I had the same thought! She’s still drinking yet trying to frame it in a way that makes her look superior. Gave me a good chuckle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I'm not an alcoholic though.

What's it like in your black and white world?

It's great. I am capable of spending an hour walking my kid around the neighborhood and then enjoying a glass of wine at home, without needing to carry a little "mommy juice" around with me while I make a nice memory with my kid.

I'm sorry that you can't do normal parenting activities without alcohol. That sounds difficult.

DP
You sound insufferable and judgmental. Glad you're so perfect.

Read the responses on this thread. There is a reason people are judgmental about it. Some parents turn Halloween, a children's event that often takes place on a weeknight, into an excuse to get trashed with their friends. It's weird. There's nothing wrong with drinking but this need some parents have to turn kid-centric events into an excuse to get drunk is a sign of a drinking problem. Sorry if that hits close to home for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I'm not an alcoholic though.

What's it like in your black and white world?

It's great. I am capable of spending an hour walking my kid around the neighborhood and then enjoying a glass of wine at home, without needing to carry a little "mommy juice" around with me while I make a nice memory with my kid.

I'm sorry that you can't do normal parenting activities without alcohol. That sounds difficult.

So your kids are so awful that you need to find solace in a glass of wine at the end of the night after spending an hour with them? I am sorry you are such a bad parent that you can't take your kids ToTing without having to drink way your troubles with "mommy juice" at the end of the night.

I had the same thought! She’s still drinking yet trying to frame it in a way that makes her look superior. Gave me a good chuckle.

You both sound defensive. No one said drinking is wrong, but why do you need to drink WHILE trick or treating with your kids? What is so hard about walking around the neighborhood for a little while that you feel you need that?

[Anonymous]

My neighbor in the ToT squad works at a brewery and always brings new beers for the group, so, yes.