People who do nothing all day

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Clearly OP has somebody in mind but refuses to tell us who they are.

Is it you?

I think OP is a Gladys Kravitz.

Totally! Live and let live OP. MYOB + live your best life + stop begrudging what others do.

[Anonymous]

How does one do literally nothing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How does one do literally nothing?

I suppose watching tv is something. Don't knock it!

[Anonymous]

OP is just seething of jealously that they probably have to work 80+ hours a week just to get by while others don't have to work at all. Sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Clearly OP has somebody in mind but refuses to tell us who they are.

Is it you?

I think OP is a Gladys Kravitz.

You meant “racist Gladys Kravitz.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Literally, nothing. Why aren't you working, or contributing to society?

Because I am your husband and I've greatly paid my dues.

[Anonymous]

I think the only people who do literally nothing are seriously ill. Even people who don’t work or volunteer do things. And those things usually benefit the person doing them and sometimes society in some way (my elderly mother mostly keeps her house clean, cooks, chats, reads murder mysteries, and does sudoku — her calling me to chat makes my life better, so that action is for sure bettering society). I have a couple friends who consider it a busy day if they make dinner and shower… because they have debilitating diseases. They’re mostly desperately bored and frustrated and in pain and WISH they could get up and do things.

[Anonymous]

I have a relative like this who has severe anxiety and doing anything takes an incredible amount of effort for her. She lives alone, has no kids or spouse and even things like cooking dinner for herself or doing the laundry seem to take hours longer than they should. She does come over and see my kids a few times a week but they are older now so don't really need a babysitter. But, for example, she said the other day that she wouldn't be stopping by the next day because she had a dental cleaning. And what she meant was that a simple one-hour appointment would take enough out of her to deplete her energy for the day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Define do nothing?

DCUM

Watch MSNBC

[Anonymous]

But running a household does take some time.

Are you a male who has always had that handled by someone else, and therefore discounts the fact that it requires work,

[Anonymous]

I have a relative who still says she is a SAHM as a reason for doing nothing but two of her kids are adults who live in other cities and the third child is a very independent high school senior who is either at school, doing homework, at work, at sports practice, or out with friends (and has her own car).

I think she putters around their garden, cooks dinner for herself and her husband, keeps the house clean although I can't imagine two middle aged adults make much mess. I have no idea what she does. I think nothingness came upon her like boiling a frog where she did have kids at home and then slowly they grew up and left and she never really realized she doesn't do anything anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a relative like this who has severe anxiety and doing anything takes an incredible amount of effort for her. She lives alone, has no kids or spouse and even things like cooking dinner for herself or doing the laundry seem to take hours longer than they should. She does come over and see my kids a few times a week but they are older now so don't really need a babysitter. But, for example, she said the other day that she wouldn't be stopping by the next day because she had a dental cleaning. And what she meant was that a simple one-hour appointment would take enough out of her to deplete her energy for the day.

So she is not on medication and doing CBT?

[Anonymous]

Lots of people have a strong aversion to doing nothing. See how many people got deeply depressed during lockdown despite not knowing anyone who was ill and being financially fine. Others are okay with it. Is it a temperament issue? I'm an introvert but after a few days of doing nothing, I am having an existential crisis. My husband on the other hand could happily play video games and do nothing for days on end (I suspect, he hasn't actually done this since lawschool) without starting to wonder about the meaning of life like I would. I need to feel like I earned my downtime to actually enjoy it. Others think they deserve it by right. I don't think either is right or wrong, it just interests me how we are these ways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a relative like this who has severe anxiety and doing anything takes an incredible amount of effort for her. She lives alone, has no kids or spouse and even things like cooking dinner for herself or doing the laundry seem to take hours longer than they should. She does come over and see my kids a few times a week but they are older now so don't really need a babysitter. But, for example, she said the other day that she wouldn't be stopping by the next day because she had a dental cleaning. And what she meant was that a simple one-hour appointment would take enough out of her to deplete her energy for the day.

So she is not on medication and doing CBT?

She is on medication. It's way worse when she is not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lots of people have a strong aversion to doing nothing. See how many people got deeply depressed during lockdown despite not knowing anyone who was ill and being financially fine. Others are okay with it. Is it a temperament issue? I'm an introvert but after a few days of doing nothing, I am having an existential crisis. My husband on the other hand could happily play video games and do nothing for days on end (I suspect, he hasn't actually done this since lawschool) without starting to wonder about the meaning of life like I would. I need to feel like I earned my downtime to actually enjoy it. Others think they deserve it by right. I don't think either is right or wrong, it just interests me how we are these ways.

Were you raised with the idea that your value was in your accomplishments? I was and I can’t relax very long either without an existential crisis!