Bringing puppy to Christmas

[Anonymous]

That puppy will probably be scarred for life with that many people and animals, but I guess it will be socialized or dead by the end of Christmas.

I would welcome MIL to bring it, but it's up to her to keep the puppy alive and uninjured.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:19:20 is our resident nasty entitled granny. She posts on any thread that anything a MIL wants a MIL gets no matter how foolish, irresponsible, outrageous or ridiculous. It’s boomer time and boomers get whatever they want in her world. What a wonderful world when everyone sucks up to bad boomers.

Nope. Wrong person.

My opinion has nothing to do with mothers-in-law. It's about reciprocation.

I'd be pretty irritated if all this time I trusted someone to bring their dog to my house only to be told "oh well no, I certainly don't trust YOU to bring your dog into MY precious house. "

DP. The MIL isn't bringing a dog. MIL wants to bring a puppy. Why do you not get that distinction? Puppy = more excitable, less trained/untrained, more likely to get into everything, more attractive as an attention magnet for the MANY kids present. If you're such an animal lover, you should find this idea nuts--for the poor puppy.

[Anonymous]

Unpopular opinion probably but I think a little puppy would being a lot of joy to the holiday. Core memory type of stuff. I would try to make it work. Puppy needs to be crated when not directly supervised of course, like within arms reach.

[Anonymous]

Op here - I believe crated/penned is being confused here. I never meant that her puppy needed to stay in a tiny cage all day. I simply said it can’t roam our carpeted basement where they are staying freely, which is what she wants. I offered our large pen for her to run in while kids or adults sat in there and played with her. She said she will bring carpet cleaner to deal with the mess…… I find this so disrespectful because she knows what’s going to happen and she isn’t bothered by it (she never has been and had no problem with her daughter’s incontinent dachshunds going all over her house last visit). That stuff doesn’t bother her. So DH and I know her high tolerance for literally shit everywhere. She isn’t vigilant.

Also - our house is clean and doesn’t smell. Our pets don’t go where they aren’t supposed to and I clean the litter boxes regularly. And vacuum daily

[Anonymous]

The whole thing is not a thing, because all the kids there will be all over that puppy. Puppy will be petter and taken out of the pen constantly.
We had a large gathering for DD
s graduation, and my middle aged Golden was harassed the whole bloody time by the youngest cousin, who even went into our closed bedroom all the time to take the poor dog out.
Having said that, it will be up to ILS to protect the puppy. I am more worried about the pup than about your floors.
On the other hand, you are being totally petty and cruel to think they should leave the pup behind in some kennel.

[Anonymous]

If you want to keep bringing your dog, you need to let her bring hers. We had the opposite issue. I DON’T want my sisters German Shephard at our house so I stopped bringing my small non shedding dog to hers, just to not be a hypocrite.

[Anonymous]

So, the puppy isn’t even born yet?

It’s a bad idea to take a puppy out where other dogs hang out before it gets vaccinated.

[Anonymous]

If I were you, I would talk to the mother-in-law and speak in terms of the safety of the puppy versus whether or not you want an untrained dog in your house. It's a puppy is only three months old and a small breed, it will be very tiny, and potentially in danger from the children and other animals in chaos that will be occurring in the house at Christmas. And that's how you talk to your mother-in-law. Explaining that a crate or playpen is the safest for the puppy when it's not attended. If she wants the dog in the main part of the house, the puppy should be on a leash so that she can see the cues to go outside or even the queue that the puppy is uncomfortable, scared, or anxious.

[Anonymous]

Poor puppy - that’s too much stimulation for a brand new puppy. I hope it doesn’t get hurt.

[Anonymous]

Op here - yes I spoke to her about the safety. We didn’t realize what the breed was or how old it was initially. When we found it would be a tiny dachshund, I reminded her that there will be kids as young as 1 here…. I told her it’s going to be chaotic with all the kids running around as is, so I wouldn’t suggest letting it roam around. Outside and the basement where they will be is where the kids run around and play. I offered them an upstairs guest room, but they like the privacy of the basement despite it being the main play area for the kids. We will definitely contain our pets for their safety if things get crazy. I think she has romanticized everything and is treating her dog like it’s a baby. She wants it sleeping in our guest bed to help them bond 😬.

[Anonymous]

You people are so disgusting and anti MIL it revolts me. OP says her MIL allowed them to bring their giant killer German Shepherd to her house! And they’re having 100 people over and making a fuss over one little puppy. You all are amazing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here - it’s 13 kids actually. So yes - I told her this is too much. Either crate her puppy while in the house or don’t bring it. She wants to put it into a carrier and wear her (I said that’s fine), but no free running around my house. She is bringing a playpen for it too and wants it set up on the main floor since there a hallway with wood floor. With pads down for when it goes. I’m not a fan of this either, but maybe I’m being difficult here. I also feel like our shepherd is going to go nuts trying to get into the soft, collapsible sided pen….

Yes, you're being difficult. This is an excellent compromise.

And if you're going to say no, which is your right, you had best be prepared to be told you can't bring your dog next time. She does you a solid on saving boarding fees (not to mention potential dog viruses) by letting you bring your BIG dog to her home.

+1 The safest place for the puppy would be your MIL’s compromise suggestion - main floor, large puppy playpen, using pads down. Amazon has a ton of waterproof puppy pads that you can lay down that will protect you floor and can be laundered. This way the puppy is safely supervised and isolated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here - it’s 13 kids actually. So yes - I told her this is too much. Either crate her puppy while in the house or don’t bring it. She wants to put it into a carrier and wear her (I said that’s fine), but no free running around my house. She is bringing a playpen for it too and wants it set up on the main floor since there a hallway with wood floor. With pads down for when it goes. I’m not a fan of this either, but maybe I’m being difficult here. I also feel like our shepherd is going to go nuts trying to get into the soft, collapsible sided pen….

Yes, you're being difficult. This is an excellent compromise.

And if you're going to say no, which is your right, you had best be prepared to be told you can't bring your dog next time. She does you a solid on saving boarding fees (not to mention potential dog viruses) by letting you bring your BIG dog to her home.

+1 The safest place for the puppy would be your MIL’s compromise suggestion - main floor, large puppy playpen, using pads down. Amazon has a ton of waterproof puppy pads that you can lay down that will protect you floor and can be laundered. This way the puppy is safely supervised and isolated.

No. Put it in a large breed crate with a crate pan. Old newspaper under old clothes. Throw away accidents and take it out in harness and leash at least every 2 hours. Why get a hard to housetrain breed in the habit of eliminating in the house. MIL's daughter has daschunds that eliminate all over in MIL house. So OP needs to set a precedent on this now or she could get 10+ years of it. And afficiondos of that breed often get 2-3 of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You people are so disgusting and anti MIL it revolts me. OP says her MIL allowed them to bring their giant killer German Shepherd to her house! And they’re having 100 people over and making a fuss over one little puppy. You all are amazing.

Not "anti-MIL." Definitely pro-puppy.

MIL is being blind to the fact her puppy is at very high risk of being injured and absolutely will end up stressed beyond belief by all the people, kids, noise, etc.

You are amazing for not comprehending this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here - yes I spoke to her about the safety. We didn’t realize what the breed was or how old it was initially. When we found it would be a tiny dachshund, I reminded her that there will be kids as young as 1 here…. I told her it’s going to be chaotic with all the kids running around as is, so I wouldn’t suggest letting it roam around. Outside and the basement where they will be is where the kids run around and play. I offered them an upstairs guest room, but they like the privacy of the basement despite it being the main play area for the kids. We will definitely contain our pets for their safety if things get crazy. I think she has romanticized everything and is treating her dog like it’s a baby. She wants it sleeping in our guest bed to help them bond 😬.

Why is there so much "I spoke to her" and "We didn't..."? Your DH is her adult child, your DH should be the one to tell her firmly - telling, not asking -- "This is what we're offering to accommodate the puppy as safely as possible: [fill in whatever pen/floor/crating solution YOU both want in YOUR home]. That's what will be set up. If that's not satisfactory to you, we're sorry to miss you at Christmas but we'll visit soon."

FFS. Your home, your rules, your choices to keep your own animals and all kids safe. The people here screaming that you're a hypocrite for taking your dog to MIL's house are refusing to acknowledge that you did not take your dog there as a puppy, and that there is a huge difference between a young (possibly unvaccinated?) puppy at a kid-filled Christmas visit, and a dog at a non-holiday visit.

Stop the waffling, OP. You and DH decide the setup, DH tells her the setup, both of you have to be willing to do without her there and deal with her being a petty child and punishing you afterward. She's practically asking for her puppy to be injured. She shouldn't have a dog, frankly, if she's this oblivious.