Signs your wife is having an affair

[Anonymous]

People in affairs are risk takers to begin with. They are much less likely to wear condoms and go with the heat of the moment. My formerly “cautious wife” didn’t even make him wear one the first time they had sex, in our house and they met online.

These aren’t exactly cautious or smart people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Woman having an affair here. You people are so dramatic. You seriously think someone who is sleeping w someone who isn't their spouse is using their regular email/texting apps and actually making phone calls to their AP from anything other than a landline that can’t be traced? You seriously think that someone w a spouse and kids and a job has time to keep up with a burner phone?

If this is truly what you think someone having an affair does, I hate to imagine how you are “monitoring” your kids phones.

The part about stacking coins though is spot on. Follow that trail.

What’s stacking coins? I’ve seen this answer before.

[Anonymous]

If the wife has male friends she speaks excitedly about that’s not good.

Many women go through a mid-life crisis in their 40s. They question who they are and their purpose. They Klingon to their fleeting youth by having an affair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woman having an affair here. You people are so dramatic. You seriously think someone who is sleeping w someone who isn't their spouse is using their regular email/texting apps and actually making phone calls to their AP from anything other than a landline that can’t be traced? You seriously think that someone w a spouse and kids and a job has time to keep up with a burner phone?

If this is truly what you think someone having an affair does, I hate to imagine how you are “monitoring” your kids phones.

The part about stacking coins though is spot on. Follow that trail.

What’s stacking coins? I’ve seen this answer before.

X2. Not familiar with any hidden meaning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Secretive
Holds phone in hands
Always coming up with new dances
Tries different vegetables
Says neighbors are a mistake
Starts making more ice
Has strong opinion on a movie
Interested in fire
Seeks relief
Has no reasons for anything
Carries a mirror
Stacks coins

wut?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Secretive
Holds phone in hands
Always coming up with new dances
Tries different vegetables
Says neighbors are a mistake
Starts making more ice
Has strong opinion on a movie
Interested in fire
Seeks relief
Has no reasons for anything
Carries a mirror
Stacks coins

wut?

That poster is joking.

[Anonymous]

Is suddenly really happy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the wife has male friends she speaks excitedly about that’s not good.

Many women go through a mid-life crisis in their 40s. They question who they are and their purpose. They Klingon to their fleeting youth by having an affair.

This, DWs voice would get higher pitched when talking to or about this one guy

[Anonymous]

If it’s an affair, not a one time thing, the perpetrator will be caught up in a fantasy, which means they won’t be “there” for you. They will seem distracted, forget or disregard obligations, be glued to their phone. Weirdly they also may tend to be more critical of others for moral failings. Projection to draw your attention over to someone else as being a bad person, not him/her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Starts working out more, buying new clothes generally putting more effort into her appearance (maybe a new haircut, wears perfume more, new underwear)

Showers shortly after getting home

Is more defensive or short with you over really mundane things

Hiding or guarding her phone

I have 1-3 and I’m not having an affair. I’m just on a diet, stinky after working out and cranky because of perimenopause. I don’t hide my phone though. But if I were having an affair I’d like to think I’d be smart enough not to use my main phone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Woman having an affair here. You people are so dramatic. You seriously think someone who is sleeping w someone who isn't their spouse is using their regular email/texting apps and actually making phone calls to their AP from anything other than a landline that can’t be traced? You seriously think that someone w a spouse and kids and a job has time to keep up with a burner phone?

If this is truly what you think someone having an affair does, I hate to imagine how you are “monitoring” your kids phones.

The part about stacking coins though is spot on. Follow that trail.

Lol…I love how you end with parenting advice. Like there is any good way to monitor your kids phones that will make them into happy and functional adults when their parents are literally showing them every day how to lie, manipulate others, and put up with a crappy relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it’s an affair, not a one time thing, the perpetrator will be caught up in a fantasy, which means they won’t be “there” for you. They will seem distracted, forget or disregard obligations, be glued to their phone. Weirdly they also may tend to be more critical of others for moral failings. Projection to draw your attention over to someone else as being a bad person, not him/her.

Yep. My spouse talked about his best friend and how awful he was about cheating/infidelity, etc. It was like testing the waters and aksi serves to make you think they have some morality-ethics-empathy. They often have a weird disconnect. For example, “I never say anything bad about my wife and always talk highly of her—so therefore I’m there mind they don’t think their cheating is bad or like the other guy’s—because hey- I love my wife.

We also had a running joke about his “mistress”. Well- I’ll be damned he actually had one. It’s a complete mind fkkkk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are in Virginia, spend the money on a PI to bust her. It'll pay off during the settlement.

Ask me how I know.

*Don't hack* anything or jailbreak her phone or anything.

VA is an anachronism stuck in the 1700s. The state has no business in your marriage or bedroom. Vote to remove these insane laws (especially alimony laws).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are in Virginia, spend the money on a PI to bust her. It'll pay off during the settlement.

Ask me how I know.

*Don't hack* anything or jailbreak her phone or anything.

My DH didn't have to. His ex admitted that she'd cheated in front of all the attorneys. She walked with a relatively small settlement, no alimony, and 50/50 custody. Virginia is a bit antiquated in this respect, but I don't disagree with the outcome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are in Virginia, spend the money on a PI to bust her. It'll pay off during the settlement.

Ask me how I know.

*Don't hack* anything or jailbreak her phone or anything.

VA is an anachronism stuck in the 1700s. The state has no business in your marriage or bedroom. Vote to remove these insane laws (especially alimony laws).

Eliminate alimony.