“We're a family here".. What are the most common manipulative phrases used in your workplace?

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HUSTLE CULTURE

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"We've always been fair" and "trust us" regarding black-box salary and comp. Don't look behind the curtain. "We've always been fair."

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Anonymous wrote:HUSTLE CULTURE

Oh, no. I would hustle right out of there.

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Anonymous wrote:HUSTLE CULTURE

Actual meaning: we run lean at the staff level and expect too much from them.

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Anonymous wrote:This is interesting. As something who has a business, what are positive motivators besides pay? Seems like camaraderie and positive reenforcement is out, cannot appreciate the team for doing a good job. Cannot connect over personal conversations. How else would one engage and lead a team?

I think most of the problems that people have is that all of these "motivators" are often in lieu of pay. So, that's great you think I'm doing a good job and you're giving me a certificate but how can I take that seriously when you give me a 1% raise?

Yes, despite what the HR pros say, pay matters! It's the reason most people work.

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Recent requirement on a job posting:

"Understands that the work day doesn't begin and end 9-6"

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Anonymous wrote:This is interesting. As something who has a business, what are positive motivators besides pay? Seems like camaraderie and positive reenforcement is out, cannot appreciate the team for doing a good job. Cannot connect over personal conversations. How else would one engage and lead a team?

pay
being treated like an adult
being treated like your life outside of work matters because the only reason you are coming into work is to have that life outside of work
ensuring that resources- including people- are appropriately implemented
reasonable deadlines
limiting emergencies and overtime
having enough employees for the 3 listed above
limiting toxic workplace
meetings with purpose. you cant have an 8-hour day workload and then be expected to attend 4 hours of meetings if those meetings are not inclusive of your workload.

Good list yes this — in would add “understanding and allowing employees to make boundaries” since I am the PP who hates having to explain my appointments.

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Anonymous wrote:"We believe in work life balance" while my boss calls me at 7PM and insists I explain what exactly I need PTO for every time I have to block my calendar for an appointment during core business hours. I don't actually want to tell my boss whether my cat is sick or my kids or my teeth. I just want to be able to use my earned PTO to deal with it.

Waaaaait. Your boss is making you explain what you want your pto for? Oh hell to the no! I would have to immediately get off the phone.

Yes, he wants a justification for every little thing. I developed recurrent and occasionally fictitious migraines when I was doing fertility treatments. I’m currently looking for a new job. (In justice to my current company they’re actually really great in many ways but this bit reaaaaaally gets me.)

Huge HR violation. "I have a doctor's appointment" is all you need to say. I actually coach my new colleagues on this point--just tell me you'll need to be out b/c you have a doctor's appointment. I don't need to know what for, I might not want to know, and nobody should ever ask.

I also don’t make my direct reports take PTO for doctor’s appointments. You’re salaried—I trust you to do your job.

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Anonymous wrote:Recent requirement on a job posting:

"Understands that the work day doesn't begin and end 9-6"

Me: understands I do not want said job

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Anonymous wrote:What did you do last weekend? Tell me about your vacation. What did you do on your day off? What's your kids/husband/boyfriend/girlfriend's name? Where do you live? etc.


Any prying questions about family or how you spent your personal time are manipulative imo because they're meant to create a fake sense of camaraderie. That goes double if it's coming from a higher up.

Wow. I'm not in favor of pushing boundaries and asking personal questions, but "how was your weekend?" And "where do you live?" are super common workplace conversations.

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Anonymous wrote:What did you do last weekend? Tell me about your vacation. What did you do on your day off? What's your kids/husband/boyfriend/girlfriend's name? Where do you live? etc.


Any prying questions about family or how you spent your personal time are manipulative imo because they're meant to create a fake sense of camaraderie. That goes double if it's coming from a higher up.

This is so strange. You sound paranoid and anti-social. If you think a co-worker or boss asking what your spouses name is is manipulative, you've got serious issues my friend. Please seek some counseling

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Anonymous wrote:Heroes Work Here
Not All Heroes Wear a Cape
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I've worked in six different DMV hospitals since Covid hit the scene in 2020.

Here's a PSA to the general public: if you see a sign out front that says "Heroes Work Here," this means the hospital you've chosen is understaffed

This most definitely means they pay their core (not travel) employees as little as they can get away with and still maintain hospital accreditation .

Your negative experience with that healthcare system -- even the prestige ones -- is a direct result of wage shenanigans that creates understaffing. Proceed with your eyes open

+100. Please drop the Heros Work Here Schtik......

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Anonymous wrote:What did you do last weekend? Tell me about your vacation. What did you do on your day off? What's your kids/husband/boyfriend/girlfriend's name? Where do you live? etc.


Any prying questions about family or how you spent your personal time are manipulative imo because they're meant to create a fake sense of camaraderie. That goes double if it's coming from a higher up.

This is a weird, unhealthy way to think.

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It’s getting to the point where you can’t even ask someone how they are without someone assigning some ulterior motive or negativity to the comment. Ridiculous.

Right, it says more about the person who’s neurotic over it than anything else. Like, if you insist that anyone making small talk is trying to sabotage you, it makes me think you’re the one willing to use other people’s personal details against them if given the opportunity. Most people do not think that way.

Also, let’s be honest, people who are super distant at work are less likely to be thought of positively and less likely to be given opportunities. You don’t need to overshare, but being standoffish and cagey won’t win you any favors.

I’m a manager, and I would love to not know or ask anyone anything about themselves. But then you are cold and uncaring. I try to touch lightly on things, but honestly, as a manager you realize at a certain point it doesn’t matter what you do—someone will be pissed off.